How can I push myself to do this?

[cyraid]

I'm sure everyone has once been in a situation where they are next to a beautiful, hot girl which you would like to get to know, but then act like a wuss and let the opportunity pass you by. Some of you have been able to get past this gay behavior and approach, which is part of the objective of this site. Unfortunately, some of us are cursed with over-thinking and over-analyzing and haven't gotten past this and are faced with pure frustration.

That is my case. I know a lot of you will say "Go read the DJ Bible n00b" or "Use the search function." I've read all of that stuff before. Merely an hour ago, I was standing behind an HB9 for at least twenty minutes in a long line to get a bus ID card. This girl kept glancing back, was a bit fidgety. Taking out her Excel textbook to study and then putting it back in her bag five minutes later. I totally could have opened. But instead I stood cooly and just waited for my turn.

Now what I want to get at is, how do you actually push, FORCE yourself to get in there? It's not so much about the girl here, okay she was HOT and I would LOVE to tap that. But I'm just sick of this and I want to be able to talk to strangers. Enough is enough. So could you all please give me your two cents. Thanks.

 

[Interceptor]

Watch this:

Victor Malvado
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jpRhUJkYEI4

You need to get over the social conditioning that says it's improper or rude or dangerous to talk to strangers.
You need to internalize you are being natural in your desire to connect with women as a male.
It is perfectly fine , natural, and healthy to have women in your life.
You are worth happiness, love, and to be cherished and appreciated by everyone, not just women.
You don't NEED VALIDATION. You don't need permission to talk to a girl. You don't need her to validate you as a man. You must know who you are and what you are worth, and be confident in them.
Having sexual desire or interest in the opposite sex is natural, not dirty.
Women will judge you. But you needn't give in to that mindset. Women DO look at you to see if you qualify for them, but you have every right, and should turn the tables on them and do the same thing.
They may judge you, but they don'[t have the RIGHT to judge, Don't give them that power over you,. Remember, it's only a female standing there, not some Godesse who has power over your fate in life. Be realistic.
NEVER, ever, ever, IDEALIZE women.
Beautiful women are really females that are born with some attractive genetics. Attractive women are women who are physically attractive, bnut have personality as well.
Be above any woman's Sh*t test, they only want to see if you're REAL, If you are REAL, then you have nothing to worry about.
Sh*t tests are ultimately about insecurity. Women do this because they don't know what will happen with you in the future.
The worst thing that can happen is she says something like "Look, you're a nice guy. But I'm not interested."

So what?
Big fvckin' deal.
There are other women out there.
Do not dwell in Scarcity Mentality.
Do not give her that kind of power. There is no way a womna can adequately "judge" you, no matter how convinced she is of her right to do so, that she can tell exactly who you are and what you are capable.
Do not ever fall into a Woman's "Frame".

Make yours the strongest it can be.

Good luck.

 

[JJMcLure]

You are stopped by the FEAR of rejection. It really doesn't matter if she does or doesn't want to talk to you, she is one person - she does not validate you or otherwise depending on her reaction. The way to get over this is to do the "ask 10 chicks for their number drill" - just literally go up to any ten and ask without even caring if they give it to you. You will realise it means nothing. If that sounds like too much, do the boot camp - start with eye contact experiments and move on to saying "hi" to 10 strangers a day etc.

Here is a classic post on this issue:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16835

 

[Lord Shinra]

Stop over-analyzing and take it as if its a huge game, like the carnie games where you win a prize just for trying.

Instead, go for the big prize by succeeding, but in your mind succeed anyway just by playing.

 

[JAS760]

i really like what Interceptor had to say......it helped me out thanks

 

[cyraid]

Thanks a lot for the advice, guys. I'll try implement this.

 

[Dilberto]

Try acting like she doesn't even exist.....it drives them MAD. I mean, completely ignore her presence- and quietly see what she does. Babes are so used to having men gawk all over them.......and now this "average Joe is playing hard to get?" They go bonkers over this......it NEVER FAILS. I believe this is the, "bad boy" behavior women secretly crave.

 

[The Sperminator]

Try acting like she doesn't even exist.....it drives them MAD. I mean, completely ignore her presence- and quietly see what she does. Babes are so used to having men gawk all over them.......and now this "average Joe is playing hard to get?" They go bonkers over this......it NEVER FAILS. I believe this is the, "bad boy" behavior women secretly crave.

If you read his post you can see that that doesn't work. He doesn't get girls because he doesn't make a move. Ignoring her only works on some girls not majority. If you show no interest at all more than likely you won't get her. Especially if it's in a sitituation where you most likely won't see her again. I mean if you see a chick at a supermarket and ignore her I highly doubt shes going to be like why is he ignoring me and come over and hit on you. What you have to do is just suck it up and go for it I know it's not that easy because I used to be the same way but you have to think for yourself that this could be your only shot and just go for it. Whats the worst that could happen. Only good can come of it. If she rejects you you learn from your mistakes. And rejection really isn't all that bad. It's better to be rejected and say hey I tried then to feel like a total loser because you just stood there and said nothing because your were afraid.

 

[Dilberto]

If you read his post you can see that that doesn't work. He doesn't get girls because he doesn't make a move. Ignoring her only works on some girls not majority. If you show no interest at all more than likely you won't get her. Especially if it's in a sitituation where you most likely won't see her again. I mean if you see a chick at a supermarket and ignore her I highly doubt shes going to be like why is he ignoring me and come over and hit on you. What you have to do is just suck it up and go for it I know it's not that easy because I used to be the same way but you have to think for yourself that this could be your only shot and just go for it. Whats the worst that could happen. Only good can come of it. If she rejects you you learn from your mistakes. And rejection really isn't all that bad. It's better to be rejected and say hey I tried then to feel like a total loser because you just stood there and said nothing because your were afraid.

That's right......without the follow-through....NOTHING HAPPENS.

 

[Randallpink83]

I read the following quote by Zirex. It motivated me like no other. I was in-field and practicing before I read this, but after I read this passage here, I was like "damn... I can do so much better" ...And then I let go! The very next weekend I cold approached probably 50 something sets/girls. And my momentum hasn't slowed down. Although I'm not approaching NEARLY as much as in the beginning. I'm pulling girls in now and spending more quality time with her instead of bang bang bang... next set next set next set.... Ideally we should all been approaching ONCE a night, and f-closing it... thats ideal.. but your not going to get there if you don't abide by the following... (ok you might get there eventually, but it will take you FOREVER, snail speed.. If you hit it HARD and with a vengence, then success is right around the corner, and it will be QUALITY success.)

Actually, this confidence actually crept out into the real world and i started being an alpha badboy and pulling hot little chycks when i went out. I made mistakes and f@cked up loads. But i learnt (still am).

What i want you guys to realise is you can all get laid. You just need to look at this forum as a turnaround point. Something that has *possibly* saved you from spending your life as a tool.

The only thing stopping you *NOW* is your inner game. Your ability to go out and FAIL. You dont need to learn umpteen techniques (outter game).....you just need a basic understanding (alpha qualities), and to practice in the realworld.


PRACTICE IS KING. YOU WILL IMPROVE. YOU WILL GET LAID IF YOU AIM TO FAIL.

Run sarges and aim to fail. Open targets wherever you see them. Get blown out by them. Repeat. Fail. Repeat. Fail.

Get over the IDEA of not being able to approach. Once you do this you automatically are better than the next guy. You will improve....you will not appear desperate or nervous. You'll develop what to say. You will then succeed.

...Then you can start running material/techniques you read on this site (patterns/openers/negs whatever). Material and techniques should be there for you to fall back on and help demonstrate your personality (if it sucks).

It should NOT be your entire game.

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The only way you WILL EVER be successful is through practice, practice, practice, practice. Even if you learn everything about 'seduction' online, you need to know how to deliver it.

Expect to CRASH and BURN, EXPECT to FAIL...but..EXPECT TO GET GOOD AS A RESULT.

It's okay to fail man... its ok for girls to blow you out, and say mean things to you... its ok for groups of chodes watch you get blown out and them laugh at you, but while they are laughing you're entering another set and they will never have the guts to be like you.
Just don't be all hard on yourself. You need to let go. If you can't accept failure you will never have a chance of Success. Seriously... go, GO out and fail right now... Walk up to the first girl you see with a BIG cheesy grin and say whatever the **** you want. It doesnt matter what you say. You want failures... you want a lot of them so you can learn, practice and finally start pulling some monstrous success... say anything, do anything.. "I like popcorn!".... "I'm Gay, you got a problem with that?" ... "Hey you wanna go climb mount everest with me?" .... "WATCH OUT LADY! I'm fvcking Superman!"

 

[bambam]

the answer is simple. you must be superior to her. if you are on her same level or below you are effectively screwed. the only power greater force that will give you the leverage needed to dominate her is - MONEY. that is right. MONEY. right that down and paste it to your chest. having more money than the girls you like gives you confidence. girls are attracted to winners. remember - gay guys are attracted to abs, girls are attracted to shopping.

in practically every culture on this earth a winner is thought of as a guy with more money than those around him. right or wrong this is the way things are in modern times. even in tribal africa the guy with the most goats gets the best looking virgin.

honestly, there is a reason you are afraid of her. don't lie to yourself. most on here have bought into the propaganda that money/power is not what attracts girls. what a lie! in every culture this is the case. i put your butt in moldova i bet you are with a beautiful girl this very moment.

 

[Randallpink83]

the answer is simple. you must be superior to her. if you are on her same level or below you are effectively screwed. the only power greater force that will give you the leverage needed to dominate her is - MONEY. that is right. MONEY. right that down and paste it to your chest. having more money than the girls you like gives you confidence. girls are attracted to winners. remember - gay guys are attracted to abs, girls are attracted to shopping.

in practically every culture on this earth a winner is thought of as a guy with more money than those around him. right or wrong this is the way things are in modern times. even in tribal africa the guy with the most goats gets the best looking virgin.

honestly, there is a reason you are afraid of her. don't lie to yourself. most on here have bought into the propaganda that money/power is not what attracts girls. what a lie! in every culture this is the case. i put your butt in moldova i bet you are with a beautiful girl this very moment.

WTF? OMG... money?

Dude, do not pass go. Go directly to jail. And get your fvckin chode ass out of here with that sh!t


sure money will get you some hot golddiggin tail... And while YOU are buying her fancy coats and giving her nice cars to drive she will be cheating on you with REAL men who turn her on carnally...

She wont be cheating on you with me though, cause she is a golddiggin b!tch

 

[Interceptor]

Being a Superior Man has little to do with physical money.

 

[Drewskie]

Bump....

 

[Drewskie]

Watch this:

Victor Malvado
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jpRhUJkYEI4

You need to get over the social conditioning that says it's improper or rude or dangerous to talk to strangers.
You need to internalize you are being natural in your desire to connect with women as a male.
It is perfectly fine , natural, and healthy to have women in your life.
You are worth happiness, love, and to be cherished and appreciated by everyone, not just women.
You don't NEED VALIDATION. You don't need permission to talk to a girl. You don't need her to validate you as a man. You must know who you are and what you are worth, and be confident in them.
Having sexual desire or interest in the opposite sex is natural, not dirty.
Women will judge you. But you needn't give in to that mindset. Women DO look at you to see if you qualify for them, but you have every right, and should turn the tables on them and do the same thing.
They may judge you, but they don'[t have the RIGHT to judge, Don't give them that power over you,. Remember, it's only a female standing there, not some Godesse who has power over your fate in life. Be realistic.
NEVER, ever, ever, IDEALIZE women.
Beautiful women are really females that are born with some attractive genetics. Attractive women are women who are physically attractive, bnut have personality as well.
Be above any woman's Sh*t test, they only want to see if you're REAL, If you are REAL, then you have nothing to worry about.
Sh*t tests are ultimately about insecurity. Women do this because they don't know what will happen with you in the future.
The worst thing that can happen is she says something like "Look, you're a nice guy. But I'm not interested."

So what?
Big fvckin' deal.
There are other women out there.
Do not dwell in Scarcity Mentality.
Do not give her that kind of power. There is no way a womna can adequately "judge" you, no matter how convinced she is of her right to do so, that she can tell exactly who you are and what you are capable.
Do not ever fall into a Woman's "Frame".

Make yours the strongest it can be.

Good luck.

What was the video he posted, it's gone. Anyone know what it was?

 

[squirrels]

You have to want it enough.

There's nothing anyone is going to say on this retarded forum that is going to suddenly make you get up off your arse and talk to a girl. You have to will yourself to do it.

Do you want it or don't you?