hey all,i've been lurking here for a while,and learned a hell of a lot....reading on pua stuff,etc. this seems to be the best forum,or the biggest,so here i am,names ironage.
i'm 39,single,never married...I work a blue collar type job,not rich,but always made my own way since i was 17.i'd give myself a 4 to 4.5 on looks scale..5-10,219 pounds...in the last 7 months i've lost 55 pounds,former weightlifter..not lifting now,just cutting fat..got to get to 200 to reach my secondary goal.
lost a good job of 9 years last oct.got a hard job and used it to cut the fat..ok heres the current issue...i've always been shy around the women,I grew up in the drug world,and as a teenager was heavy drinker-drug user..barely drink now,smoke a j once in a while,i think i've got my head on straight pretty much..lost all my social network in the last 10 years,starting over..its a good thing..
the problem is,i've learned,chronic one-itis...thank the gods i learned that term,if i get nothing else from this community,that word may have saved me...always been a total a.f.c...badly,studied history in college,medieval..so the whole chivalry thing,putting her on a pedestal is pretty deeply ingrained..im trying to burn that out...with the quality of the women i meet today,its working pretty well..lol
current issue..a girl i worked with,and the one-itis i have-or had for her,she quit but we are still in contact..text mainly..i hate texting but learned how to do it..she is 23..i'd give her a hb,oh 6.5-7 on my scale...i stupidly have been trying to contact her off and on and get the slightest responses...used to get more,now...crickets....so wtf,is it worth trying...it seems like very low ioi on her part..i hate being on the back burner but cant seem to stop trying..its the gotdamn one itis...how do i get rid of it?its like a pressure in my chest...no contact? forget it? next? i always been a one at a time guy..never spun more than 2 plates lol....my brain says forget it,im in the stupid pursue-flee mode...oh well,i think i answered my own question...
nice to meet you all,hope i can contribute..i dont think i can become a dj or pua,but i have set a goal of 10 women,thats what i want..to bang 10 new women..realistic?..that would about double my lifetime success so far...comments,ridicule,pile it on
i'm 39,single,never married...I work a blue collar type job,not rich,but always made my own way since i was 17.i'd give myself a 4 to 4.5 on looks scale..5-10,219 pounds...in the last 7 months i've lost 55 pounds,former weightlifter..not lifting now,just cutting fat..got to get to 200 to reach my secondary goal.
lost a good job of 9 years last oct.got a hard job and used it to cut the fat..ok heres the current issue...i've always been shy around the women,I grew up in the drug world,and as a teenager was heavy drinker-drug user..barely drink now,smoke a j once in a while,i think i've got my head on straight pretty much..lost all my social network in the last 10 years,starting over..its a good thing..
the problem is,i've learned,chronic one-itis...thank the gods i learned that term,if i get nothing else from this community,that word may have saved me...always been a total a.f.c...badly,studied history in college,medieval..so the whole chivalry thing,putting her on a pedestal is pretty deeply ingrained..im trying to burn that out...with the quality of the women i meet today,its working pretty well..lol
current issue..a girl i worked with,and the one-itis i have-or had for her,she quit but we are still in contact..text mainly..i hate texting but learned how to do it..she is 23..i'd give her a hb,oh 6.5-7 on my scale...i stupidly have been trying to contact her off and on and get the slightest responses...used to get more,now...crickets....so wtf,is it worth trying...it seems like very low ioi on her part..i hate being on the back burner but cant seem to stop trying..its the gotdamn one itis...how do i get rid of it?its like a pressure in my chest...no contact? forget it? next? i always been a one at a time guy..never spun more than 2 plates lol....my brain says forget it,im in the stupid pursue-flee mode...oh well,i think i answered my own question...
nice to meet you all,hope i can contribute..i dont think i can become a dj or pua,but i have set a goal of 10 women,thats what i want..to bang 10 new women..realistic?..that would about double my lifetime success so far...comments,ridicule,pile it on