how do i respond to this

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this girl i was supposed to go out on a date tonight with all of a sudden cancels at the last minute and texts me saying "Hey i can't go out tonight. I can tomorrow during the day though since you're off"

how should I respond to this? do I just say fine, we can do this tomorrow. or what? I am making this post because I am kinda thinking twice about this and it might be a sh!t test too because I don't want it to seem like I am so available and she needs to be running on my time not hers. but then again I want to hang with her so I don't want to completely be like "No Im busy". Any advice? "Great timing because my friends wanted me to go with them to D&B's tonight. so i'll see you tomorrow" would that be good?
 

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That isn't a bad text. Tomorrow text her and say "I can't go out today, maybe this weekend" (add) you will call in a few days, and don't CALL her for a FEW DAYS!!!
 

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Why does he say he can't go out tommorow if he can? It's not going to help him. He's better off actually doing something with her.
 

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She blew him off. Most likely for another guy who she has a higher interest in. IF he does do this her Interest in him will spike or fade out completely. Either way he wins and doesn't get sucked into her game.

He either spins the plates or becomes her plate.
 

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if she already knows youre free dont lie
rather tell her she's going to have to make it up to you for the short notice / change of plans
 

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in response to her message should I respond to her saying "So what came up? its ok though because my friends have been bugging me all day to go with them to d&bs tonight"

or should I just respond with that? "you will have to make it up to me for the change of plans."
 

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onthepath said:
if she already knows youre free dont lie
rather tell her she's going to have to make it up to you for the short notice / change of plans

She will not make it up. You/he hasn't given her a reason to. You can't control somebody’s interest level by threatening that they will have to make it up to you.

She is looking for a challenge. It would be a suicide to tell her she has to make it up to you. That is begging.

Look at the big picture.

*Girl gets asked out by (lets keep it simple and say) 2 guys on the same night.

*Girl has more interest in guy 2. Tells guy 1 she can't make it. She has a wonderful time with guy 2.

*Guy 1 tells her she has to make up for it.... She thinks no I don't I have somebody else......

OR

*Guy 1 blows her off and no matter what she does with guy 2 she can't stop thinking "why the H3ll did Guy 1 blow me off".....

She leaves guy 2 to solve the mystery....


IF guy1 plays it right than he gets girl and guy 2 is history.
 

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montybrown said:
in response to her message should I respond to her saying "So what came up? its ok though because my friends have been bugging me all day to go with them to d&bs tonight"

or should I just respond with that? "you will have to make it up to me for the change of plans."

Don't ask what came up.

It shows weakness. Just tell her you are going out with friends to D&Bs. End it there or throw in a C'Ya or Ciao....(whatever you want).

Tomorrow ditch her. Make sure it comes across as no big deal.
 

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amazing.. you are right. I want to play her games right. so I will just tell her that I already hav eplans tonight anyway and tomorrow I will just blow her off and say "maybe on the weekend" and when the weekend comes should I call her or just don't call her and wait till she calls me?

"it's ok, my friends have been bugging me all day to go with them to d&b tonight. bye."

Just texted her that. perfect.
 

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Yes call her on the weekend if she don't call you first. Believe me if you ditch her tomorrow and make it seem like it is no big deal. She will not get you off her mind. No girl wants to think they aren’t good enough.

DO call her if she doesn’t call. You don't want to lose her just be a challenge for her.
 

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In response to my text she texted me "K bye"

Seems like she doesn't even care. Oh well, Out of no where tomorrow I will text her that message blowing her off.
 

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Just go out with her. Don't play the grab-@ss game where you sit around and analyze her every move, and then decide you're going to wait x number of days to call her. Just go out and have some fun with her. I doubt she's really blowing you off, or that she has some other date lined up. She might, but I doubt it.

If it doesn't work out with her, remember, she's not the last girl on the face of the Earth. You have PLENTY of options.
 

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zerocelcius said:
That isn't a bad text. Tomorrow text her and say "I can't go out today, maybe this weekend" (add) you will call in a few days, and don't CALL her for a FEW DAYS!!!
This lie isn't justified enough to make it seem believable. Give her a text like that and it'll make you seem like you're doing it for revenge. People catch on quick to these things.

Construct the lie more by saying "Really? That's too bad, I can't go tomorrow because a friend hit me up to see if we could chill. Next time though."

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montybrown said:
"it's ok, my friends have been bugging me all day to go with them to d&b tonight. bye."
Shouldn't have said that. By choosing her over your friends, you're making her the prize in her eyes and it, even if it's a tiny bit, diminishes your value.
 

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Shows low interest on her behalf and a lack of respect....you'd made plans and she cancelled on you...if you had five hot chicks in play what would you do ?

you'd text saying "no worries but busy tomorrow, maybe some other time"

then let her get back to you for another chance...and make her earn it.

At the moment she's taking you for granted.
 

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i woulda called her ass back and started bugging... seriously she canceled wtf that sucks.
 

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im pretty sure that she is dealing with more guys other than me. she even told me herself that she likes attention. ill text her sometime before noon today "hey nicole, I'm busy today... maybe we can chill some other time." and that'll be that. it's either she cancels again or I put my foot in the door and blow her off. she either will just go her own way and just both of us will move on with our lives or she will want to do something with me without cancelling.
 

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montybrown said:
im pretty sure that she is dealing with more guys other than me. she even told me herself that she likes attention. ill text her sometime before noon today "hey nicole, I'm busy today... maybe we can chill some other time." and that'll be that. it's either she cancels again or I put my foot in the door and blow her off. she either will just go her own way and just both of us will move on with our lives or she will want to do something with me without cancelling.
Good approach, but remove the maybe. It's a lot more attractive when you're presenting a decision that's 100% (yes or no) over a 50% one (maybe). Alpha males are most of the time, sure of what they want in life.
 

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montybrown said:
im pretty sure that she is dealing with more guys other than me. she even told me herself that she likes attention. ill text her sometime before noon today "hey nicole, I'm busy today... maybe we can chill some other time." and that'll be that. it's either she cancels again or I put my foot in the door and blow her off. she either will just go her own way and just both of us will move on with our lives or she will want to do something with me without cancelling.
I like "establishing yourself as the prize" or whatever, but every time I've said "lets hang out some other time", some other time never happens. Be more decisive in your approach and make some definite plans. If she flakes on you again, she isn't worth your time.
 

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No that's gay. It won't increase her interest at all. Why don't you actually go out with her and SHOW her a reason to be interested.

Who cares if she blew you off, just go hang with her when she can. THEN mabye after that, she'll stop blowing you off.

Trying to be a challenge now, won't mean a thing.
 
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