There's this girl i've met several weeks ago. We talk every few days, but i keep conversations short to avoid falling into the friend zone. I've told her as little as i could about myself and found out a lot about her. I know she likes me, how much i'm not sure. But she's usually the one to initiate contact and seems very curious about me.
Today, we ended up having a rather strange conversation. It started out by her saying that if she ever says anything romantic or sexual, i shouldn't take it seriously, because she sees me as a friend. I was fairly surprised because i can tell fairly easily if a girl wants to be more than a friend, and she does.
So of course, i kept it cool and even neg-hitted her by saying that she shouldn't worry about us ever being anything more than friends, because a girl as fickle (refring to her obvious undecisiveness about the way she feels towards me) as her would drive any boyfriend crazy.
Then i stirred the conversation towards what she said and why she said it, and after convincing her that she can open up to me, she said she would fall in love with me if only she wasn't afraid that i'd betray her trust like the last guy she loved.
Now, i avoid talking about her past because ex-boyfriend discussions also seem to lead to friend zone, so i know little about what happened, but i think it's only been about 3 months since they broke up. So it seems like she's not ready for another relationship.
So we decided to remain friends for the time being, which i'm cool with since i don't particularly want to date her, but she does have a lot of qualities i seek in a girl, so i'd like to keep the option open. So with that said, how do i gain her trust? I'm not gonna rush it, but i want her to know i won't hurt her.
Today, we ended up having a rather strange conversation. It started out by her saying that if she ever says anything romantic or sexual, i shouldn't take it seriously, because she sees me as a friend. I was fairly surprised because i can tell fairly easily if a girl wants to be more than a friend, and she does.
So of course, i kept it cool and even neg-hitted her by saying that she shouldn't worry about us ever being anything more than friends, because a girl as fickle (refring to her obvious undecisiveness about the way she feels towards me) as her would drive any boyfriend crazy.
Then i stirred the conversation towards what she said and why she said it, and after convincing her that she can open up to me, she said she would fall in love with me if only she wasn't afraid that i'd betray her trust like the last guy she loved.
Now, i avoid talking about her past because ex-boyfriend discussions also seem to lead to friend zone, so i know little about what happened, but i think it's only been about 3 months since they broke up. So it seems like she's not ready for another relationship.
So we decided to remain friends for the time being, which i'm cool with since i don't particularly want to date her, but she does have a lot of qualities i seek in a girl, so i'd like to keep the option open. So with that said, how do i gain her trust? I'm not gonna rush it, but i want her to know i won't hurt her.
