CaptainFenix
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Hi fellas,
I have a story for you and would like your input and opinion regarding this situation.
So back when I was teenager at 14 (im 34 now), I crossed paths with this girl and her friend, and she was all giggly and super interested. Then they went inside a building and a few minutes later appeared on a balcony and called me up. I went to their apartment and this 14 year old girl gave me a *******! As a 14 year old kid, this was a pretty memorable experience to me, so I couldnt avoid telling my friends about it... eventually it got to her that I was telling people about it and she "broke up" with me by saying to my face to "fck off" and that she never wanted to see me again. She then moved to another country with her parents and I never spoke or seen her since.
Fast forward to present day, I am 34 now. And out of the blue she texts me on instagram saying that she has read my book (I am a book author), and was back in town and would love to catch up and pick my brain about the book and what not. I told her she could join me while I go hiking with my dog and we could chat along the way. She tags along and we end up at a beach laying next to each other, a lot of touching and sexual innuendos going on. During the next couple of days she invites me over to her place for dinner, I kept the sexual tension up by casually touching here and there and after dinner I offered to give her a massage. While Im rubbing her back I get a boner and I make sure she feels it "accidently", she starts moaning and moving her hips showing all the signs that she wants the "D". She then says Ive got my period, I act clueless and say "Im just giving you a massage" then I said I had to work real early in the morning and we should continue some other night. She comes back with "yeah next week is better, Im ovulating!" I thought is this girl the same kinda crazy that I am? Because I am a father, but I want more kids (dont judge me fellas, it is what I want), so I thought maybe she wants kids too, and therefore could be a good match.. so we hugged, and she tried to kiss me, but I acted clueless again and gave her the cheek.
The next days it was on! She was super interested, texting me continuously and asking stuff like what I was doing, if I wanted to do something together with her, and she started calling me "love". We did a bunch of outdoor activities together like walking the dog, hiking, kayaking and hanging out. She even said that she mentioned me to her mom and her mom wanted to meet me (WTF, right?), so super interested super quick.
We make plans to get take out sushi and watch a movie at her place. During dinner she is super flirtatious and after we eat, she "bumps" into while we are cleaning up, and we end up hugging. I get a boner, and we start making out. She leads me to the bedroom.
After we get naked I start fingering her, and get the "D" out, I slide into her raw, she seems ok with it. And then all of a sudden she pulls away and says "We need to use a condom, Im not on the pill". That was such a turn off to me, because I was not looking for a hook up or sechs just for pleasure... what really turns me on is having sechs with someone who might give me a kid... (again dont judge me, it's just my thing). So I end up fingering her, and while Im fingering her, I say that Im just going to put my "D" in her and not move... i slide it in and finger her until she comes, then after she comes, I couldnt help it and I came too, inside her.
This happened on a friday, on saturday I went to the beach with my nephews and didnt hear from her all day. Then on sunday we exchanged these messages (see first 2 images)
We met and she said she was mad because I left her to deal with getting the morning after pill by herself and what not. I kinda reinforced that I wasn't into hookups and wouldnt mind finding someone to have a family with... she seemed to get over it and became all lovey dovey, we made out in my car, took pictures and everything seemed fine. She invited me over for dinner next day, monday. When I arrived she was dressed real hot, with short denim shorts and open white blouse, she cooked an amazing dish in the oven. Clearly took her some time and effort.
We chatted over dinner, had fun, and after dinner sat on the couch and she came onto me, we fell onto the floor playfully, she felt my boner, but I thought to myself "this is the girl that was mad at me for no real reason, and she knows what I am looking for (someone to have kids and a family with), so no point in engaging in sechs again because she already showed that she doesnt want the same as I do", would just be a waste of my energy... so I jumped up, said I had to work in the morning. Hugged her and left... I thought this should show that I am serious about what I am looking for and that she would only get the "D" if she deserved my seed.
And now things get interesting, from a psychological point of view. She goes cold and says nothing for 4 days, I kept thinking of her everyday. Im being honest, but I kept it cool for 4 days, then as the weekend approached I sent her a message saying
"Not sure if youre ghosting me, but i had a very busy week and now was planning my weekend and wondering if i should include you or not"
She replies only the next day with "Hey - not really sure how to react to this message. Does not feel good"
I reply 4 hours later during my lunch with "Well you didnt say anything the whole week... So i didnt know what was up"
She does not reply. I then make plans to go to the beach with another girl on saturday, so that I would forget about the first girl and actually move on instead of just pretending to move on. And I posted to instagram a picture of and this girl having a drink by the beach. Honestly I did it to show the first girl that I had more girls interested in me and it was her loss. Im not sure if it backfired because she didnt reach out. I couldnt stop thinking about her, and why was she so interested, to the point of even telling her mom about me and then went cold so quickly.
Then on sunday I decide enough is enough. This first girl does not deserve the mindspace Im giving her. I was thinking about her nonstop. So a switch went off in me and I deleted her number, which deletes my picture on her whatsapp... and surprisingly monday morning she send me this message:
"Hey, was taking some space as I was super triggered by your message. Everything has softened up now. I don’t feel like we’re the right fit for anything more than a friendship. I feel sad about it. It is what it is. It’s been good to catch up with you. Happy for you and all the wonderful things you’re building in your life and am wishing you all the good things in life - I hope there is no hard feelings"
I havent replied yet. So that's the story fellas, whats your take on things? Why was she so interested then cold all of a sudden, what would you have done differently? I wonder if I should just have fcked her brains out the first night, even with a condom... because I wonder if she realized she wasnt getting the D from me then she just went to get it from someone else... Most importantly how would you play it from here? Just ignore her, or say something like "sure, friends it is"
I have a story for you and would like your input and opinion regarding this situation.
So back when I was teenager at 14 (im 34 now), I crossed paths with this girl and her friend, and she was all giggly and super interested. Then they went inside a building and a few minutes later appeared on a balcony and called me up. I went to their apartment and this 14 year old girl gave me a *******! As a 14 year old kid, this was a pretty memorable experience to me, so I couldnt avoid telling my friends about it... eventually it got to her that I was telling people about it and she "broke up" with me by saying to my face to "fck off" and that she never wanted to see me again. She then moved to another country with her parents and I never spoke or seen her since.
Fast forward to present day, I am 34 now. And out of the blue she texts me on instagram saying that she has read my book (I am a book author), and was back in town and would love to catch up and pick my brain about the book and what not. I told her she could join me while I go hiking with my dog and we could chat along the way. She tags along and we end up at a beach laying next to each other, a lot of touching and sexual innuendos going on. During the next couple of days she invites me over to her place for dinner, I kept the sexual tension up by casually touching here and there and after dinner I offered to give her a massage. While Im rubbing her back I get a boner and I make sure she feels it "accidently", she starts moaning and moving her hips showing all the signs that she wants the "D". She then says Ive got my period, I act clueless and say "Im just giving you a massage" then I said I had to work real early in the morning and we should continue some other night. She comes back with "yeah next week is better, Im ovulating!" I thought is this girl the same kinda crazy that I am? Because I am a father, but I want more kids (dont judge me fellas, it is what I want), so I thought maybe she wants kids too, and therefore could be a good match.. so we hugged, and she tried to kiss me, but I acted clueless again and gave her the cheek.
The next days it was on! She was super interested, texting me continuously and asking stuff like what I was doing, if I wanted to do something together with her, and she started calling me "love". We did a bunch of outdoor activities together like walking the dog, hiking, kayaking and hanging out. She even said that she mentioned me to her mom and her mom wanted to meet me (WTF, right?), so super interested super quick.
We make plans to get take out sushi and watch a movie at her place. During dinner she is super flirtatious and after we eat, she "bumps" into while we are cleaning up, and we end up hugging. I get a boner, and we start making out. She leads me to the bedroom.
After we get naked I start fingering her, and get the "D" out, I slide into her raw, she seems ok with it. And then all of a sudden she pulls away and says "We need to use a condom, Im not on the pill". That was such a turn off to me, because I was not looking for a hook up or sechs just for pleasure... what really turns me on is having sechs with someone who might give me a kid... (again dont judge me, it's just my thing). So I end up fingering her, and while Im fingering her, I say that Im just going to put my "D" in her and not move... i slide it in and finger her until she comes, then after she comes, I couldnt help it and I came too, inside her.
This happened on a friday, on saturday I went to the beach with my nephews and didnt hear from her all day. Then on sunday we exchanged these messages (see first 2 images)
We met and she said she was mad because I left her to deal with getting the morning after pill by herself and what not. I kinda reinforced that I wasn't into hookups and wouldnt mind finding someone to have a family with... she seemed to get over it and became all lovey dovey, we made out in my car, took pictures and everything seemed fine. She invited me over for dinner next day, monday. When I arrived she was dressed real hot, with short denim shorts and open white blouse, she cooked an amazing dish in the oven. Clearly took her some time and effort.
We chatted over dinner, had fun, and after dinner sat on the couch and she came onto me, we fell onto the floor playfully, she felt my boner, but I thought to myself "this is the girl that was mad at me for no real reason, and she knows what I am looking for (someone to have kids and a family with), so no point in engaging in sechs again because she already showed that she doesnt want the same as I do", would just be a waste of my energy... so I jumped up, said I had to work in the morning. Hugged her and left... I thought this should show that I am serious about what I am looking for and that she would only get the "D" if she deserved my seed.
And now things get interesting, from a psychological point of view. She goes cold and says nothing for 4 days, I kept thinking of her everyday. Im being honest, but I kept it cool for 4 days, then as the weekend approached I sent her a message saying
"Not sure if youre ghosting me, but i had a very busy week and now was planning my weekend and wondering if i should include you or not"
She replies only the next day with "Hey - not really sure how to react to this message. Does not feel good"
I reply 4 hours later during my lunch with "Well you didnt say anything the whole week... So i didnt know what was up"
She does not reply. I then make plans to go to the beach with another girl on saturday, so that I would forget about the first girl and actually move on instead of just pretending to move on. And I posted to instagram a picture of and this girl having a drink by the beach. Honestly I did it to show the first girl that I had more girls interested in me and it was her loss. Im not sure if it backfired because she didnt reach out. I couldnt stop thinking about her, and why was she so interested, to the point of even telling her mom about me and then went cold so quickly.
Then on sunday I decide enough is enough. This first girl does not deserve the mindspace Im giving her. I was thinking about her nonstop. So a switch went off in me and I deleted her number, which deletes my picture on her whatsapp... and surprisingly monday morning she send me this message:
"Hey, was taking some space as I was super triggered by your message. Everything has softened up now. I don’t feel like we’re the right fit for anything more than a friendship. I feel sad about it. It is what it is. It’s been good to catch up with you. Happy for you and all the wonderful things you’re building in your life and am wishing you all the good things in life - I hope there is no hard feelings"
I havent replied yet. So that's the story fellas, whats your take on things? Why was she so interested then cold all of a sudden, what would you have done differently? I wonder if I should just have fcked her brains out the first night, even with a condom... because I wonder if she realized she wasnt getting the D from me then she just went to get it from someone else... Most importantly how would you play it from here? Just ignore her, or say something like "sure, friends it is"
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