Hitting on girls from work

[housedejacques]

Hello gentlemen.

So, I work for this huge IT company. We're around 5000 I'd say.
There's a lot of girls. Some are ugly and some are pretty.

I wanna seduce these girls.
Now, some background. I just got out from a relationship with a girl from work, and I'm sick and tired of monogamy. I'm young and when I look around and I see all these people in LTRs, I think, "Jeez, how boring" I wanna be single and live it up.

So I'm not looking for a girlfriend. I'm looking for some strange.
There are three girls at work that I like. Girl A, Girl B and Girl C.

Girl A I met a couple of times and I thought she was really cool and sexy. So one day I invited her to go grab a coffee with me, we talked for a while, and I told her to give me her number, so that we could go out on a date. She was taken aback, but still cool about it. She said her "guy" wouldn't probably appreciate it. But that I could still have her number, in case I ever needed anything. That's one cool gal. Ever since, whenever I see her, she says hi, she smiles, she seems happy to see me. She likes me, maybe only as a person.

Girl B I'd seen twice in a company building different from mine. Once we were standing next to each other at the coffee bar, and I felt that she wanted me to talk to her. I did, some time later, at a party. First girl I ever really opened. Now, this girl would stare at me all the time while on the party. She touched me a lot. She said I was really handsome. She also spoke regularly about her boyfriend. The signals were very mixed. I decided to move fast, so I asked her out twice (not that night!). First time, she said she was busy. Second time I asked her out, she flat out said, "Look, I can't today, and it's not an excuse. But some other day, why not? But as colleagues. My heart's already taken" I said, "Of course, what were you thinking?"

Girl C is I girl I like quite a bit. I had seen her a couple of times, we'd speak about everything and nothing. At a party I got her going and I could sense something stirring inside of her. I let it drop like an idiot, and I haven't seen her again.

Now, all's good. I'm not looking for a girlfriend. I'm not desperate. I think I have what it takes to eventually pull some ass. I'm working on myself: my body, my character, my worldview, my chump reflexes, my lifestyle, I wanna buy some new clothes. I'm good looking (this is what has gotten me girlfriends in the past). Build 'em and they'll come. But I wanna figure stuff out and not go around bumping my head into walls.

I'm seeing a couple of things here:

1) If I try the date angle, these girls are gonna feel a lot of pressure on them. I'm a colleague, and we live in a small town. By going out with me they put their reputations at stake. You can't be seen out and about town with some guy from work and then not be his girlfriend, because people are gonna start talking. This is what I'm sensing.

2) Then again, it might be just the girls in LTR who think that! Girl A & B, I felt they were interested, but they're both in LTRs, and they both spoke about it in timely fashion. All the touching and hand grabbing in the world means nothing if they won't stop speaking about their boys. However, I still think point 1) applies.

3) When these girls told me to just be friends, they seized the frame, and I walked right into it. I agreed to become their friends, and now the frame is theirs. If I ever decide to try and make a move, I'm gonna cause a lot of noise in the frame. I'm short, they've LJBF'd my ass.

There's a bunch of pretty girls in the company, and there's girl C who I find really sexy. I've thought of contacting her through our message system and asking her out -no different than texting, right?- but I'm gonna be playing the date angle with her, and I feel it's not gonna work. I'm a guy from work.

So, I'd like your opinion on:

1) How does one go about sleeping with girls from work? I sense that it's best to be as straight-up about it as possible. You get to a know a girl, you escalate a little bit, and you're honest about your intentions. But, you can't escalate in the office. And this is really dangerous. What about my reputation? I'm only recovering from AFCism, I'm still vulnerable to the shame game. Besides, can I really just tell them that I wanna sleep with 'em?

2) Could the date angle even work with these girls? I could just take them to a neighboring town so that nobody will see us. I could even work this into my approaches. "Yeah, let's go out to town X, 'cuz I like it better than town Y". I'm also thinking that I need to let it be know really quick that I'm not looking for a relationship.

3) What could I do with Girl C? Isolate her at a party, game her, escalate and then have her leave with me? Try the dating angle? She seems like one of those sweet girls. I don't know if she'd up for a ONS or a casual relationship. But who knows? Nobody knows how women might behave.

So there. I tried to mix questions with observation, so you guys don't think I'm lazy.

Thanks in advance!

House of Jacques.

 

[Iceberg]

Other guys may disagree, but I rarely ever ask a girl on a "date". It just puts too much pressure on the situation.

A girl....especially a girl in a relationship...wants to "accidentally" wind up in bed with you. They don't want the "honest with your intentions" / "we're definitely gonna bang" approach. Well, this is just my opinion of course...different people have different styles of game.

The way you invited Girl A to grab a coffee with you, is the way I game women. "Hey, let's get a drink." It's under social pretenses, but the facts are: I'm attractive, she's attractive, and we're meeting 1-on-1 for drinks. So, it gets you where you want to go without SAYING it.

Also, if you're worried about your reputation around the office, then this game isn't for you. And I don't mean that in a bad way. I'm just saying, I've dated plenty of girls from my various offices. But I work in advertising, where sex and drinking is almost encouraged. If I worked in a more serious industry, as you do, I wouldn't do it so much. Because I assume people with less-fun jobs have their reputations to consider.

 

[housedejacques]

That's one quick reply! Thanks, Iceberg.

Yeah, no pressure. I could get one of these girls to go grab a drink with me after work, and take it from there. No mention of date or whatever.

My reputation, I'd rather stay true to myself than worry about what other people think. I have flowery-pattern shirts and huge ridiculous reading glasses (there are 0 hipsters where I am, in case you're wondering). People have sneered at me for this, and I sincerely don't care. But I have to be realistic. The people I work with are pretty Serious. So serious, in fact, that often it is boring as ****.

Heck, these people might not even talk about me. Or they might. I might earn a reputation, but it'll take a while.

Yeah. I gotta eliminate shame from my game, otherwise I'll have no game. I'm hearing you.

 

[gaspipe]

If you work in a serious environment where your reputation is important, i,e a lawfirm or doctor's office it can be pretty tricky tying to game a co-worker. I dont recommend it unless of course it appears that you are getting all the signs and IOIs to approach your intended target.

Its much easier if you work in a loose and hip environment like a night club or other venue where you are expected to socialize.

 

[housedejacques]

By the way, Iceberg, how do YOU go on about picking up girls from your advertising gigs?

 

[Maximummax]

The A,B,C girl you are talking about
might use you as a rebound if you get close to them, you are comming to them as a friend. my assumption

 

[WorkingDJ]

Seems to be you are a little forward with the "dates."

Try just saying go grab coffee or something.

 

[housedejacques]

I wasn't really trying to come as a friend to them.
I moved as fast as my beginner's muscles would allow me to. I didn't want them to think I wanted to weasel in as just another friend. They frienzoned me when I showed interest.

So far, all I've told these girls is "What about some drinks after work?"
They both shot me down because they are both in LTR. One of them was legit methinks (A), but the other one (B) is the one who showed interest in a party (touching and whatnot). So I'm wondering, how do you get into bed a coworker who seems interested in you but who already has a boyfriend (IN ANOTHER CITY) all while not coming across as somebody who wants as LTR?

Jeez, I complicate things so much. There's a simple way out, I'm sure of it.