How can i get something out of an x-frienship

[Pbizzle]

Im new to these forums,, glad to be here.

Im 25 years old,, ended up falling for a single mom of 29 years of age,,, SMOKING HOT GIRL. Many men liked her,, but really messed up emotionally.

Being 4 years younger and her having a son, i never thought i would fall for a girl like that so when i first started talking to her,, although i knew she was smoking hot i never saw myself dating her. So i was naturally relaxed when i met her,(we are both musicians) so with our mutual interest in music we developed a good frienship,,, although ofcourse there was flirting involved but nothing serious, atleast on my part.

I tried to hook her up with one of my older friends,, i figured they had more in common being singleparents and all and be closer in age.

long story short, eventually i ended up liking her,, and I guess she felt the same way, she would send me provocative pics and would say things like we will be married in a few years and i see myself with you in the future,,,, anyways,,,, being my friend i didnt really use Game on her... i figured she knew me well enough that she would just appreciate the fact that i was a nice guy who treated her great and helped her get her self esteem back and even helped her get into college. Her son LOVED me,,,,so i figured i had all this going in my favor,,, eventually she meets this other dude who seduces her and F#$# her within a month of knowing her..... He's not better looking than me at all,, but he has GAME,,,, she fell back into being deprssed used and abused,,, but that HURT me

little by little I stopped talking to her, i was nice to her but kind of dry ,,, she took notice of it (silent treatement). Its been 2 months,, and i barely contact her anymore, although she still writes to me in emails like once a week,,, she's even sent me a pic of her self....

Basically,,,,, im not gonna do that nice guy BULL S$#$ AGAIN with any girl,,, ill be a good man,, but im not gonna let a girl walk all over me, and ive met NEW girls,, have had a couple of encounters,,, learned from my mistake and im developing my own game,,, but still this chick is on my mind,,, I MEAN SHE IS SMOKING HOT!!!

Is there anyway way of rekindling a relationship, a romantic one,, and getting something out of it, physically speaking??? how do i go about doing that??? i mean i want to get something out of the 15 months of frienship hell i invested into her.....the only source of communication we have left is email.

 

[ready123]

anyways,,,, being my friend i didnt really use Game on her... i figured she knew me well enough that she would just appreciate the fact that i was a nice guy who treated her great and helped her get her self esteem back and even helped her get into college. Her son LOVED me,,,,so i figured i had all this going in my favor,,,

now you know being platonic does not equal attraction. if you wanna be her buddy, you act platonic. if you wanna hook up, you ATTRACT her

little by little I stopped talking to her, i was nice to her but kind of dry ,,, she took notice of it (silent treatement). Its been 2 months,, and i barely contact her anymore, although she still writes to me in emails like once a week,,, she's even sent me a pic of her self....

how do you think she interpreted this? if she has any kind of social intelligence, she'll think that you were just being nice so you could sleep with her

Basically,,,,, im not gonna do that nice guy BULL S$#$ AGAIN with any girl,,, ill be a good man,, but im not gonna let a girl walk all over me, and ive met NEW girls,, have had a couple of encounters,,, learned from my mistake and im developing my own game,,,

recognize with this girl, she didn't walk all over you. she gave you a window of opportunity and you didn't take any action

 

[KontrollerX]

Yeah dude you dropped the ball with this chick.

She was sending you provocative pics and you didn't get the message and invite her to your place to watch a movie so you could isolate her and maybe get some hot action going.

You blew it but it seems she may still be interested in you so see if you can re-establish regular communication with her and if she seems happy and interested to be talking to you again invite her over and do what I said.

I think the first time around she just thought you weren't interested so dude you really friendzoned yourself with her but as long as she didn't do that to you you're good and you may have a second chance at this.

Also I think Squirrels or another poster made a brilliant post that talked about false nice guys that genuinely think they are nice guys but they do things like you have such as being friends with this woman with the expectation that because you have been so nice you should get something great in return.

You see true genuine niceness and truly being a genuinely nice person well someone that is genuinely these things acts this way because its who they truly are not because they are looking to get something by being that way.

So change your mindset of expecting something for acting nice bro.

Lots of us were like you in this way at one point but this site woke us up that we were self deluding ourselves and we weren't really as nice as we thought.

 

[xdreamz]

where there's a will there's a way...

 

[Last Man Standing]

Tsk, tsk, approaching a hor as a woman, or a friend, will always bring failure!!! It has not been known to be otherwise!!!!

 

[xdreamz]

perhaps the wrong question is being asked... have it not being a matter of how to get something out of x-friendship but why?

 

[xdreamz]

i'll tell you what it hink... i see deep inside you a hero.. a man who had a dame kidnapped by the villain and a call for you to rescue her again.

your emotions and deep feelings you have toward are guided by your desire to PROVE YOURSELF. to show that you aren't ordinary Joe but you are that mean green sex machine and you will go through all hell to break on through to the other side.

now go out there and fight until it's too late.

 

[j0n024]

I ask as well why do you want something more? I mean what is the point what do you want out of it really? If it is just sex there is other women you know, I mean if your going to just talk to her and sleep with her and then drop her it seems like a waste of time to me. But to each his own, What I would do is call her(You did say you were close so I assume you have her number) and set something up, this time GAME her and at the end of the night Kiss close her! This will show her that you arent the "Nice" guy you were back then and show you actually have balls and a sex life. From there she can either ask you in or stop your advances it seems to me she will pick the first one but if she picks the latter then drop her and move on. It seems to me you are starting to goe oneitis if she say's no drop her and never think about her again! She alrady has a kid and you said so yourself she already Fvcked a guy in a month so she is cleary a slut.