Stanley
Master Don Juan
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A lot of young women (gen z) are very VERY much not calibrated socially. And Covid certainly did not help.I believe this can happen though I personally haven't ever experienced it myself. Not a single time!! It might be because of the way I look. I don't look threatening and I'm not a beef-cake. I look kind of like Joseph Gordon-Levitt but with a short beard. If I looked like Jason Statham or Vinnie Jones, for example, I could imagine a higher percentage of women being afraid. Or if I was ugly lol.
Last girl (23, hb8) I had a thing with suddenly freaked out and thought I was going to murder her because I joked I was going to toss her in the river... we we're going to a river walk. We worked together in education, knew each other for months, and were talking and hanging alone several times. She said she "didn't know me well" and said I was 'pushy' ...if anything I was the opposite with this one since she was so shy. She ghosted me and later on and told me I intimidated her and she couldn't look me up on socials. I have had girls give me their numbers only to later tell me they think its a red flag I don't have socials and they can't keep tabs on me. That seems odd to say the least, but make sense since most women live online nowadays. That said, girls that clearly just want to bang don't give a **** and are more audacious anyways and i've not faced any opposition there.
Wednesday before Thanksgiving I go out to the bars, mostly 21-25 age group. Most the girls stay in their cliques and most the guys (boys) stay on the sidelines like a highschool dance and do nothing. I'm very good looking and had a girl recently tell me I look like Brad Pitt and Tom Cruise's love child (I'll take it). I note this because as I approached I was met only with smiles from the 10 or so chicks I chatted to and am newer to game and a late bloomer. I came into a packed bar with my friends (all above average successful young guys) and was immediately bombarded by some girls that were friends with my sister, they hugged me relentlessly and I stole their drinks out of their hands like an ******* and they loved it. Meanwhile my buds hung around and did nothing and later asked me why those girls were so into me, 'looks' and confidence I said. These were girls that wouldn't have given me the time of day back in HS as well. We go to some more bars and the same thing. Girls in cliques, guys on the sidelines, most on their phones. I approach groups of women and they are receptive, but when they ask me for socials and I say I don't have any they outright said "you might be a serial killer! lol" or "That's weird why not"? Now this isn't every girl, but I have seen and experienced it and I consider that someone severely lacking in social norms. Could it be a deflection or sign of disinterest? Sure, but not always. I've dated girls who later told me lacking a social presence made me 'odd' and it bugged them until they actually got to spend time with me, in real life, no online or on some app.
Same night different bar, I see a cute chick getting hit on by a bunch of guys she came in with, probably mid 20s. She looks bored keeps looking at me and eventually I come over and start chatting her up and she lights up like a firework. She said I "saved" her from those annoying guys and they were 'creepy'. Yet, I was more or less doing the same as they were albeit more confidently, the only real difference was I was better looking so I wasn't 'creepy'. The overall vibe of the bar hops were consistent amongst the younger men and women. Cliquey, on their phones, lacking in social skills. We end the night at a retro 70s bar, I was probably the youngest guy there. I had blast talking with tons of women who were all older and much more receptive to conversation. They could carry a conversation as well, same things for the dudes. I still walked away with several numbers that night and had a good time, but later went home and journalled the whole thing out.
My takeaway was a lot of young women (and men) are not socially calibrated. If you are really attractive they will likely be receptive to you, if you're not hot you're a creep and weirdo for approaching. The folks who grew up without excessive online media seemed to not have this problem as much. This is obviously anecdotal and biassed, but I wanted throw my 2cents into the conversation.