honestly guys i would just like some sense knocked into me!

[bobafatt]

I broke up with my ex girlfriend around 2 years ago, that's right...2 years! We have been on and off ever since, she got herself into a relationship around 6 months after we broke up but we still did talk to each other occasionally and when things started to turn sour between her and the fella, we found ourselves sleeping together again.

It all started when she broke up with her then boyfriend around xmas time, she was sleeping with me at the time and decided that she wanted to give things another shot between us, I agreed and we hit it off pretty well...for a month!

To cut a long story short after a month of bliss i found myself depressed and upset as she decided that things weren't going to work between us and i catch on that she is back with her then ex.

I cut all communication, blocked every platform, EVERYTHING!

Fast forward to the start of this month, after things not working out between her and her fella, AGAIN! i find her getting back in contact with me through another persons number telling me that she had something very important to tell me. I ignored for about 2 weeks until one night she called me off a number i didn't recognised and i answered.

She told me that she had been pregnant with my baby, things had not worked out between him and her, that she missed me and the reason why she decided to leave me for the second time was all of my fault.

The last two weeks i have been in slight contact with her, we ended up going to a gig together Wednesday just gone, we even stayed in the same hotel room together and slept with eachother again.

I really don't understand her behaviour...even mine for that matter! I just need some advice on what to do, a rocket up my ass maybe?! i know this isn't healthy but i love the girl so god damn much. Its like she doesn't want me but at the same time doesn't want anyone else to. We get on so well together when we are with each other and i am blinded by all of her traits.

If you have read this far, thanks!

 

[jurry]

I like how you just casually slip in that shes pregnant with your baby, lolz..

 

[bobafatt]

Stop talking to this nut. She's using you as rebound to infalte her ego!!

She doesn't love you. Sorry, but she doesn't and you have oneitus. The only way to cure this is to deal with a little pain now and MOVE ON while you still have the upper hand and end it on YOUR terms. It will save you much heartache. She will cheat on you again and dump you again, and if you keep crawling back to her she'll always see you for what you are: a little b!tch.

So stop while youre ahead. It's a little tough love, but that's what you said you needed. I think you know you need to do this, you just don't want to hear it. But youll do it and thank yourself a few months from now you have two new plates.

Yeah i agree with everything that you are saying.

I get to a point where i am doing fine and then she suddenly she comes back into my life, its been going on for way too long now and deep down i do know what i have to do. It just ****ing sucks because i know that it is oneitus that i have and that she is just using me for her own ego, which hurts!

 

[bobafatt]

I like how you just casually slip in that shes pregnant with your baby, lolz..

lolz and total BS! she tried to contact me through facebook on three separate occasions telling me that she needed to speak to me, i blocked her on there and also blocked her mobile number. She still managed to ring my two good friends one night asking to speak to me - they also ignored her. The one evening i get a call from a random number and its her. I should of just put the phone down as soon as i knew it was her.

She jumps through hoops to get in contact with me, tells me that she doesn't want to lose me, that i was her first love blah blah blah, but then treats me like dirt. Tells me that she misses me but only wants to be friends. Total head ****!

Writing this down is making things clearer, just need to vent and for others to give me some advice, Thanks guys appreciate it!

 

[ZTIME]

I broke up with my ex girlfriend around 2 years ago, that's right...2 years! We have been on and off ever since, she got herself into a relationship around 6 months after we broke up but we still did talk to each other occasionally and when things started to turn sour between her and the fella, we found ourselves sleeping together again. You allowed yourself to get back together with her after that 6 month period of time more then likely because you had no other options. For 6 months you let this girl string you along with random texts as she was sucking some other dudes......well you get the picture. That six month period of time should have been spent working on yourself so that you look better, have more confidence, and attract a better class of new chickadees.

It all started when she broke up with her then boyfriend around xmas time, she was sleeping with me at the time and decided that she wanted to give things another shot between us, I agreed and we hit it off pretty well...for a month! It was really great for a month??? Why? because you hadn't had sex in 6 months and finally got some? I'm sure when you got back together you both just fell into the same sloppy routine and she got bored. Why would you want her back anyway? Just for future reference; If you drop a penny, when you pick it up it doesn't turn into a $100 bill!

To cut a long story short after a month of bliss i found myself depressed and upset as she decided that things weren't going to work between us and i catch on that she is back with her then ex. It will happen again...If you decide to let it!

I cut all communication, blocked every platform, EVERYTHING! And yet, still didn't learn and got back in contact with her??

Fast forward to the start of this month, after things not working out between her and her fella, AGAIN! i find her getting back in contact with me through another persons number telling me that she had something very important to tell me. I ignored for about 2 weeks until one night she called me off a number i didn't recognised and i answered.

She told me that she had been pregnant with my baby, things had not worked out between him and her, that she missed me and the reason why she decided to leave me for the second time was all of my fault. RUN!!!! and while running start goggling paternity clinics!!

The last two weeks i have been in slight contact with her, we ended up going to a gig together Wednesday just gone, we even stayed in the same hotel room together and slept with eachother again. You are seriously a glutton for punishment! I'm guessing this girl is at most a high 5, and your confidence is so far in the gutter that you're letting a high 5 walk all over you. Why??

I really don't understand her behaviour...even mine for that matter! I just need some advice on what to do, a rocket up my ass maybe?! i know this isn't healthy but i love the girl so god damn much. Its like she doesn't want me but at the same time doesn't want anyone else to. We get on so well together when we are with each other and i am blinded by all of her traits. Please spend the next several weeks reading in this forum. Look @ the sh*t people put themselves through. Please start working out and taking better care of yourself. And please start reading the DJ Bible. If you choose to do none of these things, we are bound to stumble across 20 or more threads posted here by you about some fuc**d up chick that you cannot handle.

If you have read this far, thanks!

Don't want to sound harsh, but if you don't change yourself, you're going to be dealing with chicks like this for a long time. Ohh, last word of advice...."Never get back together wit an ex!"

 

[El Payaso]

You're an idiot for constantly going back to her. How's that for knocking sense into you?

 

[bobafatt]

Don't want to sound harsh, but if you don't change yourself, you're going to be dealing with chicks like this for a long time. Ohh, last word of advice...."Never get back together wit an ex!"

I am a regular to the gym and i would say in the best shape i have ever been in, training for my first marathon and have now moved to a completely different area where there are more job opportunities. I'd agree that i am an idiot for letting it go this far and being walked all over - she has just always been able to worm her way back in and blind me.

I know that's its oneitus and that what i am saying you have probably heard all before, i know that the best thing to do is find another chick where i can start a fresh, yet i still let her off and forgive her for all of the things she has done to me. why?? yes i think you are right, my confidence is low - i need to find self belief in myself again.

After tonight i have decided that i will no longer let her treat me like an emotional tampon, when and if she decides to get back in contact with me i will politely tell her to **** OFF!

what is the best way to deal with this? what should i say to her that will leave me walking away from a terrible situation but my head being held high. After this i can move on and try and find some one who actually cares for me...

 

[Skyline]

Go get a fraternity test.

The last thing you need is a baby that isn't yours. Never trust a girl like this with something like that, it could be one of her exes or other guys she has banged. Remember, you were the weak one that she encountered. In her eyes you are the weak and easy provider that she can CONTROL.

 

[ZTIME]

I am a regular to the gym and i would say in the best shape i have ever been in, training for my first marathon and have now moved to a completely different area where there are more job opportunities. I'd agree that i am an idiot for letting it go this far and being walked all over - she has just always been able to worm her way back in and blind me.

I know that's its oneitus and that what i am saying you have probably heard all before, i know that the best thing to do is find another chick where i can start a fresh, yet i still let her off and forgive her for all of the things she has done to me. why?? yes i think you are right, my confidence is low - i need to find self belief in myself again.

After tonight i have decided that i will no longer let her treat me like an emotional tampon, when and if she decides to get back in contact with me i will politely tell her to **** OFF!

what is the best way to deal with this? what should i say to her that will leave me walking away from a terrible situation but my head being held high. After this i can move on and try and find some one who actually cares for me...

Brother, first off when I told you that if you didn't change yourself that you would continually deal with this situation over and over. Not just with this chick, but with several.

When women realize you lack confidence, they'll always believe they can walk all over you. You say you stay in good physical shape, so you should have no problems there. But you really seem to pedalstalize this one girl you like, and based on repeated behavior in all humans, trust me when I tell you it's not just this one girl you'll have this problem with. The next one will be the same.

The best way to deal with this girl you're currently having issues with is to just walk away. Don't answer her calls or reply to her texts, just walk away. Heck...Delete her # and never talk to her again. You owe her nothing. According to your own story, this bi*ch cheated on you twice!! Why would you ever owe a skank like that any thing from you. You sound like a good guy, so value yourself and write this one off.

Remember; "they're not one in a million. they're one of a million". This mindset will work best for you.

 

[bobafatt]

Brother, first off when I told you that if you didn't change yourself that you would continually deal with this situation over and over. Not just with this chick, but with several.

When women realize you lack confidence, they'll always believe they can walk all over you. You say you stay in good physical shape, so you should have no problems there. But you really seem to pedalstalize this one girl you like, and based on repeated behavior in all humans, trust me when I tell you it's not just this one girl you'll have this problem with. The next one will be the same.

The best way to deal with this girl you're currently having issues with is to just walk away. Don't answer her calls or reply to her texts, just walk away. Heck...Delete her # and never talk to her again. You owe her nothing. According to your own story, this bi*ch cheated on you twice!! Why would you ever owe a skank like that any thing from you. You sound like a good guy, so value yourself and write this one off.

Remember; "they're not one in a million. they're one of a million". This mindset will work best for you.

Golden advice man, seriously! Many thanks for taking the time to reply. You are correct in everything you say and I can see your point in changing my mind-set or otherwise set myself up to a similar situation in the future (with a different plate).

I will follow your advice and I will not be contacting her ever again, I mentally cannot deal with it any more. That is where part of the problem lies I think - I always feel like I owe it to her.

Anyway, I feel a lot better now venting my anger and actually talking to somebody about it.

 

[bobafatt]

Stop talking to this nut. She's using you as rebound to infalte her ego!!

She doesn't love you. Sorry, but she doesn't and you have oneitus. The only way to cure this is to deal with a little pain now and MOVE ON while you still have the upper hand and end it on YOUR terms. It will save you much heartache. She will cheat on you again and dump you again, and if you keep crawling back to her she'll always see you for what you are: a little b!tch.

So stop while youre ahead. It's a little tough love, but that's what you said you needed. I think you know you need to do this, you just don't want to hear it. But youll do it and thank yourself a few months from now you have two new plates.

this is exactly what I need to hear

 

[BrainDamage92]

I broke up with my ex girlfriend around 2 years ago, that's right...2 years! We have been on and off ever since

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:



You havent broken up. And she never cared for you the same way she doesnt care about her fool now. Youre not special. She isnt aswell.

Breaking up is when you dont communicate with someone for at least half an year (the more the better) if the thing lasted long before that. You ****ed up. Youre a dog. On a leash. Face the music and grow the fuk up. And growing the fuk up means learning the definition of no contact and applying it correctly.

 

[Yewki]

Yeah i agree with everything that you are saying.

I get to a point where i am doing fine and then she suddenly she comes back into my life, its been going on for way too long now and deep down i do know what i have to do. It just ****ing sucks because i know that it is oneitus that i have and that she is just using me for her own ego, which hurts!

The part in bold... isn't it sad how you know this, but you keep letting her back in your life anyways? Think about how pathetic that is a for moment. You're out of control. You're like a heroin addict who can't stop. Get your sh*t together.

 

[gravityeyelids]

What makes you think that this time it will be any different? It's happened multiple times to you and it will happen again. She's just happy she has a sap to fall back on when the other guys realize how much trouble she is and get the common sense to bail on her.

I get it. It's hard to completely walk away fromm a girl you've shared your life with. But you are bigger than this and you have a life outside of her. You have the entire country and world to explore. You can move whereever you want, get a job wherever you want...travel to different cities and meet great girls all over the place. Or...you can just settle for a girl who will inevitably break your heart again and again until she legitimately leaves you and never contacts you again. Then you will have wasted precious young years of your life that you could've spent making friends and meeting great women and bettering yourself.

Oh, and make damn sure that the baby is in fact yours before you make any decisions.

 

[soulforge]

Dude bail from this sh@t.. been in a similar situation to this two years ago...

When i eventually got over her.. my biggest regret was losing my self respect and dignity..

Dont do this over a sh@t woman like this

 

[bobafatt]

Dude bail from this sh@t.. been in a similar situation to this two years ago...

When i eventually got over her.. my biggest regret was losing my self respect and dignity..

Dont do this over a sh@t woman like this

#

When you finally decided to bail from your old flame. What did you do?

 

[bobafatt]

What makes you think that this time it will be any different? It's happened multiple times to you and it will happen again. She's just happy she has a sap to fall back on when the other guys realize how much trouble she is and get the common sense to bail on her.

I get it. It's hard to completely walk away fromm a girl you've shared your life with. But you are bigger than this and you have a life outside of her. You have the entire country and world to explore. You can move whereever you want, get a job wherever you want...travel to different cities and meet great girls all over the place. Or...you can just settle for a girl who will inevitably break your heart again and again until she legitimately leaves you and never contacts you again. Then you will have wasted precious young years of your life that you could've spent making friends and meeting great women and bettering yourself.

Oh, and make damn sure that the baby is in fact yours before you make any decisions.

HALLELUJIA!