How bad did I blow it?!

[mecca411]

Went out with this girl after about a week of phone tag with her leaving a message and then me and then about an hour conversation on the phone that went really well. We had a blast on the date...went to a comedy club a few other places for drinks..a few other random places and then ended up at a coffee shop where we had a really nice chat. Got the feeling that she really liked me since she touched me quite a bit.

Took her home at 5am. I wanted to take some of the pressure off so I decided early on that I would just end it with a nice hug and kiss on the cheek. So that's what I did. I know I could've kissed her if I went for it, but we were in my car and I just wanted to keep it simple. That was last Saturday night and it's now Wedsnesday. Did I blow it with the kiss on the cheek?

M.

 

[DreamerZZ35]

All you need to know is that she kissed you on the cheek. A woman with high ROMANTIC interest does not kiss you on the cheek. She kisses you on the lips.

When a woman kisses you on the cheek she is making a very powerful statement.... we're JUST freinds. She kisses her girl friends, her dad, her brother and close male freinds... all on the cheek. She kisses her lover on the lips.


Its even worse if you kissed her on the cheek... A)because she things your saying I like you but not romantically and even worse B) your a guy who doesnt have a lot of confidence and is weak.

Unless you are 100% sure the chick is hot for you... ALWAYS go for a kiss on her lips!

 

[Genghis Juan]

Whoa

Dont rush to judgement just yet! You didn't go for the kiss close on the first date, and she voluntarily kissed you on the cheek. That doesn't sound like a "death-knel" sceanrio to me.

On the second date, when you feel the time is right, go for a kiss close my friend.

 

[LostbutFound]

Yeah bro, a kiss on the cheek doesnt mean the end of the world. Sometimes girls dont want to come off as a slut and I gaurantee she was thinking "oh God if I kiss him on the lips after only one date, hes gonna think Im easy". I gaurantee it.

Dont get your hopes up yet. If you dont hear from her by tonight, give her a call just to say hi. Nothing more. Do not stay on the phone for an hour like you did. That is too much time for her to find out everything about you, and she could lose interest quick because there is nothing more to know about you when you guys hang out.

Keep her in suspense. Next time you go out, go for a kiss on the lips. That will show her that you know what you want. If she backs away, then you know where you stand. Doesnt mean you have to dump her and think she just wants to be friends (though it could, so watch out) but it could mean that she wants to go a little slow. I say just go for the kiss anyway.

And by the way, if you dont get a hold of her and she dont call you back within a week, forget it, chances are you're in her "friend" zone.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Relax guy - if she went various places with you until 5 in the morning and she was laughing and touching you then she definitely has interest in you. Don't sweat it...she probably saw the hug and a kiss on the cheek from you as being gentlemanly and not that you were scared but just that you were trying to be proper.

Next time keep phone conversation short and use phone to set something up in person.

 

[Trance]

You went for a date with her. When a guy goes for a date with a girl that isnt his friend for a long time, his intentions are obvious. You want to kiss the chick, no one goes to a date with a not long time girl friend without wanting more than being friend.

Most of the girls know this, the only ones that dont know this are the insecure ones. So we got 4 possibilities:

a) The girl is not insecure, knows what you want, she as well has made up her mind about you, and when you try to kiss she:
a1) kisses you back - you got her
a2) doesnt kiss you back - you may go for a 2nd date, but start preparing the next. If she doesnt kiss on the 2nd date, then next her, she's just an atention *****. Also, Let some days pass by to see if she calls you back. If she does and wants to setup a date, its a good sign, and go for the 2nd date kiss.

b) The girl is insecure. She may like you, and doesnt realize the obviousness of your intentions with her. In this this case when you try the kiss:
b1) doesnt kiss you back - she may be the "nice" girl type, who wants a comitment. If she's really interested, this kind of girls you contact you because they may be afraid you took it wrong not kissing you on the 1st date.
b2) kisses you back - got it, and she's even stunned on how wonderfull that this is happening.

 

[mecca411]

I was the one who said "I'll call you soon", so I expect that she would wait for me to call her back first. I was going to call her this evening and aske her to a movie tomorrow night, but I'm not even sure if I can make it since I have friends coming into town tomorrow evening. I thought I'd call and say whatup anyway. She's also leaving on a trip this weekend so we won't be able to make any plans. Should I call her up regardless of whether or not I decide to ask her to a movie?

M.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Best advice I'm going to give you in this case is "Do not listen to Dreamer in this spesific case"

Not going to answer because most other people already did so just listen to just about everyone except Dreamer that has already replied.

 

[Trapspringer]

If you intended for her to call first, then you shouldn't have said that you would then you can wait for her call to test her interest. You said you would call so call. You've waited enough days already. Don't let her go on that trip without contacting her. Allow her to think about you whiel she is on it. It sounds like things went well but girls seem to almost always remember who said who would call next.

 

[LostbutFound]

Ok, you said that you would call her soon. So of course shes gonna not call you...That would make her look desperate(especially since you've only been on one date) and girls would never intentionally show they are desperate.

Give her a call just to see whats up, dont make plans with her. Just simply say you wanted to say hi and see how shes doing. Keep it short (around 15 minutes or less) and at the end, just say I hope your enjoy your weekend trip, I had a great time with you, when you get back, give me a call and lets go to another movie....or some other type of activity. Dont let going to the movies be your only place to bring her, that will get really old really quick.

This does several things: It shows that you have interest, but arent desperate or looking to rush into things. You are showing control by telling her to call you when she gets back. If you said "would you like to go to another movie sometime??" thats shows you're desperate. The way I said to say it in the second paragraph doesnt show that. Its confident. Try and notice the difference. Finally, this will also show just how much shes interested in you. If she calls you as soon as she gets back, shes very interested and was thinking of you.

Good luck, and no matter what happens (like if shes not really interested in you that way) just keep your head up and keep her around. you never know...she might have a friend that sparks even more interest in you than she does!!! Trust me, its happened to me several times, I get into a relationship, then meet more of the girls friends that I didnt meet before, and we click big time. Funny how that happens huh?!?