How do you game girls that are with guy friends? + new circle

[Maxtro]

Last night I went Salsa dancing with a mixed group of girls and guys. A couple of girls came with their boyfriends so I didn't bother with them. Another girl "K" came with a guy and after watching them interact for a minute I knew they weren't a couple. There was another girl "R" came with friends.

In total there were 4 single girls and 5 single guys including myself. It was my first time hanging out with that group so I was kind of an outsider while they all knew each other. I did do my best to interact. I made sure to talk to everybody both guys and girls.

I'm somewhat interested in K and R. Both girls are in my Social Dance class. Of the 5 single guys one of them, J is also in my social dance class. Even though I don't think any of the girls like him it seems that they prefer his attention over mine, he may simply have known the girls longer than I, so they feel more comfortable with him.

Last night I danced with every girl in the group including some random women from the club. Though I made it a point to spend extra time talking to and dancing with both K and R. Most of the time K was with her guy friend when she wasn't dancing with other people. This wasn't her circle and she didn't interact that much with the other people. On the other hand this was R's circle and she knew every guy. She always had somebody to talk to and dance with. I would have liked to spent more time with her but it was difficult competing with 3 other guys who know her better than I do.

So here I am, two girls I could go for both in the same class. I have to "compete" for their attention from the dude J who seems to have the upper hand at this point. It's hard enough for me to get a girls interest and to do it when there is another guy present is more difficult. Even if he has been friendzoned he is still an obstacle.

What is the best way to handle the situation?

 

[Maxtro]

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[The Bat]

I think you should have talked to them in the beginning, make some small talk, etc. Then go dance with other women in the club and have a blast with those women.

When R and K would see you dancing with other women, having a blast, and being a fun guy, they would wonder, "Wow, Maxtro is actually pretty fun guy...and he isn't afraid to meet new people and have a good time with them....unlike this J loser who just hangs around us all the time....god I wish he would leave me alone for a second."

R and K would eventually come up to you and try and dance with you and steal your attention.

Keep this in mind next time you go out with this group. Plus they are in your class, so you have a chance to talk to them there too, right?

Your best bet to "game" these girls from here on out is go dancing with them at clubs and see what happens.

Look up Jitterbug on here. He is like a master when it comes to group social-dancing game.

 

[Maxtro]

I think you should have talked to them in the beginning, make some small talk, etc. Then go dance with other women in the club and have a blast with those women.

When R and K would see you dancing with other women, having a blast, and being a fun guy, they would wonder, "Wow, Maxtro is actually pretty fun guy...and he isn't afraid to meet new people and have a good time with them....unlike this J loser who just hangs around us all the time....god I wish he would leave me alone for a second."

That's why I made sure to dance with other women in the club. I was dancing about every other song. Frankly I was exhausted, I was sore from my noon workout and before we met up I had walked on the beach for 30 minutes.

I did make small talk with R and K. I made it a point to talk to everybody there. I even spent some time getting to know the guy that K brought with her. I wonder what she thought when she saw me talking to him if she thought anything at all about it. It was the first time that I ever met the dude.

R and K would eventually come up to you and try and dance with you and steal your attention.

I highly doubt that would ever happen. There were simply too many men in the club for them to want to pursue me. If I didn't try to dance with them, it would have never happened.

Keep this in mind next time you go out with this group. Plus they are in your class, so you have a chance to talk to them there too, right?

Your best bet to "game" these girls from here on out is go dancing with them at clubs and see what happens.

I don't know if we will go dancing again or not. I wouldn't be against it but it just might not happen again. Unless there is another event or something that I am invited to I will most likely only see them in class.

Yes I can talk to them in class, usually in the beginning and sometimes when we are dancing but that is difficult. The problem with talking during the beginning of the class is that they are usually talking in their group and J is hanging around.

I don't want to be an outsider but I don't want to be friendzoned either. It's a very delicate balance.

Right now the friendzone is my greatest fear. I'm absolutely terrified of it. I already have K's number and I can try to hang out with her in the near future. I can very easily get R's and do the same. But once again I'm scared of the friendzone. I'm purposely keeping my distance, sigh.

I should probably try flirting with the girls more but it's an odd situation when they are with their friends. I'm also going to be flirting with two girls at the same time.

Look up Jitterbug on here. He is like a master when it comes to group social-dancing game.

Thanks I'll see what I can find.