How about a little help?

[SPLITER]

Hello gentlemen,

I'm new here to this forum, so let me just say...Great Site!
In anycase, I'm asking for some help/advice on a matter that so far I haven't had any experience with.
Here's the deal: I work in the same building as a female that I've got designs on. We are both working a long ways away from home. We often talk, and share some pretty personal information about each other. Actually, it's amazing how much we have in common with each other. Let me tell you that she is one fine looking woman. We can and have sat and just talked for litterally hours with each other. I can tell that she's got quite a liking for me, and often when we're talking I can see the sparle in her eyes that I've come to know oh so well from a woman. Just yesturday, she suggested that we get together for a drink, but becuase of our diferent work shedules that's easier said then done. But I know that I'll eventually work something out. By this time you're saying "what's the problem?" well, here's the catch. She's married with kids, and so am I. There's no doubt in my mind that she just wants to do things on a friends basis only (at least consciencely) but I can tell sub-conscienecly she wants to be more then that.
Do you guys have any tips that I might be able to use to help her cross that line from friends to other things?

Thanks in advance

 

[John11276]

Don't get involved. Leave it at work. She's probally not getting any attention at home and with kids she could be having some regret. Stay far the **** away, it's a time-bomb.

Ask yourself this, if you do have the drink and one thing leads to another do you want to be step dad? Do you want to hang out with a lady and her trophies?

 

[PreceptMan]

It sounds as if a friendship is blossoming... Do you appear to be mysterious at all? Or does she enjoy your company and think you are nice. If that is the case, sorry, unless you would like a platonic friendship. Louis.

 

[Player_Supreme]

Splitter, I am probably the last person you should listen too but:

1. your married and so is she. think about what if....
2. you work in the same building...think about what if....
3. think "."

 

[b's nuts]

if it was just your life you could screw up, but no. her kids, your kids. Then think - child support, lawyers, court. Stop thinking with your **** for a second. Fvck man, i hope i know when to pull my head out of my ass when i am older.

 

[John Juan]

Here's my advice: get a DIVORCE, then go about fvcking whoever you want to! That would be best if you were single, but since you were dumb enough to have kids with this woman before figuring out you wouldn't be satisfied sexually with her long term, I guess cheating on her beats paying for an escort or blowing your 401K at a titty bar..

Here's how you do it: just invite her for a drink somewhere dark. Wait until she has that sparkle again. Then, as if spontaneously, see if she wants to go check out a movie with you on the spot (plan it out so that you'll have time to hang out for a drink or two before heading over to film you just so happen to want to see with her).. believe me if she has the hots for you she'll jump on it pronto. the opportunity to be alone in the dark with you. And I don't need to even begin with all the opps for kino, etc at the movie theatre.. Good luck with it, but really that is ****ed up to cheat on your wife and mess up your kids in the process.

WHY MUST WE CONTINUE TO SUPPORT A RETARDED INSTITUTION LIKE MARRIAGE!!! ARRGH!

-jlc style