Hit a low point & need help getting out of this rut

[Jariel]

Just recently I feel like I have a huge weight on my shoulders and I can't seem to get away from it.

I'm 10 weeks into my university semester and have failed one of my classes, and after a lot of work, I've had my final dissertation rejected (it infringes on ethics standards and practices), which means I have loads of work to do in very little time if I hope to recover.

I'm also extremely short of money. I'm in a lot of debt and have only £50 available to me until January. This is even more of a problem with Christmas approaching and working would mean I have no time to catch up with my studies. I don't even have much left I can sell on ebay and if it wasn't for my parents bailing me out, I'd be homeless.

I'm in a new relationship, but I can't afford to date and with the stress of studies, I barely have the time or the motivation to see her. Meanwhile I have friends calling me or dropping round my house out of the blue and taking up my time, then other friends who give me a hard time because I don't see them enough.

I have some family members who are seriously ill, which is also playing on my mind.

I can't get to sleep at night, I'm barely eating and I don't have enough energy to keep my regular weightlifting routine. In fact, when I finally have time to myself I'm too tired to do anything productive and end up falling asleep.

Worst of all, my mind is completely clouded and I can't even think straight long enough to read a book. I've been going to classes and nothing makes any sense because I'm too busy stressing about other things.

I feel trapped and ever day I have less money and I'm closer to uni deadlines.

Maybe I'm just ranting, but any advice on how to motivate myself at least would be helpful. Thanks

 

[spider_007]

i'll let you in on something.

EVERYTHING HAS AN END
think about this^





you may be happy one day, i can garantee there will be days that you won't. You'll have a nice car, stareo..... one day you won't (you'll sell it, or i'll die). You'll have a love of your life, and one day she will die (might take a while)


it's how life keeps it self in balance.



the **** your in right now, it'll end too. THE LITTLE CONTROL THAT YOU HAVE OVER IT IS: WHEN IS IT GOING TO END



so the big question is:



"drum roll please"




HOW FAST YOU WANT IT TO END?

DO YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES TO : TAKE LIFE ON

 

[al77]

Originally posted by Jariel


I'm also extremely short of money. I'm in a lot of debt and have only £50 available to me until January.

This is even more of a problem with Christmas approaching and working would mean I have no time to catch up with my studies.

I'm in a new relationship, but I can't afford to date and with the stress of studies, I barely have the time or the motivation to see her.

Meanwhile I have friends calling me or dropping round my house out of the blue and taking up my time, then other friends who give me a hard time because I don't see them enough.

I can't get to sleep at night, I'm barely eating and I don't have enough energy to keep my regular weightlifting routine.

Just apply some common sense: if you don't have currently enough resources do not spend more than you have:

1. Credit cards at least can give you some money for a while.
2. Don't approach for a month or two. Thats not a big deal at all.
3. Make dates shorter in time, only invite her for a walk or maybe a cup of tea.
4. Don't indulge in talking for a long time with "random" friends stooping by your house. For a couple of month other friends could wait.
5. Sleep more! there are plenty of simple methods how to improve your sleep in a natural way. What usually help me is some quite time before I go to bed: no movies\radio. Try to read a book and take a glass of hot milk with honey. 1/2 houer befor eyou go to bed.
6. Exercise just once a week.

 

[whistler]

I'm not you... but

your family, finances, school, and personal health should be your only priorites right now. The rest can wait, and the rest will suffer if those 4 big stresses aren't first under control.

good luck

 

[Jerry Maguire]

Just prioritise, get your school work done. Put everything else off - even socialising until you're on top of your school work, then bit by bit, build it back up to what it was like before.

 

[Jariel]

Thank you for the replies guys, they've helped me feel more optimistic.

I looked into some financial support and help may be at hand. As for my studies, at the worst I figure I'll have to continue next year part time, but it's not the end of the world.

My girlfriend has been cool as she has a lot on over xmas with her studies too and seeing family so we're getting together this week and will see each other after xmas. As for friends, I'll see most of my closest this week and told them I'm doing my own thing over the holidays.

So all in all, things are less stressful, I just need to take it one step at a time.

Anyway, thanks again for the help!

 

[thebsharp]

Hey man, am not sure this will help you out rightnow but this is definally something you should look into in the near future because your financial won't get better and school will get harder. I know what I say will sound like its not gonna work and wierd but this is from first hand experience and knowlege I've gain from being flat broke to a finantually stable guy. Once you know what I know, you will never go back! am talking about working for someone eles.

Look around you, opportunity is EVERYWHERE! its all supply and demand, you have to look for what people want then supply it. Where do you find supply? research. How do I know whats in demand? research. I won't waste my time typing a tutorial here because I know the jockey will dissmiss any leads so if you wanna know more. PM me.