How do I get this girl?

00Kevin

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Ok, here is the situation. Please help me make some sense out of it.

A girl who I'm not interested in invited me over to her sons birthday party. She called me three times over the span of two weeks. At first, I was reluctant to go because I really didn't want to get involved with this girl or even make it appear that I was interested. After some advice from my friends I changed my mind and went anyway. I also picked up a small toy for her son.

When got to the party and looked around the room I saw her girl friends and few others I had not met before. I then realized that I had made the right choice to come to the party. I didn't feel right being at the party but I made the best of it.

I wasn't sure who to start to chat with so I started off with a girl I had danced with a while ago. I found it rather hard to talk to people as it was a very family oriented environment (kids, parents, and a few hot girls) and I didn’t know many of them.

My friend introduced me to one of her friends who was rather hot. I acknowledged her, shuck her hand, but quickly lost interest. In fact, I left the group and went to chat up another one of her girl friends who was dressed to kill. I had a bit of fun chatting her up, but the atmosphere wasn't right for some reason. So I went back tot he other group and chatted up the other hottie I was introduced to. We talked about traveling and a few other topics, but the conversation quickly changed to one all about her and her business. I stuck with it all and let her talk and I even showed interest in her. Everyone left the group and I remained with her. She then asked me if I would walk with her to the underground parking so that she could get her smokes. I did just that, and as we walked she kept banging her shoulder up against me. She also said that she had cramps.

I then chatted her up outside and let her talk about everyone else at the party. It turned out that she was worried that everyone thought badly of her for talking about her success in life. She is a rich girl and she owns her own hair salon. I was impressed with her and told her not to worry about it. Her friends may be poor, but at least she is making an effort to be nice to them.

I was about to chat her up for a #, but I just wasn’t sure if it would have been appropriate. I wasn’t in the right frame of mind to do it correctly anyway. (I just broke up with my previous girl friend so I’m kind of jaded). Anyway, I chose to test her mood by telling her about a time asked a girl I just wanted to be friends with for a phone number. I told her that this girl got mad at me and I couldn’t believe it. In response, she told me that when a guy asks for her phone number he usually just wants to screw her. So I just played it cool and didn’t go down that path with her.

I left the party early and she was the only one to put her hand out for handshake. I thought that was nice of her.

Anyway, I’m not sure what to make of this. I think I made the right choice to play it cool and be patient, after this girl was on the rag. I think I will use my friend (the one who invited me) to set things up. I could get her number through my friend but that may seem a bit intrusive.

Any suggestions?
 

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What you plan to do sounds fine to me since you weren't in the right mind frame to ask her for the # when you had the chance.
 

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first of all when she said "was i bragging too much"

you should have busted on her for that

ie- "well i didnt want to say anything but now that you bring it up it seems like you think youre just better than everyone else" with a huge smile and laugh at it then "dont worry about it" and change the topic

also, why do you let her talk about all this boring sh1t? you need to change the topics to something that intrests you THEN let her run her mouth... if she keeps ranting about boring stuff say "your boring me with all this work stuff lets talk about something else..." shell say "omg i know i always talk about that blah blah" etc
 

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Originally posted by white_hype
first of all when she said "was i bragging too much"

you should have busted on her for that

ie- "well i didnt want to say anything but now that you bring it up it seems like you think youre just better than everyone else" with a huge smile and laugh at it then "dont worry about it" and change the topic

also, why do you let her talk about all this boring sh1t? you need to change the topics to something that intrests you THEN let her run her mouth... if she keeps ranting about boring stuff say "your boring me with all this work stuff lets talk about something else..." shell say "omg i know i always talk about that blah blah" etc
I did change the subject a few times but sometimes it is good just to agree with her. you know.. look at her sweet ass and then just say.. yep.. i agree. :)
 
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It is no surprise why a guy asks for a girls number - everyone knows this!! After she made that statement you should have stated "so how about giving me your number?" and then show a devilish grin!

Your bringing up the 'asking for a number to be a friend' told her that you were scared to ask for her number directly - now you are going to really look like you want her panties if you ask your friend to do what you should have done!

Always ask for a girl's number - there is no better time than the present!!.
 

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
It is no surprise why a guy asks for a girls number - everyone knows this!! After she made that statement you should have stated "so how about giving me your number?" and then show a devilish grin!

Your bringing up the 'asking for a number to be a friend' told her that you were scared to ask for her number directly - now you are going to really look like you want her panties if you ask your friend to do what you should have done!

Always ask for a girl's number - there is no better time than the present!!.
yes this is wisdom, but I just wasn't in the right frame of mind for it. I will post what my next move will be soon. I think i might call up my friend and just talk to her. see if she mentions the girl or brings up the subject.
 

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Actually when she made that "most guys just want to sleep with me comment" would have been the perfect time to ask her for her number in a tone of voice suggesting you may or may not be kidding, then judge her immediate reaction and decide whether or not to proceed or say "just kidding".

Anyway what's done is done. Getting her number from your friend could be intrusive, so you should get your friend to ASK her if you can have her number first, then go for it.
 
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