Hi Guys..New here..

[spree8213]

Hello

New to the board hopefully some of you can answer my question, im still reading the bible ,im almost done. Little history on me..

Im a young looking 21 yr old male.. Nick Carter , or Aaron Carter.... Well thats what everyone calls me in college because i resemble them very much, so i would consider myself good looking..Most of my guy friends usually tell me if i had your looks i would be banging girls everywhere man...Well thats not the case for me im pretty much unsuccesful, why im not sure..

I get alot girls looking at me etc. Even my friends tell me dude she was looking at you, and im always WTF are you talking about no she wasnt..I dont know if im blind or maybe i just dont notice the simplest things

The past few months have been rough for me i asked out about 4 girls that i was feeling.. One number which i dropped after few weeks because i wasnt feeling her anymore.Second girl agreed to go out but then dropped plans, so i didnt bother any more, and 2 rejections.

Some of you may say well you probably getting dropped because you lacking conversation skills.. But thats not the case, at least i dont think so because i asked this one chick out while my friend was hanging around me, and he overheard me what i was saying and said i was pretty smooth. His reply why she stood me up "She is a dumb flaky biatch, and mad disrespectull".. So maybe im just picking the wrong people to ask. But anyways enough of past lets focus on current situation...

There is a girl in one my classes, and last day of class is Tuesday, final exam..She may be interested in me, but im not sure, and dont want to speculate because i did that before and it turned out the girl wasnt feeling me.. Have i talked to her before, yes.. She commented about something couple of weeks ago in the hallway when i was walking, it caught me by suprise because i didnt expect it and we never said to each anything before, then like a week later i come to class get settled and i talk to some other chick in the class, then she talks across the room and says" How did you do on the test" I was like i think i did ok got a like a 90. She was like i did good too,then i was like you know you cheated, and she started laughing and said who hasnt.. Well she suprised me again, shouting at me from across... Then few days later i was walking down the stairs wanted to say hi, she looked at me and then started looking down, so we just passed each other, and on Friday i walk into class, and she looks at me ,so i said hi, and exhchanged few words and sat down in my seat because the professor started to say his line "Quiet down guys"..

But anyways, to the point. I want to do this right and find out if she is really feeling me, and ask her out to hang out after class or during vacation break, i realise this is last time i will see her in class is on tuesday.. I dont have problem approaching her, but im affraid of rejection, and if i get rejected there is a VERY strong possibility i will see her in another class in January.. So i dont want to feel like dic* during the semster and thinking in back of my head damn that chick played me and rejected me.. I know as DJ im supposed to not care,be confident, but i learned from past mistakes and dont want some of the stuff that happen in past to happen again.....

Any suggestion guys? What can i do in this short amount of time? My main problem it seems with every girl is how to ask her to hang out, go out etc... Im pretty fine with approaching, starting little convo, and getting to know the person no fear really approaching as other on the board may have.. For me its breaking that point and asking out/getting # and letting the person know im interested to hang out, go out..

Hopefully some you can offer me some decent advice.. Thanks

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

No you did NOT learn from past mistakes... past mistakes should have told you to NOT CARE and should have rather told you somewhat how you could have gone about it differently. A rejection means only positive because it might teach you something... She seems thoroughly interested in you, i'd just ask her out.

 

[spree8213]

Well i do not care anymore like previously..But you know when you get rejected there is SOME kind of akward feeling for a while when you see the person again.. But anyways you said she seems interested in me, why do you say that? Like i said i have problems going for kill, and its difficult when she is rushing to get to other class on time i mean i cant just say Hi, can i get your # i FEEL you not to build up a little, but maybe im wrong.. Any suggestion how to work the magic in short period of time and ask for the # without looking fooling.. Thanks

 

[spree8213]

Cmon i know someone else can offer some more decent advice for a first time poster here

 

[OpenMind]

"She may be interested in me, but im not sure, and dont want to speculate because i did that before and it turned out the girl wasnt feeling me.. "

This type of thinking is where your problem begins. Change this attitude and you will notice your rate of success go up along with your confidence.. good luck!

 

[MickoZ]

You are interested? I would say yes.

She is interested? Maybe.

You want to know if she if she is.

Then you gotta do so.

That you try now or in 12 years. You will ALWAYS WONDER and remember THAT girl.

You try nothing => you get nothing.

You better regret to have do something... than regret to not have done it and think about it always.

Conclusion: JUST DO IT. (Sound commercial? but that is what you have to do. You say you are not afraid approaching so... if you do it nicely the WORSE you will get is a NO and maybe that will just help her think about you, so bleh. Who know. JUST DO IT FAWK!)

 

[Mr. Fingers]

You are giving too much of your power away by worrying about consequences.

Take CONTROL of the situation, regardless of the possibilities of your hurt pride. Just approach her with confidence, even if on the inside you are shaking in your boots.

Worst case scenario?

She rejects you and you get to find another girl to practice on.

NOTE: This is not a skill you develop overnight, only through repeated failure can you become successful.

I know this is very vague advice so here is a specific tip.

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Dont ASK a girl if she wants to "hang out". It sounds weak.

Have a plan. TELL her you are going someplace specific. and simply invite her along with you. A much more powerful frame!

Example:

"Hey, I am going to XYZ this weekend. Its gonna be good times. You should totally come."

If she is busy that day, TELL (dont ask) her to give you her number so you can get together some other time.

Example:

"You cant make it? Hmmm.. well let me get your number so I can catch up with you for another one of my adventures"

The trick to a number close is to do it CASUALLY and with authority. While you are saying the above, pass her a pen/paper to jot down (or pull out your cell to enter the number)

FINALLY...

Take anything she says to you in stride. In other words, dont get all happy and silly if she agrees and dont get all pissy and depressed if she declines. Just be cool no matter what.

Above all, hammer this phrase into your skull:

Women desire to be led, not feared.

 

[spree8213]

Fingers,

I see what you saying as beating around the bush. Is there another line that gets straight to the point that i could use?

 

[Don Ronny]

Originally posted by spree8213
Fingers,

I see what you saying as beating around the bush. Is there another line that gets straight to the point that i could use?

Fingers post was 100% on point. How do you get more direct than telling a girl you are going out and inviting her along?

I guess you could always say "lets go fukk" if you want to cut to the chase.

Actually, while we are on that subject there is the Gunwitch Method which calls for dirty jokes and bltant sexuality. Doesnt work for me at all but apparently for some guys it does. If you are interested in this method, check out www.fastseduction.com and do a search for Gunwitch.

As for "beating around the bush", Just keep this in mind........

When you invite a girl out with you and also get her number, these are huge signs of your interest in her. She is not stupid. She knows whats up. If some dame ever asks me why I want to go out with her, I usually tell her because looks arent everything and I want to see if she actually has a personality to match her nice ass.

Be flirtatious, spontaneous and they wont be able to resist!