How do i fix my bigest problem

[ranger655]

okay i lift alot of weights and its probably my main goal in life is to continue geting stronger and acheiving heights of muscularity never reached.

this is just one of my goals and the thing is when i have a goal its always the only thing on my mind. i cannot shake the thoughts of lifting weights and nutrition and sleeping right. im the one who goes home on a friday night to lift weights and go to sleep at 9.

i am happy with it i dont mind at all but it seems like the people im around all the time cant deal with it. they have some kind of problem with me living my life the way i want. my main problem though is that i dont get mad alot and start fights but when i do it leaves an impression.

this gives me the reputation of being an azz hole. imean when someone does something to disrespect me in front of a crowd i usually just joke about it and make nothing of it. but sometimes this one kid really makes me angry and i explode its happend alot lately and this kid not many people like hes a punk kid who thinks he knows everything and talks a lot of **** he cant backup.

so how do i get rid of this kid or show him up in a nonviolent way because i know im about to. and the people in this town all think they are saints. i come from a poor neighborhood where you talk with your fists. im not trying to look tuff but thats the way i am how do i slove this problem in a civilised way. it seems like if i hurt this kid it will be me who everyone goes against.

its already shaping that way all these girls who were once interested in me are now into this kid just becasue i am constantly getting into **** with this kid because he doesnt ever keep his mouth shut and is always doing stuff to piss me off.

 

[drixsa]

Originally posted by ranger655
okay i lift alot of weights and its probably my main goal in life is to continue geting stronger and acheiving heights of muscularity never reached.

this is just one of my goals and the thing is when i have a goal its always the only thing on my mind. i cannot shake the thoughts of lifting weights and nutrition and sleeping right. im the one who goes home on a friday night to lift weights and go to sleep at 9.

i am happy with it i dont mind at all but it seems like the people im around all the time cant deal with it. they have some kind of problem with me living my life the way i want. my main problem though is that i dont get mad alot and start fights but when i do it leaves an impression.

this gives me the reputation of being an azz hole. imean when someone does something to disrespect me in front of a crowd i usually just joke about it and make nothing of it. but sometimes this one kid really makes me angry and i explode its happend alot lately and this kid not many people like hes a punk kid who thinks he knows everything and talks a lot of **** he cant backup.

so how do i get rid of this kid or show him up in a nonviolent way because i know im about to. and the people in this town all think they are saints. i come from a poor neighborhood where you talk with your fists. im not trying to look tuff but thats the way i am how do i slove this problem in a civilised way. it seems like if i hurt this kid it will be me who everyone goes against.

its already shaping that way all these girls who were once interested in me are now into this kid just becasue i am constantly getting into **** with this kid because he doesnt ever keep his mouth shut and is always doing stuff to piss me off.

ranger i have a good friend like you to a lesser extent

i think its great you are tryin to get more muscular

but going home on fri at 9?
im not going to juge your decisions but you may be missing some amazing times

i lift 5 days a week yet i still go out, and yes i do lift on sat

i just finished high school and it was the best, at least for me

im going to try to answer your 2nd part tommrow too tired

 

[ranger655]

yeah i know i am probably missing quite a bit but its not just lifting to get girls i mean i have been lifting for about 1 year now and i plan on entering powerlifting and bodybuildint competitions in the near future. this is something thats more of a passion than just a hobbie that i use to get chicks so i have to follow it religiously.

i have already been there done that when it comes to partys and such. i probably partyd a little to hard since i ended up with 2 felonys but now my life is on track and such to where i plan on getting into westpoint military acadamy. but i just wanted to let you know why i do things like that.

i just am wondering if there is some kind of way to act around this kid to make people realise that i am the better person. because i know i am. and im about tired of being nice about it. obviously the nice guy does finish last so im about to switch roles unless someone recommends otherwise.

 

[drixsa]

Originally posted by ranger655

i am happy with it i dont mind at all but it seems like the people im around all the time cant deal with it. they have some kind of problem with me living my life the way i want. my main problem though is that i dont get mad alot and start fights but when i do it leaves an impression. [/B][/QUOTE]

well this is your first step, stop caring what others think about you

what is so bad about leaving that impression, i do the same and people now know not to fauck with me what so ever!

[/B][/QUOTE] this gives me the reputation of being an azz hole. imean when someone does something to disrespect me in front of a crowd i usually just joke about it and make nothing of it. but sometimes this one kid really makes me angry and i explode its happend alot lately and this kid not many people like hes a punk kid who thinks he knows everything and talks a lot of **** he cant backup.[/B][/QUOTE]

when a kid like this insults you, i say you get in his face, you are a damn power lifter, right? he has to know that if he disrespects you that you will kick his a$$ and put him in line.

chances are that hell wimp out knowing he doesnt want to get his a$$ kicked, regardless you have to be willing to back your words up

[/B][/QUOTE] so how do i get rid of this kid or show him up in a nonviolent way because i know im about to. and the people in this town all think they are saints. i come from a poor neighborhood where you talk with your fists. im not trying to look tuff but thats the way i am how do i slove this problem in a civilised way. it seems like if i hurt this kid it will be me who everyone goes against.[/B][/QUOTE]

oh, sorry didnt realize you wanted a non-violent way. i belive though if you just get in his face he will puss out.

[/B][/QUOTE] its already shaping that way all these girls who were once interested in me are now into this kid just becasue i am constantly getting into **** with this kid because he doesnt ever keep his mouth shut and is always doing stuff to piss me off. [/B][/QUOTE]

if people go against you for defending yourself then they arent people id want to call friends

 

[123guy]

Ranger, perhaps the weight lifting and bulking is the reason why you believe that fighting is the best way to solve problems as well.. Only you know situation best right now. Think twice before you do something, and be rational. Think of the aftermath of the beating of this kid. It seems like if you beat the kid, then people will think you are an *******, but at the same time, if you dont beat the kid, then you would feel wrongly done. My advice for you is to perhaps just B*itch him out verbally, and try to sort things out in a non violent way. Being brought up in a neighbourhood where fists are used as a source of communication doesnt mean that you have to use them. It just means that you know how to apply them. Maybe you should let the kid throw the first punch after b*tching him out, then beat him with the reason of retaliation...

 

[ranger655]

yeah thanks for the help you guys it really helps me to see my options. i suppose ill chill out and wait for something else to happen because i know it will and then i will just ***** the **** out of him confront him and i know he wont throw the first punch so ill just challenge him and wait for him to puss out.

ive had trouble with this kid many times. he was my friend and all so when he threw an egg at my car i mean we joke around like this alot and **** eachothers **** up but the egg was the last straw.

i didnt want to beat the crap out of him. so i put him in a headlock for about 5 minutes and squeezed as hard as possible until his nose started bleeding and he started to cry.

this ofcourse made me look like a **** and all but i didnt care. the car is one thing you just dont mess with.so ill heed your guyses advice for this situation and try not to kill anyone.

 

[sublime]

I've been in situations like this, and the best thing to do IMO is to put HIS pride on the line. People probably know that he messes with you all the time, so why not confront him and tell him to put up or shut up?

Walk up to him, confront him and tell him you're tired of his ****. And it's either he stops or he does something a man would do instead of just calling names. That ****'s junior high, and he needs to grow up.

Most likely if you get in his face he'll back down, but if he doesn't... well, then it's blood-drops in a sharks waters.

 

[kevbo]

Originally posted by ranger655
i am happy with it i dont mind at all but it seems like the people im around all the time cant deal with it. they have some kind of problem with me living my life the way i want. my main problem though is that i dont get mad alot and start fights but when i do it leaves an impression.

this gives me the reputation of being an azz hole. imean when someone does something to disrespect me in front of a crowd i usually just joke about it and make nothing of it. but sometimes this one kid really makes me angry and i explode its happend alot lately and this kid not many people like hes a punk kid who thinks he knows everything and talks a lot of **** he cant backup.

i know exactly what it's like to be in that situation. in my whole life, i have been in two or three fights, and they never last more than a couple hits if any.

recently, upon braking up with a certain girl, i starting getting a lot of **** from everyone but a couple people. needless to say, i started getting angry with these people who wouldn't stay out of my life when i wanted them to. finally, a friend of mine exploded on ME because I was being a jerk. in the end, he took plenty of crap from those of my friends who knew what was going on, and the whole incident just slipped by.

i guess that's the important thing. if you can manage to keep your cool in any way long enough, then as long as you have at least a couple loyal friends it will pull through fine.

now, as for the weight lifting, i can't say i can help you there. i used to be obsessed with anime and video games, now i too lift weights several times a week, or at least run or something when i can't. i guess you just need to really work to find other things you enjoy. that's the best i can come up with.