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I think I see,and/or have seen,girls as something to just be well,used to get pleasure from,and the point is to see how many you can get,how much action,etc. I don't know if this contradicts all the advice on here,and I am not even speaking through much experience,but this is how I have felt. I know all that "nice guy love romance" stuff is b.s,and it only works after you have maybe been with someone for some time,something I haven't had, I am getting older,and things seem slipping further behind,so what to do?
 
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I say hi to several women per day at my job,why can't I take that and put it into other situations? Like at a bar,or out shopping somewhere...
 

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Because you are a self absorbed pvssy boy who will not listen nor take action, that's why.
 

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Because ur forced to do it at ur job. Its a requirement. In the dating world its different as ur more afraid of being rejected personally(which it isn't), but when ur working u can blame the rejection on it being just cuz u work there, which can be a safe zone in ur mind. But as warrior said, go out there and get through ur fears.

The DJ Bootcamp is excellent for beginners, try that.
 
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I realize,I am just confused more than anything. I mean,you talk about the signs,the body language,the showing interest,how do you do it? How do you know? Is it something instant,or takes time? Maybe I am confused about the reality of relationships/sex.and gender roles and all that. or maybe it's where I do fit in and don't. all these questions... Is it about just getting laid,or chemistry,the right match/coupling? Are women more interested in love/relationships,or quick bangs and ons's? Reading sites like this,http://www.nerve.com/regulars/missi...-marathon-man-but-i-just-want-a-quick-sprint/ and all the advice in magazines,maybe that confuses me more.
 

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There is no confusing this fact: NO woman wants a depressive, lazy, excuse-making, drag of a human being, with no sense of self love or self worth. Not the ugly ones, and not even the fat ones. Why do you not see this?

Your only hope is to: 1. see a shrink, and get on meds. 2. Hit the weights 3. Find some kind of religion/spirituality.

I had a spark of hope from you when you claimed you were going to make an appointment with a therapist. (depending on the state you live in, you might have to see an actual shrink to get meds. Find out, before you waste money, cuz I think you need meds.) You also said you would start working out, but theres no way you have the motivation for that.

If you ever want to get laid again, see a shrink, and get on meds. When you start to feel better, you will have more motivation and energy. Then start working out. When you feel and look better, THEN you can worry about your 'game.'

I would like to see you succeed, but I dont like reading your threads, cuz it makes me downplay my own laziness/depression/excuses. Yeah, Im a lot like you, but I know my self worth, and I know its worth doing everything I can to change, and I do change myself. Granted, not anywhere near enough as I should, but I do. Thats why I fvcked two girls last week alone, while you were whining to your keyboard. If I would just get off my ass and start working out, I would SLAY the bytches. But, like you, I am depressed and lazy. Yet, everyday when I wake up, I think about everything I am grateful for, and I TELL myself that I am changing for the better every day in every way. I also constantly correct my thinking to be more positive. That alone, works wonders. I have the ball slowly rolling, and it will only start rolling faster and faster. You, on the other hand, just lay there like a lump. Get off your ass, boy.
 

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So what exactly are you asking? If you want "action" then go look up PUA methods. Stay here if you want to improve your life, self confidence, career, health, and just life style in general. That's what being a DJ is all about, then the girls will be flocking to YOU. "Lovey dovey" romance is only BS if you make it that way. Don't search for it. Improve YOURSELF and your LIFE and it will find YOU.
 
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Well,that's one of the reasons I feel the way I feel,no action,and the seemingly inability to do anything about it,and the years of potential experience gone by. Most people,around my age,or younger,know what they want and what they like,or am I being unrealistic even? Am I making it into something more than what it is? This is what's been killing me,the time of not taking action gone by,and just drifting along. Oh,such poetry. Why didn't I get the motivation/energy sooner? Why didn't I try to improve sooner? This is what's bogged me down.
 

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There is absolutely NO point in offering this loser advice. None at all. He does not follow suit, but rather just poses more questions (The EXACT Same ones) over and over.

He is either a completely pussified IDIOT, or a troll. Every single post follows the same outline. Why didn't I do this sooner? Why can't I grasp it? Why am I so confused? Is it something from earlier development, or is this just who I am? What makes someone attractive? I'm confused becaues I feel I've never known that my life, like a part of me has been missing. Is it too late? I feel like its too late.
What should I do?

WAIT, don't tell me...Because I won't listen anyway!

Instead i'll just ask some more pointless questions and ponder my life away!



I think he should be banned from this site. He is wasting so much space with his drivel.

End of story.

If anyone disagrees I challenge you to read through every single topic he has made without wanting to blow your brains out. :rockon: :crazy:
 

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Jaggs said:
There is absolutely NO point in offering this loser advice. None at all. He does not follow suit, but rather just poses more questions (The EXACT Same ones) over and over.

He is either a completely pussified IDIOT, or a troll. Every single post follows the same outline. Why didn't I do this sooner? Why can't I grasp it? Why am I so confused? Is it something from earlier development, or is this just who I am? What makes someone attractive? I'm confused becaues I feel I've never known that my life, like a part of me has been missing. Is it too late? I feel like its too late.
What should I do?

WAIT, don't tell me...Because I won't listen anyway!

Instead i'll just ask some more pointless questions and ponder my life away!



I think he should be banned from this site. He is wasting so much space with his drivel.

End of story.

If anyone disagrees I challenge you to read through every single topic he has made without wanting to blow your brains out. :lol:
Some people just don't know how to pick themselves up by their bootstraps. Those people need to realize life does not come easy, every day is a challenge and if you want something, or you want yourself to become anything, you have to sacrifice to achieve it. Life is not easy, get over it.

A waste of space, indeed.
 

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CapedCrusader08 said:
well,I only ask cause I am trying to find an answer.
And why would anyone but yourself be able to give you that answer? We don't know you.

Look inside yourself. Be realistic. Dont sugarcoat your life. Own up to the reality of your life and take responsibility for whatever you think may have been the root of how you feel now. Life is about choices, choices guide us and make us who we are.
 

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This is a male varient of an attention *****. Please stop respodning to his posts. When he sees that there are no replies to the threads he makes he will just go bother some other website. We all wanted to help you CC, you just choose not to listen.
 
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Well,I called the therapist,so now I am waiting for a call back and see where it goes from there. I will report back what happens.
 

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CapedCrusader08 said:
Well,I called the therapist,so now I am waiting for a call back and see where it goes from there. I will report back what happens.
WOW!!! Are you serious? You really called a therapist,huh? Well I hope this guy can help you out man,I really do.
Now generally,I intentionally,ON PURPOSE,DO NOT RESPOND to your threads.Even when I have the knowledge to the question you ask,I still don't respond.
I just don't feel like wasting my post and getting entangled in your mental,backwards,web of never-ending thoughts and questions like the other posters here who keep frustrating themselves trying to help you.

When you said that you were going to call a therapist,I didn't believe you. I thought you'd just say that,then instead of actually doing it,you'd just get all lost in your head again and start another meaningless thread,which I'm sure you will do,but at least you did take a minor step towards some help. The only thing I don't understand is why you can't take the same energy you used to actually call a therapist and use it towards the small step Warrior74 suggested you do. Please,please,don't start up again with the "Well,the problem with me is..." crap. We already know,you're upset that other guys younger than you are dating and in relationships,you're upset that you missed out on sex and girls when you were younger,etc. We know man,we know. The only reason I wrote this reply is because you (for once) actually did something. You actually took some sort of action. Small yes,but it's better than another "Well,the problem is" thread.

Like I said,I hope the therapist can help you out.
 
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well thank you. I actually laughed at the sarcasm in you're post. On another note,who else here has,or had,the same problem as me and gotten over it? Why can't I do the suggested exercises? It's all in my head I guess,I get up,go to work,come home,with few time off. It's all lifestyle I guess. It's a social thing,something that's been a hinderance,something that may or may not leave this indellible mark on me. I mean,does no one really care either way,and I am letting this bother me?
 

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CapedCrusader08 said:
On another note,who else here has,or had,the same problem as me and gotten over it?
Me. In fact I think I recognize you from another board.

I'm sure many others here too have felt as badly as you do.

Therapy's a good start.

GL!
 
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what board would that be? Also,maybe this is just a maturity thing as well,for I still feel like I am the same person in high school,so perhaps my frame of reality was too impacted by that,and I feel even left out of the adult world. Or it was years of missed out school even. That was an educational setback,screwed me up good.
 
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