A couple weeks ago, I was talking to 3 different girls that had decent IL in me. One I actually lost interest in, but the other 2 just straight up stopped calling/contacting me completely. I'm not even sure why. I suppose I did act slightly nervous/afc on both dates (even though they were very casual), but I've talked to them both since then about making plans to hook up again. So, I'm completely baffled.
Before this, I dated 2 other girls a couple months ago and fully scared them off, but it's not as hard to figure out cuz there was akwardness, insecurity, and afc behavior all over the place.
But I have no idea what I did that lead to these 2 losing interest whatsoever.
One I went to lunch with last week and we talked about meeting up on the night of the 4th, so we exchanged numbers. We were both at different gatherings, and I called her to see what was up, basically we both were going to stay where we were for a while but agreed to call if/when we were going to leave. I left a voicemail later that night saying we should meet up. She never called back. This was over a week ago.
The 1st date with the other girl perhaps could have gone better, but it wasn't that bad. And we've talked a bunch since then. We were supposed to go out last week, but her 'boss' took her 'group' out to see a concert so she had to cancel. Then she was out of town for the weekend, but did make an effort to reschedule. This week, we were going to go out monday but I actually rescheduled for tuesday. Tuesday came around, but it got a little late and SHE called ME and left a voicemail to reschedule, saying something like 'I don't have plans thursday, so let's do it then. (wednesday she was going to another concert with her work people) I emailed her and said sounds good. Thursday comes around and she emails me saying she's sooo hungover from the concert and doesn't see going out in her horizons for that night, cuz she has a friend coming in town this weekend and wants to be fresh. So, at this point I didn't get mad or anything and I replied back like 'no big deal, I actually got invited by some friends to go out tonight anyway' (which I did). But then asked her what they were doing for the weekend, told her about something that was going on and then also said 'how does monday sound?'
No reply back whatsoever. That's just common courtesy. Before we would email eachother like 3 a day. Bottom line our first date was the last week of June and she's broke every date we've had planned since. She's probably getting ****ed in the ass by some *******.
I might maaaaaybe guess I maaaybe came on too strong by 'replying to her emails pretty much every time' but it could have been perceived that I was pissed off if I did not reply to the most recent one. Damned if I do, damned if I don't.
Anyway, I'm looking at quite a devastating 0 for 4 with girls who had IL but then I went out with them and they flaked on me in the last 5 months.
I haven't sunk into quite the same crippling depression as I did with the first two, but how does one not get discouraged by this?
I've read a wealth of great information on here in the last 4-5 months, but it hasn't exactly sunk in and changed my life. How does one do that? By reading the stuff over and over and over again?
I know the answer is to get back out there and get crackin, cultivate more love of self, be a man, confidence, kino, but **** man, I can't help but become completely discouraged as a result of this. My confidence level has dropped significantly.
Sure, I can get the interest of a girl, but get me on a date with her and I will scare her away.
Before this, I dated 2 other girls a couple months ago and fully scared them off, but it's not as hard to figure out cuz there was akwardness, insecurity, and afc behavior all over the place.
But I have no idea what I did that lead to these 2 losing interest whatsoever.
One I went to lunch with last week and we talked about meeting up on the night of the 4th, so we exchanged numbers. We were both at different gatherings, and I called her to see what was up, basically we both were going to stay where we were for a while but agreed to call if/when we were going to leave. I left a voicemail later that night saying we should meet up. She never called back. This was over a week ago.
The 1st date with the other girl perhaps could have gone better, but it wasn't that bad. And we've talked a bunch since then. We were supposed to go out last week, but her 'boss' took her 'group' out to see a concert so she had to cancel. Then she was out of town for the weekend, but did make an effort to reschedule. This week, we were going to go out monday but I actually rescheduled for tuesday. Tuesday came around, but it got a little late and SHE called ME and left a voicemail to reschedule, saying something like 'I don't have plans thursday, so let's do it then. (wednesday she was going to another concert with her work people) I emailed her and said sounds good. Thursday comes around and she emails me saying she's sooo hungover from the concert and doesn't see going out in her horizons for that night, cuz she has a friend coming in town this weekend and wants to be fresh. So, at this point I didn't get mad or anything and I replied back like 'no big deal, I actually got invited by some friends to go out tonight anyway' (which I did). But then asked her what they were doing for the weekend, told her about something that was going on and then also said 'how does monday sound?'
No reply back whatsoever. That's just common courtesy. Before we would email eachother like 3 a day. Bottom line our first date was the last week of June and she's broke every date we've had planned since. She's probably getting ****ed in the ass by some *******.
I might maaaaaybe guess I maaaybe came on too strong by 'replying to her emails pretty much every time' but it could have been perceived that I was pissed off if I did not reply to the most recent one. Damned if I do, damned if I don't.
Anyway, I'm looking at quite a devastating 0 for 4 with girls who had IL but then I went out with them and they flaked on me in the last 5 months.
I haven't sunk into quite the same crippling depression as I did with the first two, but how does one not get discouraged by this?
I've read a wealth of great information on here in the last 4-5 months, but it hasn't exactly sunk in and changed my life. How does one do that? By reading the stuff over and over and over again?
I know the answer is to get back out there and get crackin, cultivate more love of self, be a man, confidence, kino, but **** man, I can't help but become completely discouraged as a result of this. My confidence level has dropped significantly.
Sure, I can get the interest of a girl, but get me on a date with her and I will scare her away.
