justanotherguy
Don Juan
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There are situations in which I absolutely shine when attracting women. The following situation is the one where I shine the best at, and I'm am writing this because I have finally been able to rationalize it so I can share it with others. It's based on longer term situations like that woman at work/school, or that cute friend that's visiting for the Summer. The more time you have, the stronger it will work because the confusion that you create is that much deeper...
Premise
What is it that makes us like a certain character in a story? What is it that makes us almost hypnotically drawn to them? Ask anyone in the storytelling business (books, movies, radio, etc.), and they'll almost always tell you that it's when a character is multidimensional. However, that is often a term thrown around that rarely gets followed up with a non-situational answer. The multidimensional character is the person who is complex, and when I say complex I mean that they inherently possess a contradiction in their character. In the sake of a story, the complexity of a character arises when a contradictory aspect of their character develops. The hot blond with a gem encrusted cellphone and mini dog on a leash who's incredibly sharp & witty, the innocent girl who deep down has a devilish side to them, the muscly bully-looking dude who's incredibly gentle and soft spoken -- it's the contradictory acts to their seemingly assigned status quo that throw us off guard and thus, peaks our interest.
We are curious and interested in multidimensional characters portrayed in films/books because, by far and large, we are multidimensional ourselves and relate to them. Whether this is done consciously or subconsciously, we create facades for ourselves to counteract our fears and insecurities. When we glimpse at these hidden aspects to a character, we cannot help but be intrigued. So if you can come to terms with your hidden characters, you can then start to manipulate your persona in such a way to create a mystery about yourself in such a way that people will be drawn to you...
Application
In order for this to work, you must be honest with yourself -- look at yourself in the mirror and imagine judging yourself without your life as a context -- I imagine videotaping yourself and watching it as being a good means to figuring it out. When you feel like you have a good grasp of what you are perceived as, the rest is peanuts.
Let me give you myself as an example -- I am seen as a person who is clean cut, prudish and a workaholic. Therefore, the side I must manipulate is my wild, sexual and impulsive side.
So here's the situation -- I'm at work and there's this gorgeous woman in a different department who just started working there. I see her from time to time but whenever I see her, she will not give me the time of day.
Being aware of how I'm seen by others, I will play that part contently. I will sit at my desk and not be phased by her when I work, never breaking my concentration even for her when she walks by, unlike everyone else who will be distracted. From there I will stalk her periphery -- I will go about my business within her site, never paying her any attention, but always somewhat in site. This takes patience, but I'll keep this up, minding my own business, content with how people see me, and even play it up the point where I will almost seem asexual (I'm setting up to create a strong contrast in my character), until I start to become so routine to her. It's this point that is crucial, acting too late or too early can severely cripple the effect. This point will be evident, because you she will start to try to predict me -- either she will look at me to see if I'm not staring at me or expect me to get a cup of water in the corner of the room. When this happens, when she tries to anticipate me, I will indulge her by letting her predict me one or two times, then when I know she thinks she has me pinned, I'll throw a wrench in the system BRIEFLY. For instance, If I'm ignoring her (playing up the asexuality) and she starts looking at me in her peripheral vision, indulge what she expects a couple times, but then the next time she looks at me in her peripheral vision, I'll suddenly look at her with deviously sexual and desiring eyes BRIEFLY, as if I was doing everything I can to suppress it, but failed. Then I will immediately collect myself as if nothing happened with an air of embarrassment, and completely revert to my other self.
It is important to do this briefly because it will heighten her curiosity. Think of the Yin and Yang and the progression of a story. This is only the beginning of the story (a week or two at most), and so far you've only shown her the whiteness of the Yin. But just as that whiteness began to get boring and predictable, you revealed the black dot of the Yang, suddenly creating more depth to you, followed by immediately regression to the white scree. The more convincingly my look was of how much I want to f*ck her brains out and the more convincingly my "asexuality" towards her is, the stronger the effect. From there, continue as if nothing ever happened, and don't be surprised if she starts trying to find ways to start conversation with you. I have done this effectively countless times and the tease another lady's depth has broken down my guard just as many times. From there, it's just a matter of slowly revealing the rest of the Yin and Yang.
Premise
What is it that makes us like a certain character in a story? What is it that makes us almost hypnotically drawn to them? Ask anyone in the storytelling business (books, movies, radio, etc.), and they'll almost always tell you that it's when a character is multidimensional. However, that is often a term thrown around that rarely gets followed up with a non-situational answer. The multidimensional character is the person who is complex, and when I say complex I mean that they inherently possess a contradiction in their character. In the sake of a story, the complexity of a character arises when a contradictory aspect of their character develops. The hot blond with a gem encrusted cellphone and mini dog on a leash who's incredibly sharp & witty, the innocent girl who deep down has a devilish side to them, the muscly bully-looking dude who's incredibly gentle and soft spoken -- it's the contradictory acts to their seemingly assigned status quo that throw us off guard and thus, peaks our interest.
We are curious and interested in multidimensional characters portrayed in films/books because, by far and large, we are multidimensional ourselves and relate to them. Whether this is done consciously or subconsciously, we create facades for ourselves to counteract our fears and insecurities. When we glimpse at these hidden aspects to a character, we cannot help but be intrigued. So if you can come to terms with your hidden characters, you can then start to manipulate your persona in such a way to create a mystery about yourself in such a way that people will be drawn to you...
Application
In order for this to work, you must be honest with yourself -- look at yourself in the mirror and imagine judging yourself without your life as a context -- I imagine videotaping yourself and watching it as being a good means to figuring it out. When you feel like you have a good grasp of what you are perceived as, the rest is peanuts.
Let me give you myself as an example -- I am seen as a person who is clean cut, prudish and a workaholic. Therefore, the side I must manipulate is my wild, sexual and impulsive side.
So here's the situation -- I'm at work and there's this gorgeous woman in a different department who just started working there. I see her from time to time but whenever I see her, she will not give me the time of day.
Being aware of how I'm seen by others, I will play that part contently. I will sit at my desk and not be phased by her when I work, never breaking my concentration even for her when she walks by, unlike everyone else who will be distracted. From there I will stalk her periphery -- I will go about my business within her site, never paying her any attention, but always somewhat in site. This takes patience, but I'll keep this up, minding my own business, content with how people see me, and even play it up the point where I will almost seem asexual (I'm setting up to create a strong contrast in my character), until I start to become so routine to her. It's this point that is crucial, acting too late or too early can severely cripple the effect. This point will be evident, because you she will start to try to predict me -- either she will look at me to see if I'm not staring at me or expect me to get a cup of water in the corner of the room. When this happens, when she tries to anticipate me, I will indulge her by letting her predict me one or two times, then when I know she thinks she has me pinned, I'll throw a wrench in the system BRIEFLY. For instance, If I'm ignoring her (playing up the asexuality) and she starts looking at me in her peripheral vision, indulge what she expects a couple times, but then the next time she looks at me in her peripheral vision, I'll suddenly look at her with deviously sexual and desiring eyes BRIEFLY, as if I was doing everything I can to suppress it, but failed. Then I will immediately collect myself as if nothing happened with an air of embarrassment, and completely revert to my other self.
It is important to do this briefly because it will heighten her curiosity. Think of the Yin and Yang and the progression of a story. This is only the beginning of the story (a week or two at most), and so far you've only shown her the whiteness of the Yin. But just as that whiteness began to get boring and predictable, you revealed the black dot of the Yang, suddenly creating more depth to you, followed by immediately regression to the white scree. The more convincingly my look was of how much I want to f*ck her brains out and the more convincingly my "asexuality" towards her is, the stronger the effect. From there, continue as if nothing ever happened, and don't be surprised if she starts trying to find ways to start conversation with you. I have done this effectively countless times and the tease another lady's depth has broken down my guard just as many times. From there, it's just a matter of slowly revealing the rest of the Yin and Yang.