HOW do I interpret this???

[rjames407]

Hi guys, I am doing a post graduate degree and there is a girl who I like in one of my seminars. I tried to ask for her number before we had a two week break (the last two weeks) but bottled it because I had put too much pressure on myself. I returned today and was in the seminar with her and being friendly/slight flirting but didnt and it wasnt appropriate to ask for number in the class. So I followed her into a IT room after class and said 'Hi what are you up to etc etc'....she then left and I then went to get a drink and 'bumped into her' and asked 'what are your plans for this weekend as i'm seeing some relatives in [her home town], she then said we should meet but as she was walking away and didnt really acknowledge me (and looked almost embarrassed), she then went into the IT room. So I thought ive bottled it before Im just gonna have to bite the bullet, so i went in and asked for her number (and have it, or at least have 'a' number)!

My problem: I don't know how to interpret this....I think it is quite clear what my intentions were (followed into IT room and then 'bumped' into her! Not sure how to take it from here! Plus the line I used to get the number (ie going to her home town is not true).


Any advice/comments welcome guys.

 

[Sir I]

never mind. I didn't read your post completley.

do not think to much about the situation go for it, if it works it works but do not hesitate and prolongue the asking her out over several moments.

 

[MotownMack]

Plus the line I used to get the number (ie going to her home town is not true).

Don't worry about using this method, I do that all the time. Instead of making it look like a big deal or going out of your way to see them, I will often make it sound like it's a matter convenience. Off topic, but you sound like you feel kind of guilty for using this method-don't.

It sounds like her IL may be low at this point, but it's tough to say. However, if there were other people around, or you caught her of guard, that might explain the embarrassment. BTW, good for you for watching for these signs-body positioning (she said it as she was walking away), attitude, posture... whether or not you get anywhere with this one, too many guys are bad about picking up on body language. That's a skill that will serve you well.

Well, you got 'a' number. Use it and see where it goes, that's about all you can do at this point.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

My gut tells me that she's getting closer to the "This guy seems a little strange, I wonder what he wants?" stage just because you've been around but haven't really done anything (getting a number has little meaning). I suggest getting together with her in some casual environment without discussing school the entire time, you don't want to fall into the friend zone.

You could consider avoiding contact with her but be prepared for her to lose the little interest (if any) she may have. It would be different if you had established your intent earlier but as it stands she doesn't really know. She could move onto more interesting things while you wait in an attempt to be mysterious.

 

[MacAvoy]

First of all, mad props to you for not chickening out. Your ahead of 3/4's of the people on this site. I don't even do cold approaches. Others were right, she has low IL at the moment but thats only because she doesn't really know you yet, she doesn't know your the prize, she doesn't know what a great catch you are.

So call her up, be energetic, be funny and let her get to know what a great guy you are.