Learningquietly
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How can you get your girl back? This worked for me…
My girl and I broke up where almost a week went by where the only communication we had was via AIM (besides one phone call) and I had to initiate that communication. What happened was I broke up with her, regretted it and asked her twice to come out for a walk (once on the phone, once on aim) on various days so that we could talk things out. She wouldn’t agree, so I basically told her I wasn’t going to beg and froze her out. 3-4 days went by and I didn’t try to contact her at all.
The last time we spoke on the phone we made arrangements that I could pick up crap of mine that I left over her house. It would be during a time we both worked (we work at the same place). This in my mind could be the last time I would see her, so I took advantage of it because I still wanted her.
Over the past few months of using this site I made sure to apply some of the techniques you guys have generously provided to us. Here is what I did.
The first thing I would do was to make sure that she knew that life for me wouldn’t stop because we broke up. I signed up for a Muay Thai class and the day I picked up my stuff. I’d make sure that this was brought up.
I then prepared what I would wear. I bought something new—the shirt branded her favorite color. This way she couldn’t associate it with anything that was in our past that would serve me unfavorable. I got a nice outfit. I also made sure that I loaded up on her favorite cologne—this would hopefully trigger some emotions. My plan was to get some of this on her through a hug if I could.
Next, prior to meeting her I would call my good buddy, who is a funny a$$ dude, to get my spirts up before all of this went down.
The day this would take place I called her up and told her when and where to meet me. She tried to change that and I ended up calling her 20 minutes before hand to change it back to my terms.
The plan worked out to a tee. I got a hold of my buddy and we had a great conversation. As I was pulling up to the lot that we met I made sure she saw that I was on the phone and got off. I jumped out of my car, up beat as always, like nothing had ever happened between us. At first she seemed a little down, but when she saw me you could tell she tried to change or at least present herself in a different way. She really looked miserable though. We both asked how everything was. She was like, “Good, hey your hair is growing longer and looks good”. I knew this was the perfect opportunity to mess with her head, so I was like, “thanks… you know I’ve been hearing that a lot lately”. The conversation went on, mostly just small talk, nothing regarding are break up. I wanted to give her the impression that it wasn’t bothering me. I also brought up the Muay Thai and she was like, “wow you are actually doing that, you did tell me you’ve always wanted to take that up”. I was just like, “ya”. During this whole ordeal I tried to remain upbeat, calm, and nonchalant as possible. Before we parted ways, I went up to her and gave her a hug (ensuring that I rubbed my body on her so I could get some of my cologne on her haha) and said, “no hard feelings”. She said, “nope” and we went on our ways.
Now keep in mind that after breaking up with this girl, she really made no attempt to get a hold of me. This all changed later that night when she would im me. Pasted below is the IM. I added some stuff in parenthesis so you could better understand what was being said.
Her: Hey there
Me: Hey how you doing, nice to hear from you
Her: I'm good, thanks Gabe
Her: how was work
Me: It was good, but same thing, nothing spectacular lol
Her: The usual huh
Me: yeah heh how bout you?
Her: good, restless right now a little
Her: did i miss any of your stuff?
Me: I notice when you left work you didn't look your same self. You know if there is anything u need to talk about i'm here
Her: How did I look?
Me: Beautiful as always, but it looked like something was bothering you
Her: Aw thanks Gabe, I appreciate the concern, but I'm alright
Her: I wasnt sure whether to stop and say hi or not, you were in mid conv with elvis
Me: ah ok
Me: it's always good when you stop and say hi, nothing has changed
Her: Good I'm glad, I'll keep that in mind
Her: u excited for softball
Me: yeah somewhat (keep in mind that softball was suppose to be our thing during the summer. She would have to work this day)
Her: y only somewhat (When she says this, she is fishing for me to give her what she wants to hear. I don’t)
Me: you know i enjoy it. it's ok
Her: well hopefully you guys get some sunny weather again
Me: yea i hope so too, hopefully we can pull out a win too
Her: i bet u will, lot of talent on the team
Me: Yeah. Well I'm going to pass out now Jen, but I'm happy we've talked and I hope you get some rest (here I wanted to make sure I ended the conversation. I don’t want to appear desperate on getting her back, ya know?)
Her: Alrighty, sleep tight, good luck tomorrow
We are back on great terms and if any of you would like to know what else has happened I’d be glad to share. I have to run. Work is getting busy.
My girl and I broke up where almost a week went by where the only communication we had was via AIM (besides one phone call) and I had to initiate that communication. What happened was I broke up with her, regretted it and asked her twice to come out for a walk (once on the phone, once on aim) on various days so that we could talk things out. She wouldn’t agree, so I basically told her I wasn’t going to beg and froze her out. 3-4 days went by and I didn’t try to contact her at all.
The last time we spoke on the phone we made arrangements that I could pick up crap of mine that I left over her house. It would be during a time we both worked (we work at the same place). This in my mind could be the last time I would see her, so I took advantage of it because I still wanted her.
Over the past few months of using this site I made sure to apply some of the techniques you guys have generously provided to us. Here is what I did.
The first thing I would do was to make sure that she knew that life for me wouldn’t stop because we broke up. I signed up for a Muay Thai class and the day I picked up my stuff. I’d make sure that this was brought up.
I then prepared what I would wear. I bought something new—the shirt branded her favorite color. This way she couldn’t associate it with anything that was in our past that would serve me unfavorable. I got a nice outfit. I also made sure that I loaded up on her favorite cologne—this would hopefully trigger some emotions. My plan was to get some of this on her through a hug if I could.
Next, prior to meeting her I would call my good buddy, who is a funny a$$ dude, to get my spirts up before all of this went down.
The day this would take place I called her up and told her when and where to meet me. She tried to change that and I ended up calling her 20 minutes before hand to change it back to my terms.
The plan worked out to a tee. I got a hold of my buddy and we had a great conversation. As I was pulling up to the lot that we met I made sure she saw that I was on the phone and got off. I jumped out of my car, up beat as always, like nothing had ever happened between us. At first she seemed a little down, but when she saw me you could tell she tried to change or at least present herself in a different way. She really looked miserable though. We both asked how everything was. She was like, “Good, hey your hair is growing longer and looks good”. I knew this was the perfect opportunity to mess with her head, so I was like, “thanks… you know I’ve been hearing that a lot lately”. The conversation went on, mostly just small talk, nothing regarding are break up. I wanted to give her the impression that it wasn’t bothering me. I also brought up the Muay Thai and she was like, “wow you are actually doing that, you did tell me you’ve always wanted to take that up”. I was just like, “ya”. During this whole ordeal I tried to remain upbeat, calm, and nonchalant as possible. Before we parted ways, I went up to her and gave her a hug (ensuring that I rubbed my body on her so I could get some of my cologne on her haha) and said, “no hard feelings”. She said, “nope” and we went on our ways.
Now keep in mind that after breaking up with this girl, she really made no attempt to get a hold of me. This all changed later that night when she would im me. Pasted below is the IM. I added some stuff in parenthesis so you could better understand what was being said.
Her: Hey there
Me: Hey how you doing, nice to hear from you
Her: I'm good, thanks Gabe
Her: how was work
Me: It was good, but same thing, nothing spectacular lol
Her: The usual huh
Me: yeah heh how bout you?
Her: good, restless right now a little
Her: did i miss any of your stuff?
Me: I notice when you left work you didn't look your same self. You know if there is anything u need to talk about i'm here
Her: How did I look?
Me: Beautiful as always, but it looked like something was bothering you
Her: Aw thanks Gabe, I appreciate the concern, but I'm alright
Her: I wasnt sure whether to stop and say hi or not, you were in mid conv with elvis
Me: ah ok
Me: it's always good when you stop and say hi, nothing has changed
Her: Good I'm glad, I'll keep that in mind
Her: u excited for softball
Me: yeah somewhat (keep in mind that softball was suppose to be our thing during the summer. She would have to work this day)
Her: y only somewhat (When she says this, she is fishing for me to give her what she wants to hear. I don’t)
Me: you know i enjoy it. it's ok
Her: well hopefully you guys get some sunny weather again
Me: yea i hope so too, hopefully we can pull out a win too
Her: i bet u will, lot of talent on the team
Me: Yeah. Well I'm going to pass out now Jen, but I'm happy we've talked and I hope you get some rest (here I wanted to make sure I ended the conversation. I don’t want to appear desperate on getting her back, ya know?)
Her: Alrighty, sleep tight, good luck tomorrow
We are back on great terms and if any of you would like to know what else has happened I’d be glad to share. I have to run. Work is getting busy.
