Initially via "The System" and then this board, I've picked up countless tips and techniques, although my results have been limited. In fact, my luck is only slightly better than when I was a "natural" AFC and not always analyzing and focusing on techniques.
I have certainly been able to read body language far better and spot phonies and flakes a mile away. I've saved a lot of time and money for sure. But my recurring observation is, at least around where I live, they ALL exhibit these negative qualities. The misogynist in me is really beginning to sprout, and this is not good.
For example, one girl, who thought I was just trying to get laid (yes, but not JUST) made it clear she wasn't that kind of girl. A few months later she actively pursued and f*cked one of my bandmates, who publicly has three other girls in his rotation. (FYI this guy is very obese, has no job, and also lives at home, but still has confidence and pulls them in hand-over-fist.)
A second girl simply dated me once to get her BF jealous to get back together, which worked.
A third I hooked up with had sky high IL, after I had worked a slow, methodical seduction for weeks. She went cold and distant the very day after we spent the night together, and that was that.
I've found high IL women that I've turned down, because I didn't find them attractive, but I've never, ever increased the IL of an indifferent, attractive woman. I can tell from first eye contact whether I'm in or not, and I prove it to myself so often I sometimes just don't bother.
I've followed the principle of focusing on myself first, picking up some things I've always wanted to try, including kayaking and golf, and been making steady gains at the gym. My band is becoming very successful, and I'm one of the top musicians around here on my instrument. But no dice. I rarely see women listening to live music. The ratio is at least 20 to 1. For them, it is just drink, drink, drink, and this doesn't appeal to me. I know many women...but zero that don't drink or smoke.
One hangup is that I have been unable to find work for a year, like many of us former dot-commers. This has forced me back home, which is a double whammy where confidence is concerned. And this is a small town, where the dating pool is shallow at best.
Oh, and I just put my dog of 14 years (since seventh grade) down.
I sense that there is some missing piece of the puzzle that I am just not getting somehow.
I have certainly been able to read body language far better and spot phonies and flakes a mile away. I've saved a lot of time and money for sure. But my recurring observation is, at least around where I live, they ALL exhibit these negative qualities. The misogynist in me is really beginning to sprout, and this is not good.
For example, one girl, who thought I was just trying to get laid (yes, but not JUST) made it clear she wasn't that kind of girl. A few months later she actively pursued and f*cked one of my bandmates, who publicly has three other girls in his rotation. (FYI this guy is very obese, has no job, and also lives at home, but still has confidence and pulls them in hand-over-fist.)
A second girl simply dated me once to get her BF jealous to get back together, which worked.
A third I hooked up with had sky high IL, after I had worked a slow, methodical seduction for weeks. She went cold and distant the very day after we spent the night together, and that was that.
I've found high IL women that I've turned down, because I didn't find them attractive, but I've never, ever increased the IL of an indifferent, attractive woman. I can tell from first eye contact whether I'm in or not, and I prove it to myself so often I sometimes just don't bother.
I've followed the principle of focusing on myself first, picking up some things I've always wanted to try, including kayaking and golf, and been making steady gains at the gym. My band is becoming very successful, and I'm one of the top musicians around here on my instrument. But no dice. I rarely see women listening to live music. The ratio is at least 20 to 1. For them, it is just drink, drink, drink, and this doesn't appeal to me. I know many women...but zero that don't drink or smoke.
One hangup is that I have been unable to find work for a year, like many of us former dot-commers. This has forced me back home, which is a double whammy where confidence is concerned. And this is a small town, where the dating pool is shallow at best.
Oh, and I just put my dog of 14 years (since seventh grade) down.
I sense that there is some missing piece of the puzzle that I am just not getting somehow.
