How do you know when your ready to marry yourb girlfriend?

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I made this topic after reading another one. I was in a ltr for a few years but was dreaming of ways to get out of it. So I could be single again. I broke up with her. Dated around and realize the grass isnt greener on the other side. I think to myself how screwed up life is, to where I didnt realize what I had till it was gone. Nonetheless I've learned some very quality lessons. My question is to you guys that have been married or are engaged did you ever have serious doubts while dating your girlfriend? I felt in my ltr that I had to get married or breakup and if we were to get married it woukdve been "just because there is nothing left to do" is this the typical ideology when you get married? " this girl looks good,sex is okay,and she's loyal..I guess we'll get married?"
 

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I think a lot of marriages fail for that reason. ie: "Well, we've been together five years, I'd better marry her."
Never been married or engaged but if I do, it won't be out of a feeling of obligation.
 

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Ya I'd really like to see.some wisdom and experience posted in this thread. I think alota people get married because there is nothing left to do. But maybe that's how it's supposed to be? Since now adays everyone moves in with one another which already simulated marriage. So it's not this big jump or change in life style?
 

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gimmeyofonenumba said:
I made this topic after reading another one. I was in a ltr for a few years but was dreaming of ways to get out of it. So I could be single again. I broke up with her. Dated around and realize the grass isnt greener on the other side. I think to myself how screwed up life is, to where I didnt realize what I had till it was gone. Nonetheless I've learned some very quality lessons. My question is to you guys that have been married or are engaged did you ever have serious doubts while dating your girlfriend? I felt in my ltr that I had to get married or breakup and if we were to get married it woukdve been "just because there is nothing left to do" is this the typical ideology when you get married? " this girl looks good,sex is okay,and she's loyal..I guess we'll get married?"
I was with my ex for 5 years and honestly, i did have some "doubts" around the 4th year even though i loved her more than anything, its that feeling im sure everyone gets at one point or another, The feel for that excitement again, the feel of being single and talk to whatever girl you want or wanting to be "free" but many times its an illusion, assuming you and your girlfriend are getting along and still love each other. There were definitely times i wanted out but a temporary out, you know, have your cake and eat it too. I wanted to marry her for sure but then she left me to go party and felt she wanted to be free. if your going to marry someone, you have to want to be with her, meaning looking past her looks and down sides, except for cheating of course and being a b*tch but you get what im saying. the WRONG thing to do in my opinion is "lets get married" just because you been with them for a while, down the line your going to face divorce.
 

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There should be a reason to be "married" (common law or legally).
You shouldn't get married because there is no reason not to.

If two people want to build and maintain a life together, then they might decide to get "married". This is ideal.
With marriage comes significant opportunity, yet ultimate vulnerability. The rational must be smart and mutual. You also must choose wisely.

I married a 9.5 and was with her for 15 years. It wasn't because I wanted to build a life with her, but rather because I never wanted to let go of the artificial boost to my self image. Not a good reason!
I'm divorced now, and am still kicking myself for wasting so much time (and money).

Don't consider it unless you both want to build and maintain a life together.

SH
 

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I think i know what op is saying and even though everyone really has answered the question, I dont think they are REALLY understanding what hes saying, or maybe Im reading a different way.

But I feel im in the same boat as OP. Ive been with a girl for a while, and shes everything I could want, but just something is missing. I cant quite put my finger on it.. Maybe things are too normal which is the problem. So society and family has it set where the next step is marriage.

"why" some may ask, well the reason for me, just like some others is FAMILY. I want to have kids, IN wedlock (for obvious reasons), and live that mundane life. However, how does one know this is the girl? I cant imagine one vagina, but yet not the cheating type. So, some of you that are married; were you in the same position and now happy? Does everyone have their doubts.
 

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it's one of those things you will just know. I am sure rollo, 5string, slickster will tell you the exact same thing. there is no set time. Lyndon Johnson proposed to lady bird the NIGHT he met her and they were always very happily married. It took me about 2 and a half years of dating.

you just know when you are ready tot ake that step.


with that said...see, here is the problem. the 800 pound girllia if you will. the only way I and others here knew, is that we had a lOT of experience with the opposite sex, things to judge against. by the time i proposed there was NO doubt in my mind what i wanted long term. I knew and was happy with the decision, probably happier than she was honestly. Not only did I find the right person I screened her correctly and was with her long enough to know what to expect, to know her good enough and what not.

what i am getting at is... i don't think it's possible for you to know, seriously know unless you have sown your oats so to speak. If you have dated all of 2 girls in the last 8 years a good home cooked meal and a blow job will probably shoot you over the moon. anything is going to make you think that she is the one if you have not been with enough women to know what to expect from them.

I think that's one of the main reasons there is so much divorce in the country. yes, women.. most of them need to grow up. but there are too many marriages in first place. too many men marrying women who have no business g etting married, but the guys don't know any better.

But I feel im in the same boat as OP. Ive been with a girl for a while, and shes everything I could want, but just something is missing. I cant quite put my finger on it.. Maybe things are too normal which is the problem. So society and family has it set where the next step is marriage.

"why" some may ask, well the reason for me, just like some others is FAMILY. I want to have kids, IN wedlock (for obvious reasons), and live that mundane life. However, how does one know this is the girl? I cant imagine one vagina, but yet not the cheating type. So, some of you that are married; were you in the same position and now happy? Does everyone have their doubts.
this sounds like my old LTR amber. she was very hot and very intoe and we dated for about a year and some months. she was older than me, 27 but still, ass licking hot. she wanted me to propose. and i liked her. my mom thought she would be good for me. my dad thought she would be good for me (and him because he triied to sleep with her)... and on the outside, she looked like she would be okay. but at the end of the day it just wasn't right. i thought i could do better and that she was not the one i wanted to spend the rest of my life with. plus i was out on the pressure so i cut her lose.

at the end of the day you have to do what makes yOU happy. if it doesn't feel right don't do it. way too expensive a decision.
 

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my guess would be you've been with her for two years minimum, seen all her emotional moods and seen her at her worst and best. Then when she asks you to marry her your immediate reaction without a thought is yes.
 

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I think the best time to marry your girlfriend is when she starts speaking English in complete sentences.
 

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Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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DMSR76 said:

It's true. I married mine after she started speaking good English. I get my d!ck sucked every night, she never talks back, and I have a hot dinner waiting every day.
 
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