how do u stay in the game after weight gain?

[_sideways_]

I mean...I look avg. But I know shirtless I'm not toned at all unless I flex. I need to lose 10 lbs of fat.
I'm going out but sometimes I hold back cuz I'm not toned.
Any mental advice. I'm working out so I guess just keep it up.

 

[Reykhel]

I mean...I look avg. But I know shirtless I'm not toned at all unless I flex. I need to lose 10 lbs of fat.
I'm going out but sometimes I hold back cuz I'm not toned.
Any mental advice. I'm working out so I guess just keep it up.

Your core confidence seems to be weak.

I mean how many women are out there and they're not in the best shape of their lives.

You cannot put everything into the way you look. You should always maximize your looks but at the end of the day if your inner core mentality is missing, what are you?

If this is your issue......I think you should purposefully game in this condition to override your complex.

Last summer I did my back in and I couldn't exercise. I remember one night where I was limping and I was just like "fvck it I'm going out" and I scored! with a limp! initially I was like.....no way man....then I was thinking.....fvck this I'm just dying to go out and have a laugh........I scored just as a consequence......

Game when you feel weak and you'll overcome it.

Everything is core confidence

 

[logicallefty]

In 2008 I was at my physical prime. I put on 30lbs or so between 2008-2012 when I was with one of my crazies and it all went to my gut. I was concerned at first when we split. But I am happy to say that I have had no shortage of poon sense then, and I would have to say my best. I was never one of those guys who railed 2-3 new babes a week even in my best days. Sense 2012 I have railed 5 new chicks and then another 2 who were old FWBs from before 2008 when I was thinner. Would I like to loose the weight? Yes of course. But as far as game has gone, you answer your question, my answer is "not an issue".

 

[_sideways_]

True.
I feel lighter just thinking about it not mattering.
Realistically though, full confidence and fat belly would yield less hits.

 

[Infern0]

Any reason you can't get in the gym and lose weight?

Yeah you can still game women being fat, weak and unfit

Doesn't mean you should though.

Get in the gym

 

[Reykhel]

The real issue is not been addressed......

What the fvck is wrong with your inner game that you need to rely
so fvcking much on your fvcking body.......

....are you getting that part yet???

If I gave you an around the world ticket to travel the world all expenses paid
but there was one catch......you had to game one girl every second day.....

could you do it????

 

[Infern0]

The real issue is not been addressed......

What the fvck is wrong with your inner game that you need to rely
so fvcking much on your fvcking body.......

....are you getting that part yet???

If I gave you an around the world ticket to travel the world all expenses paid
but there was one catch......you had to game one girl every second day.....

could you do it????

Well my guess is something happened that spawned the weight gain.

When you are centered and framed you tend to respect your body.

Blowing out is a sign you lost that, at least imo

 

[Reykhel]

Well my guess is something happened that spawned the weight gain.

When you are centered and framed you tend to respect your body.

Blowing out is a sign you lost that, at least imo

Yeah, you're probably right. But how does that help fatso??

I'm nearly forty and probably in better shape than most of you

 

[_sideways_]

I am hitting the weights and cardio. I fell off for 3 weeks cuz i got injured at work. I'm probably being too harsh on myself. I'm not obese, I am strong, just got one flat tire that I can hide under clothes, im not beach body, you see.
If I had a ticket to game around the globe 24/7 I would go. No kidding. I get that once one makes up his mind that his looks don't matter, then its not an issue for said person to go balls out cuz its just life and ur making the best of a less than optimal situation. If you ever had a decent body and you let yourself go you would understand that sex could be better, going to the pool is better, life in general is better. And you would want ur mate to enjoy that feeling as well.
Similar to how you want ur partner to be in great mental health and so should you. In finances as well and other aspects of life.

In the mean time, I'm going through the transition of knowing I was better physically and its like a hiccup in my game. I know it will pass, but like I said, how do you guys continue being DJs with your losses?
One way I heard was that the guy just makes himself believe it's not an issue to him so fvck it. By the law of state transference it won't be an issue to the girl.

Any other coping mechanisms I can use before I get my body where it was and then be a real mofo on the outside as well ?

 

[Reykhel]

You're a loser son. If you haven't got the game in your head.............your a loser

 

[_sideways_]

Dude...we all have our ups and downs.
You are saying im a loser cuz I gained weight?
You're a loser cuz you're calling dudes losers on a self help forum

 

[LiveYourDream]

OP, women do not operate like men. Their attraction is not as intensely visually oriented as mens' is. An extra 10 pounds is not the first thing she notices, if she even notices. Besides she's likely never met you when you weighed less. Be assured, a woman would not pass up a good man or hot sex because a man happens to be carrying an extra 10 pounds.

How a man makes a woman feel is what cinches the deal for her, or not. How he makes her feel, starts with how he feels about himself. If you feel inadequate or insecure because of 10 pounds, then you'll project that. If you are a man who accepts we all have some ups and downs and are comfortable with yourself through both, you'll radiate that self acceptance. Add in self confidence, strength, fun, and centeredness and pvssies get wet fast.

Your self judgement is just that--yours, not hers. Drop it. Go have fun. Feel free. Enjoy yourself. You are great just how you are! Sure, in a month you'll feel even better. Don't wait till then to have fun with women! Enjoy yourself now! Women are looking for good men now! Enjoy them.

 

[ChrisFloyd]

Dude...we all have our ups and downs.
You are saying im a loser cuz I gained weight?
You're a loser cuz you're calling dudes losers on a self help forum

Stop whining and get in shape, loser.

 

[marmel75]

Stop being accepting of being out of shape and fat?

No right to complain if you aren't trying to maximize your own value to others.

 

[Reykhel]

Dude...we all have our ups and downs.
You are saying im a loser cuz I gained weight?
You're a loser cuz you're calling dudes losers on a self help forum

Just trying to motivate you

Seeing by your reaction if you still have fire in the belly

Sometimes we need to hit rock bottom before we can rise again...

Maybe I'm watching too many Kitchen Nightmares....

 

[Reykhel]

Look at this fat fvcker and you will realize that the game is mostly mindset....

If you listen to his seminar and hear the stories.......he's not full of ****e...........he actually just not give a
fsck and goes for what he wants.....

he says he has two simple "rules"

1. I am the most important person in the relationship
2. I don't care what she thinks

David X

by the way, an important thing he says is......."we are going to listen to your problems....but often you'll find that
what you think is the problem is often not the problem"

 

[Infern0]

Dude...we all have our ups and downs.
You are saying im a loser cuz I gained weight?
You're a loser cuz you're calling dudes losers on a self help forum

Get in the gym, fatso

 

[_sideways_]

Bros...its not even about motivating me or helping me out.
I burned 3000 calories today ....for fun...got numbers, got free **** from life.
I met people who gave me free stuff. Chicks like me with my weight gain. I'm not doubting that. I'm not a slob. I just know that life kicks more azz when I'm even more fit.

What I am asking is how do you guys cope with still trying to maintain your DJ status when you know you fell off... Being body wise, money wise, etc...
How do you keep it when you know youre lacking?
Again, telling itself ur DA shyt works...but the mirror disagrees. Cuz let's face it. Some girl will say she doesn't care about the extra weight until your better self shows up and you really own the game.

 

[yungballa]

its all in your head.

you can choose to listen to your negative thoughts about yourself, or your positive thoughts about yourself. either way, you're right. it's your reality, and whatever you think is your perception and will be reinforced into your brain.

if you think you're a scumbag, then you're a scumbag. if you think you're a stud, then you're a stud. your mind is everything. who cares about what the outside world thinks. are you willing to let someone else besides yourself define YOU; the very essence of yourself?

 

[ChrisFloyd]

Bros...its not even about motivating me or helping me out.
I burned 3000 calories today ....for fun...got numbers, got free **** from life.
I met people who gave me free stuff. Chicks like me with my weight gain. I'm not doubting that. I'm not a slob. I just know that life kicks more azz when I'm even more fit.

What I am asking is how do you guys cope with still trying to maintain your DJ status when you know you fell off... Being body wise, money wise, etc...
How do you keep it when you know youre lacking?
Again, telling itself ur DA shyt works...but the mirror disagrees. Cuz let's face it. Some girl will say she doesn't care about the extra weight until your better self shows up and you really own the game.

You're not very bright, mate.

Life is hard enough being stupid, try not to be a fatso at the same time.