How do you deal with anger/biterness towards a particular girl

[JdelaSilviera]

There´s this girl that used to love me, but she is the kind that is too much aloof, and the type that can´t be tamed, so I told her to fvck of. Still, I get furious at the thought that this girl is jumping from date to date, getting all the guys she wants, because she is really too cute. She does what she wants, cause 100% of the guys fall in love with her in 1 second.

But my anger is not just with this girl, yesterday when I went out to buy dinner, I saw 2 girls with cute faces, but overweight, being approached by some good looking/ripped guys. You should see the "i´m annoyed look" from those b*tches, they were standing their fat asses, and playing with their phones (probably playing multiple guys)... they seemed really boring, I bet they were dumb as hell, but, in spite of that they are still chased like queens.

So how do you deal with anger toward a particular girl/ bitterness towards the power that women have in dating at the moment.

And how do you think, men (as a group) should start behaving in order to turn this around.

 

[backbreaker]

the best revenge is living well.

understand that the person in question, is doing the best they can at the time with what they have. They are making the best decisions they can possibly make. Just because the decision is not in your best interest doesn't mean it's not the right decision for them.


I am also a firm believer that everything in my life that has happened, had to happen. Everything, the good and the bad, for me to be the person i am today. Nothing teaches better/more efficiently than pain. Sometimes lessons hurt, but you still have to learn them. So in a way I am somewhat thankful. I had a girl, thegirl that brought me here, stand me up countless times, once on my birthday, called me while d runk one night while getting railed when she was suppose to be going out with me, letting me hear the dude pound her.. i had never felt so bad in my life. I had a girl i dated not long before i found this site, for 8 months mind you, lose her virignity at a party, then turn around and blame it on me for not being "thuggish enough. But look at me now. I'm not only not mad at her in the least bit, i'm thankful. If I wasn't treated so harshly I would have not developed into the person I am today. I would have still been a naive AFC..

I've had some women do some pretty ****ty things to me in the past, i don't hold it against them even to this day. I look at what i did wrong, and there is always something you could have done better regardless, and i make sure i don't make the same mistake. I don't go out of my way to prove to them anything i just move on.

That is the best revenge, growing up and moving on.

 

[Rikudo]

yup let the past behind thats the best thing men can do in this situations !!

 

[Ben7]

So how do you deal with anger toward a particular girl/ bitterness towards the power that women have in dating at the moment.

You don't think about it

 

[Willis]

yea, i used get really angry when i thought about the power women have in todays dating pool. my bitterness causes me to come off as cold and mysogynistic because i know that in reality i have no value and im jus the next guy trying to get with a chick...

but anger and bitterness doesnt help. we have to learn to accept the things we cant change.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

I used to get like this, but after a while I just stopped giving a fvck. Know why? Because I'm not a leech that thrives on others in order to feel good about myself (Like most women that "play" multiple men).

There is a girl who I've known for almost 8 years now. We were friends for most of that time until we hooked up for the first time last summer. She seemed really into me, but then she hooked up with one of my best friends. After this, I just cut contact with her for about a month.. If she was hanging out with our mutual friends, I'd say hi but wouldn't pay attention to her for most of the time.

Now this girl's pretty much in love with me because I don't really give a sh1t about her sexually. I will joke around, say sexual sh1t, even continue to hook up with her, but I never go out of my way to do so. I see her order dudes around all the time, but she treats me like a fvcking king when I'm with her haha..

But fvck her, I said to her "You hooked up with my best friend, I hope you know there's no way I'm ever gonna date you.. So don't think anything's gonna happen" yet she still tries to get with me.

Know why? Because everyone wants what they cannot have.

 

[Ajbobtom]

the best revenge is living well.

understand that the person in question, is doing the best they can at the time with what they have. They are making the best decisions they can possibly make. Just because the decision is not in your best interest doesn't mean it's not the right decision for them.

That is the best revenge, growing up and moving on.

I really like what backbreaker has said here. The first paragraph, is more a humanistic approach. Which is what I like to believe in my self.
The second is something that I have been taught by my mentor.

Let us put it this way to you. People do horrible things to each other. Why? There are several reasons. Lets pick the 'power' issue. Women like to have power over men, men over women, men over men, and women over women. So what do we do if we want power, or how do we feel in power over another? We make them suffer. We want to see them break down or stress over something WE did.
So how do we counter this? The best way, by far. Which is what many have said in this thread is: Move on. Not only move on, just act like it never happened. Never let them know you are angry. This will drive them insane. Think about what they may be thinking? 'Why the fvck is this guy smiling after I did this [said event] to him?' They will be confused, for a while.

Now we all know that a fair bit of women (if not all, not sure if it is all) tell their friends everything. So they are going to explain yours and hers situation to them. They may confirm her, but she will be looking for an answer as to why you are still smiling and on your feet. What might they tell them? 'Maybe he has found a better girl?' 'Maybe he never wanted you?'

That my friend, is how you get revenge, while doing almost nothing at all. It may be hard to feel at the top of the world sometimes, but you can do it!
Good luck to you my friend.