Hook me up

[jobluek]

Hey guys,

I'm a little hesitant on this situation with a new girl, so throwing the bone out to you guys for some feedback.

Met a new girl on Friday through school. I'm taking night classes for a graduate degree, and it was a social hosted by the program. We hit it off well, somehow I ended up with her friend's phone number and we all agreed to meet up on Sunday for a local parade. On a side note, I thought it was cute that both her and her friend found me on facebook like an hour after the social was over.

We met up on Sunday, I brought a friend and there were about 6 of us total. We all went to a parade then out for dinner. We talked/flirted, she was laughing at all my jokes, so I got a good vibe. However we didn't get any alone time for me to make a move.

What's my next move here? My friends are saying that straight-up asking her on a date is bit of a put-off and that I should try and have another group thing, but I'm not that close with her friends--I met her best friend at the same time as her. I have one semi-good mutual friend but we only hang out once in awhile and don't want to make it awkward. If it matters, she's a petite little asian girl who seems to fit the stereotypical "shy" mold.

The logic part of my head is saying to wait a couple weeks to see what happens, but I don't really want to. I've lost out on a lot in the past from waiting on things to come around.

Any words of wisdom?

 

[jobluek]

Any feedback, guys?

 

[Kailex]

Work on getting her phone number.
You said you had her on your facebook, right?

I hate facebook gaming, but if you have no other means of getting her number in order to set up a date, then do it. But do it and get straight to the point.

Your friends are dumb. Why waste your time trying to find out whether she likes you or not when the quickest way to find out is by asking her out. If she doesn't want to give you her number or go out, then you can stop wondering about what to do next and move on to the next one.

 

[BobMo']

^^
What he said.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Take her on a date that isn't a date. Tell her there is a place you want to go and that she should come with you. If she is shy, then you have to lead the way.

 

[jobluek]

Just following up with you all to let you know how this one turned out.

We were both on facebook chat a couple times and talked briefly, I invited her out a couple times but she said she was busy both times. After she said no twice, I stopped talking to her.

About a month ago I ran into our mutual friend at the gym and we started chatting, and she invited me to her place for a barbeque and mentioned the girl would be there. I figured I'd talk to her in person to gauge interest level better.

The barbeque was fun and light but was a little disappointed that they wanted to a) not drink, and b) end at about 10:00pm. However since I was the only one with a car, I offered to give her and her friends a ride home. On the way to dropping them off I asked if they usually end this early, and they said they usually have an afterparty somewhere. I say let's get it going, pull a U-turn and head to the nightlife section of town. All in proper fashion, I got her drunk and made a move and it was well received. We've actually been dating ever since! Truth be told, I had to go "AFC" on her for a moment, she kept asking why I liked her so I had to say sweet things to get the desired reaction. It worked well!

She is by far the most shy person I've ever met and won't talk to anyone that isn't her friend, which is funny because I'm the exact opposite. She mentioned she had no idea I even liked her until I made a move on her, and she was reluctant at first because she was confused, she kept asking why I liked her. Also she mentioned she never was blowing me off before, she actually was going out of town the previous two nights I talked to her.

Anyway, just thought I'd follow up and let ya know how it went!