How do you bring a shy girl out of her shell?

Ice_Berg_1

Don Juan
Joined
May 13, 2004
Messages
42
Reaction score
0
Age
45
Location
Canada
There is this FINE blond HB9 that I go to school with. I made the initial approach and got her name and made small talk with her.
I didn't go in for the number close beacause we have classes on the same nights, and I figured there will be other oportunities we're not actually in the same class but we cross paths on almost a daily basis. Whenever I get the opportunity I try to talk to her, but she makes it difficult. Alot of the time she is always tagging along with a girlfriend, and when I do get her by herself she acts very shy, avoiding eye-contact, blushing, and giving simple answers that makes it difficult to carry on the coversation. I'm not an expert at reading body language, but from what I gather, she doesn't seem to be not interested. As well, I have never seen her interact with anybody else, because I'm the only guy who has had the balls to even approach her. I don't know if she acts this way with other people. I've got about a month left in school and I'd like for this girl to be one of my summer bunnies, so any advice would be he appreciated.
 

Leporello

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 18, 2003
Messages
958
Reaction score
13
Location
DC
Maybe she doesn't want to talk to you?

But if she really is just shy, you should do what you can to make her comfortable; don't put her on the spot, don't stare at her, don't lean in too close. If possible, try and get her to a place where she can relax. Maybe a coffee shop, I dunno.
 

wind20mph

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 8, 2005
Messages
188
Reaction score
0
Age
48
You are good one there. HB9 is not a shy girl. mostly the type where they are approached all the time. She doesn't want to talk to you so stop wht you are doing.

Act Coky and funny everytime you talk to her. End conversations immediately (As if you are not interested), show very friendly charm to her friends or to other for her to notice (Don't intend to make her jealous though), and go for the kill by flirting like hell.

Remember its a HB9 you are interested in.

Good Luck

Wind20mph
 

So Many Ways

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 19, 2004
Messages
791
Reaction score
2
Location
www.blackmenvent.com
If I were in your situation, I would invite her to coffee, lunch or some other casual type of event. If she says yes, she's interested, if she says no, she's not interested.

Simple.

Also, quit thinking of her as an HB9. She's a female, pure and simple. I don't know why some of yall come up with these bizarre designations. Thinking of her as an "HB9" makes you subconciously put her on an undeserved pedestal. Just because she's attractive in your eyes doesn't mean that she isn't just shy. It doesn't mean that she doesn't also think you are attractive. Assume the best, assume she's interested and if she's not, oh well, no biggie.
 

belividere

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 6, 2005
Messages
956
Reaction score
5
Age
45
agree with so many ways here.

First off who cares what you think she may act like around other guys. That doesn't matter its irrelevant.

Props for opening, thats more than most would. But, were you take it is what really matters. I wouldn't wait to long to number close and get her out.

When I started college I was all about opening and not all about closing. I wound up with a lot of friends that way.
:rolleyes:

I started to employ a limited time frame for myself to go in, get a number and try to get a girl out. If you chat with a girl for over 3 weeks and haven't gotten at least a number your killing your chances. Like wind said, she is good looking and likely gets hit on a lot. Dont waste your window. When you make your attraction known as quickly as possible the worst you can do is get rejected. The fact that you tried will bring your odds up from zero.

I bet if you step up and close next time you see her things will go in your favor. If not than you can walk away with that much more experience and one less girl to waste it on.:D

Good luck
 

escobar04

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 4, 2005
Messages
235
Reaction score
4
Age
37
Location
Sac
I dated the shyest girl in the world over the summer

she was a 9 IMO and she's a model

supposedly she had a crush on me for like a year Senior year in High School

so I start dating her but just couldn't take it

she doesn't say anything at all

nothing

the only thing she'd say is that she's really shy

I said Fvck this and moved on in life 2 weeks later
 

Climax

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 2, 2004
Messages
2,329
Reaction score
5
Originally posted by So Many Ways
If I were in your situation, I would invite her to coffee, lunch or some other casual type of event. If she says yes, she's interested, if she says no, she's not interested.

Simple.

Also, quit thinking of her as an HB9. She's a female, pure and simple. I don't know why some of yall come up with these bizarre designations. Thinking of her as an "HB9" makes you subconciously put her on an undeserved pedestal. Just because she's attractive in your eyes doesn't mean that she isn't just shy. It doesn't mean that she doesn't also think you are attractive. Assume the best, assume she's interested and if she's not, oh well, no biggie.
 
Top