Hold your head high for many reasons

[InExtremis]

I don't really know how helpful this will be but it has definately helped me in a variety of different situations.

We all know to keep our heads high as a good sign of confidence for obvious reasons. But this has its benefits in other area's, even with other males.

I discovered how powerful this really is when I used to hang around a dodgy area of my town. In the space of 6 months I was in 2 really sticky situations, both of which I got out of luckily, 1 through me and my mate running our a**es off, and another when the police arrived and sorted things out. Now my mate (quite street-smart, he's pretty poor and grew up in these area's) gave me some really good advice that I have now been using for a long time. He said to never look down when walking past a group of people who look like giving you trouble, it will make you look submissive IMMEDIATELY and will almost garantee that they will take advantage of it. Its hard to fully express how true this is.

I used to hang my head low in these situations to try and look invisible, and it always landed me with getting picked on, which further reduced my confidence as well as increased my chance of getting physically hurt. But by performing the simple act of holding my head high and looking straight, I have never been bothered since.

Im aware that this isnt directly related to DJ, but it does highlight other interesting benefits in showing signs of confidence, both with males and females, plus im positive it has kept me out of a lot of nasty confrontations.

Just my spare of the moment contribution.

 

[windwork]

thank you
i enjoyed reading your post and your story

 

[coh]

One of the important things a DJ must do is to always walk like he owns the place, to think of himself as the King. Because what you think of yourself is what you become.

 

[Jimbo2k]

So when your walking by a group of people, do you completely look straight ahead and avoid eye contact? Or do you glance over at all?
Good tip btw.

 

[DJ_Dork]

This has been covered earlier this week, stop repeating.

 

[coh]

Dork (heh),
This has been covered a million times, not just earlier this week, this isn't a rule of DJ'ing, it's self-confidence in general. Sometimes a story and a reminder is what members need to improve and perfect their game. If it really bothered you that he repeated, you wouldn't have clicked on the topic as it is self-descriptive.

So when your walking by a group of people, do you completely look straight ahead and avoid eye contact? Or do you glance over at all?

Just glance for half a second and that's about enough. Or you can avoid eye contact. But don't stare, that makes you look nervous.

 

[InExtremis]

Originally posted by DJ_Dork
This has been covered earlier this week, stop repeating.

Sorry Dork, I didn't realise that someone already posted a tip on avoiding unwanted contact from trouble-makers. Not trying to offend, but my point wasnt just to "look" confident for the sake of DJ-ing, but that it has its other benefites outside of the picture. If it was just about appearing confident, then I wouldn't have bothered.

Originally posted by Jimbo 2k
So when your walking by a group of people, do you completely look straight ahead and avoid eye contact? Or do you glance over at all?

Thats a good question Jimbo that I hadn't thought of in my original post. You can glance over quickly as coh mentioned, but just make sure you don't have an insecure or worried look on your face. Personally I now avoid looking at them for the following reason. I remember in my 2nd "situation" (see above) .. my friends were getting more flak than me because they were trying to talk their way out of the situation and be friends with the guys causing the trouble. See they were getting more flak because buy talking to them, the ****heads pressuring us would just find way's to turn what they say around and use it as an excuse to punch them in the face etc.. I mention this because I didnt utter a word or make eye contact (they had obviously already stopped us), so they couldnt think of a reason to give me sh1t, BUT one time for about 5 seconds while my friend was fighting one of them, I accidently stared at the guy doing it ... so of course it was "you staring at me B1tch!?" up in my face and waiting for another reason to start a fight.

So making eye contact is something that can only be judged by you I guess. Based on how I think the people im passing are .. sometimes i might make I contact with one and just say a subtle "sup" or head nod and they'll return it. But if they've been on the p1ss and are looking for reasons, then something like that is enough to to start something.

Like I said before I don't want to pollute this board, I value it a lot and I feel it doesnt really relate to it. Anyway, just passing on the message. Hopefully for the greater good.