how do I reply to this girl?

[brekke]

I was a jerk to her and told her to leave me alone, called her a liar, etc. Now she sends me this long email saying that she does not know what she did wrong, telling me that I really hurt her, and at the same time saying that I am nice, but she knows I do not think much of her.

What kind of reply is going to up her interest level? Thanks guys.

 

[MyTeamSupreme]

you need to go into more detail

 

[FrankieFunkinGamble]

I dont understand why you want to up her interest level? If she sent you an email of all most any kind after being a d*ck to her, then her interest level is already high.

But if you do want her interest level to increase, be nice to her...and then be a d*ck again. It's like the push/pull theory or whatever they're calling it these days.

 

[brekke]

She was acting hard to get before, and that is what really pissed me of at her. I want to make sure she will not go back to being like that.

 

[Iceberg]

She was acting hard to get before, and that is what really pissed me of at her. I want to make sure she will not go back to being like that.

That's a very vague explanation. Sounds like you threw a temper tantrum.

 

[brekke]

That's a very vague explanation. Sounds like you threw a temper tantrum.

Call it whatever you want, but do you have any actual tips?

 

[terran2k]

I am hesitant to give advice bc I am not where I should be yet to give advice. So take it with a grain of salt. I wouldnt reply to that email, I wouldnt apologize, have her do something for you to make it up to you.

 

[jophil28]

She was acting hard to get before, and that is what really pissed me of at her. I want to make sure she will not go back to being like that.

But she will - Women only have one game and they play it over and over. When it brings her unstuck she blames "losers" and "committmentphobic men'.

 

[jophil28]

\Dupe post

 

[kingsam]

Call it whatever you want, but do you have any actual tips?

no one can give you much advice as you have given us hardly any information,

 

[Acq]

But if you do want her interest level to increase, be nice to her...and then be a d*ck again. It's like the push/pull theory or whatever they're calling it these days.

that is correct. Did you know that borderline females and especially BPD males are considered irrisistable to the opposite sex in psychology ? the main reason for that is their NATURAL push/pull approach to saducing their victims.
What a game is to us; the natural thing is for them. A borderliner does not PLAY push/pull game, he actually FEELS that way. He may give the girl the time of her life because he thinks he likes her, while the next day he may ignore her or even become angry at her because he feels "different" on that other day.
BPD guys are considered the ultimate casanova's of the "game" due to their amazing push/pull approach

 

[brekke]

I wouldnt apologize, have her do something for you to make it up to you.

I won't apologize. She actually apologized to me in that email, and I don't really know what I could ask her to do...but that is a good idea.

that is correct. Did you know that borderline females and especially BPD males are considered irrisistable to the opposite sex in psychology ? the main reason for that is their NATURAL push/pull approach to saducing their victims.

Yay for me, because I am weird like that.

I am probably going to "push" again. I guess I am still having a tantrum, but I do not feel like acting nice. If it is too much, oh well.

 

[Acq]

Yay for me, because I am weird like that.

I am probably going to "push" again. I guess I am still having a tantrum, but I do not feel like acting nice. If it is too much, oh well.

my longest relationship lasted for 7 years (Im 32 now) and Im a very average guy while she was a 8.5. She was mine for 100% thanks to the pull/push game which lasted for as long as our relationship did. Once I kicked her out of my house for two months and she went to live with her parents, she would constantly SMS/email me about how she wants me back. It was awesome, full control.

 

[DonGorgon]

you are in a good position now... just take her on a date and tell her you think she may be cooler than you thought..lol

 

[brekke]

I have just continued ignoring this one. A funny thing happened though.

Like 8 days after she sent me the email I came online on MSN and like one minute later there was a message from her saying "hey!". I said "hey". Then she goes "did you get the email I sent you?", and I say "yeah".

Then she says "good!", and I ignore her after that. I think I am starting to like her now.

 

[r0cky]

Sounds like you failed her sh** test and threw a tantrum. I'm not sure tho bc you dont give any sort of detail as to why you called her a liar and acted like a jerk. Any advice I can give you depends on whether you were standing up for yourself or you just werent man enough to pass her shlt tests.
Either way, when a girl is able to get the best of your emotions too early in the relationship it will make you seem as an afc in her eyes, and its hard to change a girl's opinion once she believes you're an afc.
My advice is talk to her but dont have any type of emotional reaction to anything she says, be indifferent to what she does, especially when it seems shes trying to disrespect you.
Ignoring her may or may not send the right message because she will think you're still emotionally hurt, but on the other hand, it may also make her believe you are strong and stand up for yourself. But again, you dont know how she will take it. So its always better to keep contact, just act indifferent.

 

[brekke]

Sounds like you failed her sh** test and threw a tantrum. I'm not sure tho bc you dont give any sort of detail as to why you called her a liar and acted like a jerk. Any advice I can give you depends on whether you were standing up for yourself or you just werent man enough to pass her shlt tests.
Either way, when a girl is able to get the best of your emotions too early in the relationship it will make you seem as an afc in her eyes, and its hard to change a girl's opinion once she believes you're an afc.
My advice is talk to her but dont have any type of emotional reaction to anything she says, be indifferent to what she does, especially when it seems shes trying to disrespect you.
Ignoring her may or may not send the right message because she will think you're still emotionally hurt, but on the other hand, it may also make her believe you are strong and stand up for yourself. But again, you dont know how she will take it. So its always better to keep contact, just act indifferent.

I probably was hurt by her. I can get emotional sometimes, but I get over it quickly. She knows I do not care at this point. I don't think it was a sh!t test really, but she is just very guarded and afraid of being hurt, so she lies sometimes. But thanks for your good advice on this. When we talk it will be neutral from my side from now on, if we talk. She is trying to make herself available to me a lot, so maybe I will.