How do you turn it off?

[matius]

Santos thread got me thinking:

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=34638

Once you've had a tad amount of success with a HB, how do you turn off all the AFC thoughts? For example, how do you not think about what you said, what you did, what you're going to do. Maybe what you think of the possibilities.

What are some ways that make you worry less?

I'm thinking if I have a few prospects maybe just to get buried in my work, school or music. Just focus on those thinks...worry about problems, situations or advances as they come to light- a realistic way of thought rather than imaginary which I think is an AFC problem.

Know what I mean? What are some things you try and do to not sweat it...I know some people struggle with that one-itus shyte. So if you've figured out a way to really just not care...how about a tid bit.

 

[iqqi]

matius, what do you have to offer? are you a good person? are you the f4cking bomb diggity?

it's all about confidence. if you know you are the best thing to happen to her, then you will only feel sorry that she is in a confused state right now, and be able to wish her well. maybe one day she will be lucky enough to have another chance with you.

great guys are rare imo, so if you know you are one of them, then it is truly her loss. wish her well, and move on.

 

[matius]

great guys are rare imo, so if you know you are one of them, then it is truly her loss. wish her well, and move on.

That's a killer attitude. I dig the confidence tip much.

I guess I've just been kicked around enough by other people and myself... When not given the opportunity to hook up, coupled with no sex, I let it invade my mental.

- That's not for nothing. I'm sure some people must feel that way.

 

[Santos]

It's hard to eliminate AFC thoughts. Up until about June I was very depressed after being rejected by some chick in Feburary (OMG! AFC! ). I had serious psychological issues. It's scary. I was failing everything, feeling suicidal,etc. I'm glad to say I've recovered thanks to this site and to my own INNER thinking. I have realised my mistakes and corrected my AFC mind.

So this semister I dropped a course I was failing badly and took up two new ones. I have a fresh start. I've found that by increasing the amount of time I'm at university and by spending time in the library studying after lectures I've decreased the amount of time I think about women. I also make sure I go to gym and hang out with firneds. I can forget about a oneitis because I'm so wrapped up in my work. Too BUSY to think about her.

It DEFINITELY helps if you know you've got a few women lined up. Everytime Chantal (last one-itis) screwed me around, I just called up some other girl. Even if it was just to talk crap with her. I would feel better instantly.

I realised there are other options. The BIGGEST cause of AFC thoughts is DESPERATION. If you're desperate to get laid and you don't have any prospects other than you're ONEITIS. Then you become very AFC.

I think because I've also been hurt badly TWICE in one year, it's given me that "I don't give a ****!" attitude. I have realised that I've been taking dating FAAAR too seriously. Just have fun.

Experience is the best way to eliminate AFC feelings. Get hurt enough times and your mind will soon toughen up.

 

[matius]

I realised there are other options. The BIGGEST cause of AFC thoughts is DESPERATION. If you're desperate to get laid and you don't have any prospects other than you're ONEITIS. Then you become very AFC.

That's true, I also agree with a comment from a different post that says there is a huge difference between the guy who is motivated to get laid based on a fragile ego, and the one who is guided by his own natural urge (horniness) to get laid and make relationships.

I thought that made sense here.