Hottie on the train

[Life-Trainee]

Several times a week while taking a train to work I see this hottie. She gets on at the same stop as I, so there's a little time to chitchat at the train station. So far i've only said hi to her but she's been pretty reserved with her responses. I could ask her for a number but in my opinion it would seem desperate because I don't usually talk to other "regulars" at the train station. What's the DJ community standing on such apporaches?

 

[NewMan]

Negative ghost rider the pattern is full....


I don't cold approach.

I suggest you find an "In".

Does she read a book? is she wearing anything unusual? etc. etc.

Either pick something up about her so you can open with a question - or ask her for some advice regarding something....

Perhaps you comment on you've noticed she dresses well and you want her advice on something that your going to buy your sister....

I just think that cold approaches, especially when you've not established ANY kind of relationship with her (chit-chat and what not) is a very slim chance fo success.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Yeah, you need to gain a bit of rapport with her if you want to do anything with her. Since she gets on at the same station as you, it could be assumed that she lives in the same neighborhood. If that's the case, why not strike up a conversation about what's going on in your neighborhood, find out what she does there in her spare time.

You can finish it off talking about some new restaurant or coffee shop that's nearby and ask if she'd want to check it out after work. If your rapport continues to go well after work you'll have a better 'in' for her to offer you her number.

 

[Uncle FranKKK]

I take the train to work every day, too, and I've run into this A LOT. The BEST thing you can do is make her laugh about something. Not always possible but look at what she's wearing, where it looks like she's going, etc. Women often have some weird thing on them that they're DYING for you to bust their balls about.

The WORST thing you can do is to say nothing. When I'm waiting for the train in the morning, I made a rule that I stake out the best looking woman on the platform who doesn't have a ring on, and start SOME kind of conversation with her. Smetimes they won't make eye contact or anything and I have to resort to pretending I don't know what train I'm gettin on. But I don't care. At least it's something. One time I did this to a GORGEOUS 24 year old 6 foot blond, and she turned out to be the goofy little girl who lived down the street from me when I was growing up. I wasn't aware of her then, too young for me to care, but daaaaamn she turned into a gorgeous NCAA all conference swimmer.