How do men in LTR’s cope

[Barrister]

If a man can get multiple pussies, then he's going to feel confined by his LTR. A good portion of men in LTRs would go without sex for an extended period of time without an LTR. These aren't the types of men who feel confined in an LTR. Many men are pussie beggars and will accept any LTR, even with subpar women, just to avoid incel status.

There is some truth to this. However, if the LTR is healthy I have never truly felt "confined" by it. Now, if the sex dries up OR it is just constant hell on wheels 24/7 then yes with frame wars, etc.- it will start to feel confining. But the mere fact I have other pvssy available to me while in an LTR has never made me feel like I am trapped.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

Go fukk, but no love affairs or girlfriends. ONS only son. If your girl is good don't embarrass her.

 

[mbc0029]

Do what you want to do.

It's simple, yet effective.

 

[zekko]

I think you just have to be strong and mature, there are way too many attractive women to ever truly be content just banging one. But I believe we have to forego our carnal instincts of lust. We have to be men of morals and forthright conviction.

Let's put it this way: How many women are going to be enough? No matter how many women you bang, there will always be other ones that you want. So it's a matter of self-discipline, which is important in many areas of your life, including women IMO. It's also a matter of what you value, like @Money & Muscle says, there are rewards to growing together as a couple. I'm sure many here would scoff at that, but I don't see how meaningless sex is any better (not putting down those who choose that for themselves).

 

[soulforge]

If you find an attractive girl with these qualities you won't want to look elsewhere. Good luck finding them though, they're rare.

feminine
submissive
agreeable
kind, supportive, encouraging
willing to make sacrifices and compromises
respects boundaries
doesn't test you and play mind games
comes from a good family with good values
doesn't stay in contact with exes and male friends
doesn't have single hoe friends
low body count

Best go to the Middle East for this one lol

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I 'cope' by having more than one woman. They sort themselves out.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Long but relatable video

Way too long. Could've said that in less than five minutes, but then, his advice is for the average Joe, so it has to be repeated.

 

[Borknagar]

With always wanting new/different women?

Is it just an internal battle of integrity? Can you really find a women that you only have eyes for and ignore the rest of them, forever?

I think you just have to be strong and mature, there are way too many attractive women to ever truly be content just banging one. But I believe we have to forego our carnal instincts of lust. We have to be men of morals and forthright conviction.

Finding a decent women and not having to chase after these dumb sloooots? Sounds great, actually.

 

[RangerMIke]

When you date enough hot girls and realize most are messed up but you get lucky with one that's solid. This was it for me. Do you want to go back and deal with the drama or stick with a solid one. Those solid hot girls are super rare. The goal is to find the hottest girl with the best brain. You need to have perspective to help you realize what you have and help keep you on the straight and narrow path.

You also need to have nothing left to prove to yourself.

True.

Since my divorce I have dated a number of women... they are all damaged at some level. The older you get the less willing you become to put up with BS.

If I am completely honest, if my ex had been loyal and even a little bit pleasant, understanding, and appreciative I would not have gotten divorced. I think this is true for most men. When you get older, getting laid just isn't as important as just having someone you like being around... who is a true partner... and isn't going to embarrass you.

I've said it before and I will say it again. If a woman wants to make a LTR work all she has to do is watch what she eats, get exercise every other day, not nag the fvck out of their man, be pleasant 51% of the time, show just a LITLLE appreciation, be a true partner, and not be a sh1t mom to her children, have a budget and not spend like a drunken sailor, and MOST men will stay.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

If I am completely honest, if my ex had been loyal and even a little bit pleasant, understanding, and appreciative I would not have gotten divorced. I think this is true for most men. When you get older, getting laid just isn't as important as just having someone you like being around... who is a true partner... and isn't going to embarrass you.

Mine dropped me like a hot potato after sixteen years because I became sick. I wouldn't take her back, not even if they paid me. I'm much happier now.

 

[RangerMIke]

Mine dropped me like a hot potato after sixteen years because I became sick. I wouldn't take her back, not even if they paid me. I'm much happier now.

Yeah... mine couldn't keep her legs closed when I was in Afghanistan. But if I am completely honest, the marriage was doomed after my kids were born, and that was just an excuse to get out of a situation because to do otherwise would have doomed my children to being nut cases as well.

She was just a terrible mom, which is something that you cannot predict until you actually have children. That is when ALL her trauma from her childhood comes to the surface. I actually feel sorry for my ex... she honestly cannot help the way she is, she was raised by a crazy @ss b1tch, and was sexually abused by relatives.

I cannot say this enough... the biggest indicator that you will have a problem with a woman is how she was raised. If she is from a difunctional background, unless she has had a LOT of mental health treatment, she is going to be a mess. I convinced myself that she was different from her family... she wasn't. I should have run screaming the first time I met her parents and crazy siblings.

In your case... this is a lot more common than you might think. I know MANY couples who split when the man found himself sick or otherwise incapacitated. Mostly from friends I served with in Army who came back wounded from combat. Our own government re-enforces this since your spouse is ENTITLED to half your military retirement if she is married to you 10 years while in service.... no matter the reason the marriage ended. I only know one friend of mine, who actually lost one of his legs who is still in a strong marriage. Many others who suffer from lingering PTSD...

It is actually an exceptional woman TODAY (mostly because society no longer holds women accountable for this) that will really remain loyal 'til death do you part'. After WWII any woman that left her badly wounded husband returning from war would have been treated with great distain. That no longer happens... the truth of NOW is the human race is devolving to our base nature of how we evolved. In our tribal and clan pre-history, if a woman was with a man that could no longer provide and defend her, she was dead. It is survival instinct. This is why women ALWAYS have back-up plans. It gives her the illusion of having a safety net... if she has some male orbiter giving her attention she feels a lot more comfortable. She might not actually cheat, but these kinds of situations do provide assurance.

It is a function of human sentience.

If as a man you are not meeting her needs (whatever that might be based on her upbringing and values) she is gone without ramifications. There is no societal accountability, because 'society' is online... it's the entire fvcking world! With 3 billion men, she will find many that will give her attention and assurance.

Having said that there isn't a fvcking thing that can be done about this. As a man. looking for a relationship, you have to be very careful what women you let into your life, you have to evaluate everything rationally and not let your emotions run your life. Pick wisely, then BUST YOUR @SS being the very best version of yourself. LOL!!! But even that doesn't guarantee success because the women has to believe she can not do any better than the man she is with.... so ultimately it isn't anything the man can do and there is no control.

The man is on his own... even other men are not allies... they are competition. Given the right set of circumstances one of your friends will bang you chick if given the opportunity.... and if that happens... well you are raising someone else's kid.