How are you asking her out ?

[Bingo-Player]

Ok so you've met a chick you like you have approached and made yourself known

You've had some flirting with her , exchanged a couple of messages

( we all know how it goes )

The time comes to shoot your shot

( obviously all of these are dependent on indvidual circumstances but IF you have the option too do any of them which are you taking .....)

Are you asking her in person ?

Over message ? I.G , WhatsApp , text whatever ?

Over the phone ?

Post your reasoning along with your choice

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For me I will always prefer in person or on the phone

I feel like a message is just too easily ignored and too easily blown off

You get her on the spot she's going to have to come up with something really fast to blow you off plus hardly any guys will do it these days

 

[Dr.Suave]

If her interest is high, it wont make a difference if if you ask her out in person, call, or text. She´s gonna say yes.

 

[CornbreadFed]

text

 

[pipeman84]

I voted 'in person' because you can't read body language (which is a more important part of communication than words) over text. IMO 99% of interactions with a girl you have romantic interest in have to be done in person ... otherwise what's the point?

 

[The Duke]

Usually I like to get them on the phone. I can size a person up pretty well in 20min of talking with them. I want some back and forth dialogue. it helps me anticipate how likely they are to flake in the future. I can tell if they have some crazy or not. It's a good filter. Too easy to project a false persona thru pics and texts.

It sets me apart from the average guy. Many have told me.

If she is really into you, it won't matter how you do it. If she is on the fence you might score some points by calling.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I have never asled a girl I met IRL via text/ohone. Likewise only once did a girl ask me out via phone. All the rest were in person.

 

[Bingo-Player]

If her interest is high, it wont make a difference if if you ask her out in person, call, or text. She´s gonna say yes.

True but not every girl you meet will be high interest straight off the bat and some will sh1t test you

Given how emotionally chaotic and indecisive women are it could really depend on the moment you catch her in

 

[EyeBRollin]

Get the number. Then call her.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

Don't ask her out til after you've banged. Gives off weak beta vibes.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Don't ask her out til after you've banged. Gives off weak beta vibes.

Then 99.9% of men are weak betas lol.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Don't ask her out til after you've banged. Gives off weak beta vibes.

Very few women past 25 are going to randomly smash a guy without some form of investment from him and the younger ones that will , are only going to do it whilst they are blackout drunk at the end of a night of partying

Everything teaches them now too maximise male investment , its why dating apps have gone to ****e

 

[Dr.Suave]

Don't ask her out til after you've banged. Gives off weak beta vibes.

No need to wait until after you bang. You can ask her out while you are still inside of her: "Nice tits. Btw, would you like to hang out some time?"

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Don't ask her out til after you've banged. Gives off weak beta vibes.

This^.

Been saying this for a while and it goes in one beta ear and out the other.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

No need to wait until after you bang. You can ask her out while you are still inside of her: "Nice tits. Btw, would you like to hang out some time?"

Future SS thread: "Woman ghosted me during sex."

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

I hate phones, they are a blight upon the Earth.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Putting labels on things brings expectation to the table, "Let's go have some fun" is something you can say to anybody and if they are feeling your energy they'll tag along because everyone loves to have fun.

Its a great opening line, but it's often met with "im busy" or "I'm broke"

So you follow it up with "Well when are you NOT busy?, NOT broke, so we can have some fun together"

They keyword is fun, the second your asking it's already over, you tell her your gonna have fun. A woman who likes you will laugh at any joke you have to say, the bar is incredibly low when the interest is genuine. If your asking, you should first be asking yourself if the interest is genuine, if not, why even ask in the first place, it's just unnecessary work. Move on into abundance, don't flounder in scarcity.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

"are you up for grabbing a drink sometime and connecting in person?"

Have used that about 50 times and it always works.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Usually, they ask me out first tbh