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[RosieT]

Hey guys I'm new. I'm a female and I came across this forum cause I was searching google w/ a question I had. So maybe you can help me out. I go to the gym and this guy asked me out. I have a bf, I told him that, but he said we can be friends...etc, the usual. So since then, like last week, I saw him a few times and we said hi. But, I think I wanna give him my number now not to pursue anything just to kinda have it. So number 1, is this wrong? And number 2 what should I say since I basically turned him down, not mean...I said we can be gym friends .

 

[oneboy21]

You gotta decide what you want!
Do you really want this guy to call/text you when your bf is around. if your bf see's this kind of stuff will he be ok!


Answer my question please!

 

[RosieT]

He has friends who are girls and he has numbers in his phone of every damn person he's ever known so. Its not like I'm planning to speak to him all the time or anything.

I want to be with my boyfriend, but it can't hurt to have a banging guy friend. I just don't know how to give him my # when I just told him no I have a bf...?

 

[oneboy21]

When he smiles at you just say, how are you....
he opens up and you guys talk and ask him to met up for coffee and then tell the truth

 

[RosieT]

Why are u like every guy who doesn't listen...lol. He already asked for my number, I said no. But now I think I wanna give it to him, so. What should I say- Hey I changed my mind here..? What u mean the truth?

 

[oneboy21]

tell him that you have a boy friend and you just wanna be friends no more than that

 

[RosieT]

I told him that already, but I didnt give him my #, now I wanna give him my number...

Some other opinions pleaseeeeee!

 

[RosieT]

He hasn't been at the gym this whole week either...urghhhhh

 

[Desdinova]

NOOBS, pay attention to this thread. This is what happened to your girlfriend. This how she dumped your ass for that other guy.

Remind me to never ask for your number, RosieT. You're not very trustworthy.

 

[RosieT]

Well of course it sounds bad after I asked the question, but I'm a good girl. I never cheated on a guy. Something happened between me and my bf where we broke up and I was screwed cause I was a good girl and had like 2 guys numbers in my phone where he had everyone he has ever known. We got back together, but I'd like to have a plan in the future.

So whats wrong w that...? He has girl friends... whats the difference...

 

[RosieT]

Plus who says these guys who get dumped didn't deserve it. Keep your woman happy guys....

 

[Desdinova]

I'm a good girl.

I have yet to meet a genuinely 'good girl'

Plus who says these guys who get dumped didn't deserve it. Keep your woman happy guys....

Not a problem. I actually know how to keep a woman happy enough that she doesn't feel the need to get phone numbers from new guys she meets.

We got back together, but I'd like to have a plan in the future.

If you need to be planning your bf's replacement, then you have a lousy relationship. And the fact that you've already broken up with him once doesn't make for a very good foundation of trust.

So whats wrong w that...? He has girl friends... whats the difference...

There is no 'I'm going to be the better person' when it comes to chick logic.

It sounds like you're following your feelings. The guy asking for your number made you feel good, didn't it? When was the last time your bf made you feel good like that?

 

[SoSuaveDude]

No offense Rosie, but you, like most girls, are an attention *****. When a guy show's interest in you, you run away and pull back. However, when they move on or withdraw their attention to you, you begin to chase and lead them on again. Why else would you suddenly want the guy's number? Seems a bit superfluous to me...Also, why are you thinking about a 'backup plan' for your current boyfriend. With that pessimestic attitude, you should just end it now. Once again, no offense, but this is all true.

 

[Desdinova]

When a guy show's interest in you, you run away and pull back. However, when they move on or withdraw their attention to you, you begin to chase and lead them on again. Why else would you suddenly want the guy's number?

I can probably answer that better than she can

It's the excitement of it all; the emotional rollercoaster ride. What's amazing is all the guy at the gym had to do was ask for her number and then disappear. Now, he's stuck in her head and she's dwelling on it. When a guy gets stuck in a girl's head, she starts to become attracted to him.

 

[gaspipe]

No offense Rosie, but you, like most girls, are an attention *****. When a guy show's interest in you, you run away and pull back. However, when they move on or withdraw their attention to you, you begin to chase and lead them on again. Why else would you suddenly want the guy's number? Seems a bit superfluous to me...Also, why are you thinking about a 'backup plan' for your current boyfriend. With that pessimestic attitude, you should just end it now. Once again, no offense, but this is all true.

So damn true.

 

[RosieT]

Well everyone likes attention. So do you... But, I get asked for my number often so its not a novelty that I would get all smitten over. It makes me feel good, but thats about it. Theres no way to say this without sounding ****y and I'm sure someones going to give a sarcastic comment, but that week I got asked by 3 other guys at the gym and wasn't having thoughts about them. The guy is ridiculously good looking and my type.

The breakup didn't have anything to do with trust. It was mutual although I was very upset, and wasn't over cheating or anything like that more like arguing and needing a break. I'm not planning a replacement just simply saying hey if worst comes to worst I won't be alone crying I'll be texting a fine ass man which I'm sure will make me feel a little better.....

And yes I will give it to you, I'm sure it is mostly because I haven't seen him . Also I've been with my boyfriend 3 years and my last breakups of 3 and 4 year relationships were basically because I became bored for various reasons.

 

[oneboy21]

" The guy is ridiculously good looking and my type"
That does it!

How do you know he is your type, when you barely talked to him for few minutes

 

[Desdinova]

The breakup didn't have anything to do with trust.

I know it doesn't, but when you get back together, you can't have a solid foundation because there's already been one breakup, so what's to stop a second one?

I'm not planning a replacement just simply saying hey if worst comes to worst I won't be alone crying I'll be texting a fine ass man which I'm sure will make me feel a little better.....

A lot of women will keep one guy on the backburner when they're not satisfied with their relationship. They need to stir up some excitement to keep their lives interesting, and finding a 'spare' is one way to do it.

I'll bet if your BF was providing enough emotional excitement, you wouldn't even be thinking about this stuff. You wouldn't need that little rush of some hot dude being a potential candidate for a bf.

 

[jammy1257]

First of all this is stupid, he asked for your number then you refused but NOW you want to give it to him?
This thread should get closed and RosieT should be banned, this is a huge timewaste, we all know what she's about. Case closed.

 

[RosieT]

I mean type as far as looks.

Well I mean I'm not totally satisfied because he's very closed emotionally, he's gotten much better but still some type of wall.

But why can't the guy just be my friend I'm not saying I will do anything, is it really so wrong?