How do I respond to a online dating ad?

[Albanian_Alpha]

How do I respond to a online dating ad?

There is this Eastern european dating site and lots of ads with pictures...so how do I be different in an attractive way...

do I say "I like ur picture...do u wanna go out?" or what ....?

Help!

 

[jonwon]

How do I respond to a online dating ad?

There is this Eastern european dating site and lots of ads with pictures...so how do I be different in an attractive way...

do I say "I like ur picture...do u wanna go out?" or what ....?

Help!

get out and do it in real life, online dating you any idea how many emails women get? You want to be original well so does every other guy thats emailing them.

Get out in the real world.

 

[Albanian_Alpha]

get out and do it in real life, online dating you any idea how many emails women get? You want to be original well so does every other guy thats emailing them.

Get out in the real world.

I know....but I just want to sent a couple of the same replies to some women just in case and I an't think of anything ****y and funny to respond?

 

[Rocker]

Eastern European dating site?!?

Just write "Hi, me have money, me buy ticket, you come have babies me with"

 

[Albanian_Alpha]

Eastern European dating site?!?

Just write "Hi, me have money, me buy ticket, you come have babies me with"

it's a normal site man...i'm from eastern europe....balkans exactly...

 

[jonwon]

I know....but I just want to sent a couple of the same replies to some women just in case and I an't think of anything ****y and funny to respond?

You know i have been here about 1month 3week you any idea hom many guys post:

What do i say online dating that is ****y and funny?

****y and funny dont get you sex, i dont care what DD says, C&F and other things get you sex, not C&F.

If we go by the model of C&F funny then we can ssume by sending this:

Hey, great profile, but you spelt ....... wrong, you know your pritty cute too but i just cant date a girl who cant even spell ........ but hey maybe i will give you a shot. As for the pic, your not one of these girls that actually waight 25ton are you and using a mates pic instead?


So by using that C&F shi* up there i would be guaranteed 100% se*.

C&F, you know it is getting a bit stale if you ask me, unless she likes you anyway. Internet dating, here are tips.
Post a pic of your flash car, your dam GL or some other attraction point, otherwise all the ****y and funny wont buy you anything. from exp.

Also who wants some online women when you can get the real thing with out waiting for her to make all the moves, online dating seems like begging for attention.

 

[Albanian_Alpha]

You know i have been here about 1month 3week you any idea hom many guys post:

What do i say online dating that is ****y and funny?

****y and funny dont get you sex, i dont care what DD says, C&F and other things get you sex, not C&F.

If we go by the model of C&F funny then we can ssume by sending this:

Hey, great profile, but you spelt ....... wrong, you know your pritty cute too but i just cant date a girl who cant even spell ........ but hey maybe i will give you a shot. As for the pic, your not one of these girls that actually waight 25ton are you and using a mates pic instead?


So by using that C&F shi* up there i would be guaranteed 100% se*.

C&F, you know it is getting a bit stale if you ask me, unless she likes you anyway. Internet dating, here are tips.
Post a pic of your flash car, your dam GL or some other attraction point, otherwise all the ****y and funny wont buy you anything. from exp.

Also who wants some online women when you can get the real thing with out waiting for her to make all the moves, online dating seems like begging for attention.

good point

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

My suggestion is to search the forum for threads from DJs who aren't limited by how/where they sarge.

 

[jonwon]

good point

sorry man but not to put a downer on it, but this is reality.

Got to face a few things with online dating.

1. Some if not most are single mums, that cant get out and socialize, thats cool but you have to keep in mind 50/50 chance that they want a man to pick up the kid.
2. Alot of the girls are after attention and only post to see how much attention the get, with no intention of ever fuc*ing any sad looser that cant get girls in the real world.
3. There are girls on there that cant get out and socialize that want a man, but i will tell you this, have alook how many guys to girls there are online dating, there are easily 4/1 ratio of men to women, do you think the odds are in your favour?
4. Ppl assume they put a pic up and a profile then be a certain way then women will come flocking, sorry this is fantasy, they will come flocking if you are some rich guy flashing some merc and looking for the next women to take you for a ride. You may be extreamly GL and get a bit of attention, you may even get sex out of it, but it is not constant sex you will be lcuky to get 1 a month if even that and i mean very well to do guy.
5. Ppl online are very untrusting this is the way it is, alot of wierdo's has messed up the system so if your too GL ppl assume your fake, if you dont appear to be average you are or may be seen has fake or attention seeking.
6. Online dating costs money, going out in the real world costs NOTHING.
7. If it is free beleive it is low quality or most probably a cr** site.

Some ppl can make online dating work but is it = or more then the real world, is it fu** and it never will be, dont increase skills in online stuff, turn of the pc and get out in the real world. You have far more options and your not competing with 3/4 other blokes at the SAME time normally.

Just visit any girls page and see the amount of spam they get, or go one step further pose as a women and post a pic that your hot and just wait till you get all the spam.

 

[Kings_royalty]

****y and funny dont get you sex, i dont care what DD says, C&F and other things get you sex, not C&F.


I've used C&F on all kinds of women...young (yes, of legal age, lol), older, single, married and it's worked like a charm every time. No, I didn't F*ck every girl I used it on (for different reasons), but you could see the girls getting into the interaction and having a good time.

The secret is making it part of your personality. If you try to 'act' C&F, it will never work. You have to 'become' C&F. Hope that made sense.

As far as online dating goes, it can be a great way to polish your technique and have some fun. Try different approaches, see what works and what doesn't. Take a look at your profile and make sure it stands out, you want it to grab a girls attention.

If I respond to an ad, i grab some information from the profile and use it as a conversation starter (this will let her know that you pay attention to what she wrote). This approach gives me great results.

 

[skip2mylou781]

dude joinging ****ing myspace, its free and got more girls than any datign site does, AND its more easy going aka its not just"single moms" and ****

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Just to set some things straight:

1. Myspace IS NOT a dating web site. It is a social network, big difference.
2. Focusing on free dating sites will get you what you pay for; other cheap @ss people who don't take what they're doing seriously. Why should they, they haven't put anything into it.
3. The women online are exactly the same women that you meet on the street. There's no difference.
4. Sarging online does take more skill than face to face. You will need to know how to keep a woman interested with actual words (good conversation through text). The fact is, more guys with this talent have less of a problem keeping a face to face conversation going.
5. Online dating does not mean a multi week or multi month courtship. DJs who know how to qualify typically meet their interests face to face within the first week.
6. Sarging online takes less time than on the street. Once you learn what you are doing you can set up dates for every night of the week during one lunch hour. Try achieving that in 60 minutes worth of cold approaching.

I'm in no way saying that one shouldn't sarge IRL but it's sad when DJ wannabees denouce a means for meeting women just because they don't get it. These are usually the same guys who say that you can't pick up women at clubs or in the grocery stores.

Women are women no matter where you meet them. What matters is how well you know how to engage them, keep their interest and close. Those are the things that separate the DJ from the AFC, not where they meet women.

 

[skip2mylou781]

Just to set some things straight:

1. Myspace IS NOT a dating web site. It is a social network, big difference.
2. Focusing on free dating sites will get you what you pay for; other cheap @ss people who don't take what they're doing seriously. Why should they, they haven't put anything into it.
3. The women online are exactly the same women that you meet on the street. There's no difference.
4. Sarging online does take more skill than face to face. You will need to know how to keep a woman interested with actual words (good conversation through text). The fact is, more guys with this talent have less of a problem keeping a face to face conversation going.
5. Online dating does not mean a multi week or multi month courtship. DJs who know how to qualify typically meet their interests face to face within the first week.
6. Sarging online takes less time than on the street. Once you learn what you are doing you can set up dates for every night of the week during one lunch hour. Try achieving that in 60 minutes worth of cold approaching.

I'm in no way saying that one shouldn't sarge IRL but it's sad when DJ wannabees denouce a means for meeting women just because they don't get it. These are usually the same guys who say that you can't pick up women at clubs or in the grocery stores.

Women are women no matter where you meet them. What matters is how well you know how to engage them, keep their interest and close. Those are the things that separate the DJ from the AFC, not where they meet women.

agreed! but for someone who is 38, i can see how online dating is different.....im 21 and on myspace, all i gotta do is tell the girl shes gorgeous, she then tells me im really cute, gives me her sn, and i get her # within 5 minutes on our first convon on instant messanger - and then of course i call the same nite and set up some kinda date/chilling/hanging out. it IS a numbers game, just as cold approaching is, so expect to not get the # from 4 outta 5 girls EVEN IF U ARE VERY GOOD LOOKING - i mean eya u can get #s from girls who are average or ugly, but if ur goin after real cute/hot ones, expect alot of rejection online - still, if ur good, get 10 casual quick convos going for 20 minutes total, and ull prob get 2 #s and then call them the same day so u can establish REAL rapport (aka over the phone and not in some unnatural way online), then meet her within a week of gettin her #.....ive met girls the same day i first IMed them a few times, but usually i meet a girl a day or 2 after she first gives me her # online

simple

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

You definitely have a point about the age thing. However, you did point out how easy it is to get a phone convo going (good work).

I also agree that it's a numbers game but if you learn how to qualify, you will bypass more women than you engage without expending any effort. I usually only engage 2 out of every 10 women I come across online.

And you're spot on in saying that you can usually meet within a couple of days. It's a little more difficult when your more experienced (e.i. older) because you have to schedule between work, school and any other activites you each have going on. That's where the numbers game comes into place. The more sarging you do, the more women you are in contact with. The more women you know, the more options you have to fill the spaces of availability that you have in your calendar.

None the less, sarging online is simple as you said as long as you know what you're doing.

 

[jonwon]

You definitely have a point about the age thing. However, you did point out how easy it is to get a phone convo going (good work).

I also agree that it's a numbers game but if you learn how to qualify, you will bypass more women than you engage without expending any effort. I usually only engage 2 out of every 10 women I come across online.

And you're spot on in saying that you can usually meet within a couple of days. It's a little more difficult when your more experienced (e.i. older) because you have to schedule between work, school and any other activites you each have going on. That's where the numbers game comes into place. The more sarging you do, the more women you are in contact with. The more women you know, the more options you have to fill the spaces of availability that you have in your calendar.

None the less, sarging online is simple as you said as long as you know what you're doing.

sorry fransico my exp, of online dating is totally different.

from girls that where intrested it took ages to get them in the zone to meet up, maybe with practive and knowing the moves you can get success, but the simple fact is i get more success in the real world, plus i think you have far more options and choice. As for dates well if you really applied yourself you could get a date every night from approaches in bars or clubs, yeh it costs money but at least your not flicking through pages and actually take a choice on a girl you see, so we have to accept it is not to everyones taste.

I tried it online, i think i can hold a conversation better then most, does it mean i got dates all the time, nope, so there are other things going on.

So maybe you could do a post on tech' for online dating i know alot of guys would apprecciate it, maybe i will even try it again, since mine and your exp' are totally different there is something i am missing, if you get success from it I am not going to argue the point some guys do, but i am not sure how.

All i do know from the OP it is not C&F.
C&F help but it is such a small thing in the shape of what is expected.

Also a girl i met online her pic was hot, she was not! This is another mine field.

problem is ppl see online dating as the cure for there lack of se* this is simply not the case.

There is loads going on, so maybe you could enlighten a good few to the working of online dating.

 

[skip2mylou781]

older chicks (24+) are almost IMPOSSIBLE to have success with online, so if ur older than me none of this online stuff applies.....

the key for me always has been that online, the easiest most easygoing best looking girls are fun, spontaneous and up for meeting u as long as u sound cool AND look good.

not be shallow but the girl MUST MUST think ur at the very least very attractive in order for her to wanna meet.....cuz u both secretly kno why ur meeting - TO HOOK UP.

so have, ur best couple of pics up, and go for it.

this shyt works wonders on girls 15 - 21, so if ur older then bars is the place for u...if ur my age, then hit up MYSPACE and BUDDYPIC

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I don't know what you guys are doing wrong. I'll admit that it seems to be much easier to sarge younger 20-somethings, but I still say that if you know how to qualify well, you can weed out the problematic older women pretty easily.

The way that I see it, a woman with a high IL will want to get to know you personally almost immediately (if time permits). The ones who want to take their time with tons of emails back and forth I avoid like the plague. I send them a quick "C'ya and good luck in your search..." email and I move on. I've only spent 5-10 minutes and that's it.

Usually after the second email we're setting up a meeting. I've said it before that I bypass the whole telephone thing if I can. It's a waste of time and if she's into you she'll readily give you her number after the first meeting (another manner of reading her interest level).

As for the attractiveness of a woman, I need to see a few pictures of her. This would include full body shots but there's ways to tell her body type by reading other body parts which are in her picture. I'm also quick to ask when the pictures were taken. Why go out with anyone who posts pictures that are over a year old? What does that tell you? It's a hint and a half.

Like I said before, you have to know how to qualify to use your time effectivly and to weed out women who aren't your type. Yeah, you'll probably get emails from women who say that you're shallow buy hey, at least you're up front about what you want as opposed to what they are doing, hiding themselves.

 

[logicallefty]

I agree with many of the points mentioned in here in this thread already, good one guys..

I will just add that someone in this thread made mention of getting a week's worth of dates during one lunch hour: I have really done that, that is no exaduration!! :rockon:

I do a lot of online dating, and real world dating too..

In my experience, a lota girls online have some major show stopper thing that makes them not good LTR potential. Either they are 1)400 lbs 2)ugly 3)emotional nutcases 4)alcoholohics/druggies 5)living with mommy not working expecting a free lunch out of life 6) have some major medical problems 7) maga byyyyches or lUTS, sompin.. Aside from the ones I can weed out by looking at their pics, I date the others at first with an open mind and clean slate attitude and that this "could" be "HER". However, I expect for 99% sure in the back of my mind that sooner or later I will figure out what her show stopping thing is, and it will be over.. But I still have a darn good time on the way, sharpen my DJ skills, and yes, have sex!

Prolly the BIGGEST difference in online dating vs real-world dating is that in real world dating, 19x out of 20, you have met or seen each other sometime somewhere and both of you have already weeded past that initial "am I attracted to him/her look" before date #1.. We all know, guys and girls, that we have a pretty good idea of "attracted" or "not" within the first 30 seconds we meed someone..

On the other hand, with online dating, you can send all the pics you want back and fourth, even recent ones. But that still doesnt mean that those recent pictures wern't the very best and thats not the "norm".. You see the person in person and are like "ah, sorry, no".. lol it happens.. Which is why, getting the first date in the online world is the easiest. Getting the second date in the online world, now, that's at least as big if not bigger than getting the first date in the "real world"!

 

[skip2mylou781]

Get out into the real world and out from behind your Keyboards.

Sarge On...

i do! lol, i go out and chill and **** these random myspace girls all the time - read my myspace thread

 

[Last Man Standing]

This is what you do -- you must dissect her profile at the most detailed level and look for clues that make her tick!!! Appeal to her desires and lead the conversation in such of a way for her to see your strenghts abd then leavea a little out for your next conxo