How did you overcome your fear of approaching?
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although.. i rele didnt get over the fear completly i have to say money bets help
just be like "if u give me a dollar il talk to that rele hot girl RANDOMLY" to a friend hel prob say yes cause its only 1 dollar and bam u sorta just set a situation where U HAVE TO DO IT or ur friend will think ur a *****
and hopefully ul go do it.. and eventually ul get used to doing it and the fear will disappear
i suggest going somewhere a lil far away where u dont no anyone that way u wont be able to make ANY EXCUSES because in that situation there are NO NONE ZERO NEGATIVES OF APPROACHING.. if u fail no one u know will ever find out and all ul be doing is gaining exp yay
think of it like a game and to level up u gotta fight "women" instead of monsters.. oh.. i mean APPROACH women hmm actually a lil play fighting is actually a + so u cud do that if u want lol
just be like "if u give me a dollar il talk to that rele hot girl RANDOMLY" to a friend hel prob say yes cause its only 1 dollar and bam u sorta just set a situation where U HAVE TO DO IT or ur friend will think ur a *****
and hopefully ul go do it.. and eventually ul get used to doing it and the fear will disappear
i suggest going somewhere a lil far away where u dont no anyone that way u wont be able to make ANY EXCUSES because in that situation there are NO NONE ZERO NEGATIVES OF APPROACHING.. if u fail no one u know will ever find out and all ul be doing is gaining exp yay
think of it like a game and to level up u gotta fight "women" instead of monsters.. oh.. i mean APPROACH women hmm actually a lil play fighting is actually a + so u cud do that if u want lol
BBX
Master Don Juan
1st off, don't try approaching without having any social skills yet. Gradualy build up your social confidence first if u like have social anxiety.
Then, you just do it, u accept the fact that the first, second, third, 50th approach will proubly get you kno where. Its always good to approach in a setting your comfortable in. I always find the easiest part of an approach is the actual approach, my nerves start to fade as i'm talking to the girl, the real nerves are before hand. I'll admit ive never got anything out of a cold approach in school or whatever, but it helps build confidence.
Basically before I approach and I need a shot of confidence, the best thing is to take a look in the mirror and give your shoulder a nice punch right where it hurts.
But like I said never expect much out of approaches at first, its rreally only good for building confidence. And remember, social skills first.
Then, you just do it, u accept the fact that the first, second, third, 50th approach will proubly get you kno where. Its always good to approach in a setting your comfortable in. I always find the easiest part of an approach is the actual approach, my nerves start to fade as i'm talking to the girl, the real nerves are before hand. I'll admit ive never got anything out of a cold approach in school or whatever, but it helps build confidence.
Basically before I approach and I need a shot of confidence, the best thing is to take a look in the mirror and give your shoulder a nice punch right where it hurts.
But like I said never expect much out of approaches at first, its rreally only good for building confidence. And remember, social skills first.
Docs
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Social skills, big! Find one of your talkative friends, and talk to him. Have a long discussion, shoot the sh!t, etc.
Next..start asking questions in class. Answer questions, become confident in your abilities to comprehend stuff.
After that, start saying Hey, hello to everyone.
And...progress onto actually talking to them.
Next..start asking questions in class. Answer questions, become confident in your abilities to comprehend stuff.
After that, start saying Hey, hello to everyone.
And...progress onto actually talking to them.
Kev07
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i force myself into a position where if i don't do it i'll just look like a stupid ass
With me, if I am scared to do something I call myself a p*ssy, then I do it. Depends on whether you can live with being a p*ssy I guess.
Concentrate on getting some female friends, maybe ones that share a similar passion to you, a band or ringtone or whatever it is you youngsters think is 'groovy' these days.
Concentrate on getting some female friends, maybe ones that share a similar passion to you, a band or ringtone or whatever it is you youngsters think is 'groovy' these days.
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lol, i got over it form learning at work. Reatail really helps you understand people alot better. Anyways just go for it man nothing bads gonna happen just walk up "hi,im(incert your name here)"