How did you get over it??

[yankees13]

To all you former AFC's, that didnt have the guts to approach women before.. What was the breaking point? What was the point that you said no more! From now on i will approach and ask for that number no matter what!

Sadly for me the theory that " life passes quick ,and your getting old and will die soon", hasnt worked for me the past year,year/half.

Any tips? Stories you guys would want to share. Thanks

 

[yankees13]

I know not all you guys were born pimps.. C'mon share your stories..

 

[Big Pappy]

There was a time, when I was a young lad of 16. I was hanging out with my friends, just tossing a football back of forth.

For the past week, we'd seen this little blond number ride by on a ten speed. I'd lived in that neighborhood since I was two; I knew (or of) every girl in it. This was either a new girl, or a visiting cousin - didn't make sense - where's her relatives?

So, I throw the football back to my buddy and watch her cycle away. Then, one of my buddies tells me to "go get her!"

So, I do. I run through a couple of the neighbors yards and head her off at the pass, and yell, "Hey!". She looks and says "Hey." and keeps on peddling. I was thinking it was a bit rude of her not to stop, but I was 16. What did I know?

I go back to my buddies, face a bunch of laughter and teasing, asking what happened. I told them they should have come along if they wanted to know.

The girl comes back around the block and stops! I introduce her around, grab my bike and the two of us ride away together in the sunset. I dated her for two years, she was only 14!

 

[Skel]

Not sure the turning point. It wasnt this sight. It was life in general. I just stopped being scared of anything. Nothing intimidates me anymore, if it does, i dont know it because its pushed way way way back. I now just set my mind to doing something and do it. This goes for all things. I apply myself. I have a better job, im finishing school which if you knew me isnt something that anyone would have imagined, I pay bills on time(also something huge for me), I talk to whoever and whenever i want, and I speak my mind no matter what if I feel its warranted.

Have no fears in life. The worst that can happen is death and if that happens then nuttin you can do about it anyways.

Remember that things in life wont happen for you if you sit around waiting , praying, wishing they would happen. You have to GET OFF YOUR ASS AND MAKE THEM HAPPEN!

 

[Trance]

Turning points:

1) Realized what AFC is, realized its pointless to chase a girl that broke up with you and make yourself weak and stupid, beside that u will never get her back that way. I was realizing that the hard way by experience, and combined with the knowledge from this site i dealt with it pretty good.

2) Realized that in the past 5 years i've only been single for like 6 months, and in those months i had plenty of girls

3) Remembered that when i entered a LTR, i was also making ways with other girls, and i could had picked a diferent one. Its always good to have plenty of options, and that's what im doing now.

4) After some LTR's, its time to know what's out there before picking the right one. You may settle with one girl and say you love her and you're happy, but there are tons of others that would make you feel the same if you tryed with them. So its now time to know a lot of women, and get to know what girl gives you the most.

5) Start aproaching. Sometimes you see a girl and want to aproach her, but you dont and the chance goes by. This may happen a lot before you start doing it boldly. So for starters, my sugestion is that you go to some place where nobody knows u, and where the girls you will see probably wont ever cross with you, so you really have nothing to lose and you will feel bolder. Then just start aproaching anywhere, anytime.

 

[NewMan]

1) Realised that I had the power to make things happen for myself - and that sitting around doing nothing would not get me what I wanted.

2) Realised that women are just flesh and blood - just like me. That they were lonely, insecure, self conscious just like I used to be

3) figurered out that I've more to offer than most guys - I was selling myself short.

4) realised that you make things happen - no-one wants to be with the boring guy who sits in the corner and does nothing.

5) Nice guys really do get fvcked.

6) What women say and want are 2 different things (yet don't force the s#x - no is no)

7) I will die. It's going to happen. I can either make this a life I want to live - or not.

8) Regrets the things you've done, not the things you wished you'd done.

9) If you don't ask her out, some a##hole will.

 

[yankees13]

Interesting feedback, thanks.

 

[Slickster]

I used to be quite shy when I was younger. I would only come out of my shell when I was drinking. With a few beers in me I was invincible. Overtime the confidence I had while being slightly tipsy spilled over to my sober self.

Seriously. Next time you're tying one on practice going up to complete strangers and starting conversations. Forget about hot women at first just pick anyone. Practice is the key. When you progress and feel ready to approach some chicks keep this one thing in mind. Approach them with no agenda. Erase the idea from your mind that you think she is hot and would love to bang her etc. Just start a conversation for the hell of it and then cut it short and leave happily on your way.

You'll soon learn that there is absolutely nothing to fear. If you are half cut or sober, they are all just people.

Having the ability to chat with anyone will really impress the ladies you are with too. I took a gf to dinner the other night and on the way back from the bathroom I just started a conversation with a table of about 10 people out of the blue. Just started asking them what the food was like. If they would recommend anything.

When I got back to the table my date asked how do you know those people. I said I don't, I just met them now. She just smiled and said you are amazing.