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ohrein

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Well number one, don't use texts like that. Texting is cancer to attraction. I'm not sure what the context is, what is she trying to do? It seems though you whined about a lack of attention from her which is a bit weak, then tried to regain frame and it looks like you mostly failed. You should have just withdrew your attention as that is the best currency you have early on.

It's really hard to tell exactly what's going on with context and previous messages though.
 

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I believe you went NC, then couldn't stand it and went about communicating with her thus her reply.

The result; you ended up whiny and lost frame.
 

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Well number one, don't use texts like that. Texting is cancer to attraction. I'm not sure what the context is, what is she trying to do? It seems though you whined about a lack of attention from her which is a bit weak, then tried to regain frame and it looks like you mostly failed. You should have just withdrew your attention as that is the best currency you have early on.

It's really hard to tell exactly what's going on with context and previous messages though.
I hardly text her only to set up dates.. she sent me a pointless text message about someone house burning down.. I don't even like the person nor would I care... I've told her in the past I don't like being hassled with text messages.. she just said what I said lol
 

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I hardly text her only to set up dates.. she sent me a pointless text message about someone house burning down.. I don't even like the person nor would I care... I've told her in the past I don't like being hassled with text messages.. she just said what I said lol
I just don't get the point then. Just ignore the text, block her number. If a girl is contacting you then you want to encourage it, not make her afraid to text you. Replying when you feel like it is fine, but punishing her for it doesn't make sense if you want her as a plate.
 

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I just don't get the point then. Just ignore the text, block her number. If a girl is contacting you then you want to encourage it, not make her afraid to text you. Replying when you feel like it is fine, but punishing her for it doesn't make sense if you want her as a plate.
No I didn't punish her.. just said her text was pointless.. then she started raving on lol kinda put her knickers in a knot lol
 

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Most of chicks drivel is pointless. The points is that she is still reaching out. And you're meant to at least pretend to have feelings. Whether or not you like the person a couple of words of sympathy about somebody's house Burning Down would probably have played well. Mate I hope this is just you having an off day.
 

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It's nice being young and stupid.

The things we do and lie being not affected, brings back fond memories:D
 

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Most of chicks drivel is pointless. The points is that she is still reaching out. And you're meant to at least pretend to have feelings. Whether or not you like the person a couple of words of sympathy about somebody's house Burning Down would probably have played well. Mate I hope this is just you having an off day.
Yeah I'm having a really bad day crashed my car and everything
 

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Relax, I get the feeling you'll do just fine.

The only people that don't have any problems are those people 6 feet under in the cemetery.

Life is good. Read DJ bible to strengthen your frame.

Frame is everything.

Frame(how u think) + methods(how u do things) = results you get.
 

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Relax, I get the feeling you'll do just fine.

The only people that don't have any problems are those people 6 feet under in the cemetery.

Life is good. Read DJ bible to strengthen your frame.

Frame is everything.

Frame(how u think) + methods(how u do things) = results you get.
I'm getting the silent treatment now lol do I just leave her alone for a while?
 
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