hey guys..need sum help

[abs0lute77]

aiight...my girlfriend graduated highschool..shes goin to college and im going to be in my senior yr of highschool cause she's a year older than me.
basically..it's summer now and i was busy and alot and barely got to see her outside of school. after school she started to kinda grow apart from me.she was tellin me stories of how she was bummed out cause she could'nt go to a karate championship to see her friend david perform and also that she wanted to goto a club but her mom didnt let her (even tho i didnt want her to go) So i told her yesterday that im not gonna take her bull**** no more, and if she wants to cheat on me, dump me, or see another guy she better tell me now whats on her mind. She hung up on me and i call back atleast a 100 times..she never picked up

i left her mad messages tellin her that if she was tryin to tell me she dont want me without directly sayin it,tell me now.. and that if she dont call back i'll never talk to her again...still hasnt called back..been like two days...help what do i do..i want her back

 

[McKindley]

Just let her go man. She's about to go to college, and you're still in high school. Even if you CAN get her to still be your girl when she goes to college, she'll probably dump you after not too long. Because when you're in college and you have a long distance relationship with someone in high school, all your college friends make fun of you for it. Because its hella lame to still have your old high school boyfriend who's however many miles away.

Furthermore, she'll have lots of other dudes hitting on her that are a LOT closer (in proximity) than you are.

Its not worth the hassle. Unless you think you're going to marry this girl, cut her loose before she cuts you loose (but it looks like she's already done it, and you just haven't accepted it)

Also, why did you call her back a hundred times? If you call once and she doesn't pick up, you should get the hint. Don't chase her. That just pushes her away more.

No matter how bad you want to, don't call her again. Not even to leave some message that is meant to attain some sort of "closure."

Just forget about her.

 

[abs0lute77]

yeah thanks..i think that is the best thing to do..it pisses me off cause we did talk about marriage before..and also the college she goes to is in the same state...shes not goin outa town..but i can see ur point nonetheless...thing is ..i need help with the whole "forget her thingy"..dunno how lol..its hard

 

[McKindley]

The best way to get over an old girl is to get under a new one.

There's going to be a little time now where you think about her a lot and all that jazz. Miss her, really want to call her. But don't do it. Cause its done, man.

Work some overtime, and start doing some other stuff that'll occupy your time for a week or more. Then try to find another girl. Cause the longer you wait to find another one, the longer this one will linger in your mind.

 

[Kleft]

So i told her yesterday that im not gonna take her bull**** no more, and if she wants to cheat on me, dump me, or see another guy she better tell me now whats on her mind

WOW WOW WOW,

Dude, my sweet jesus you couldnt of made a worse mistake in the worse possible way.
Ok now lets see now...

So you say your not going to take her bull****, good stuff man, off to a good start but you really shouldnt have to say this to a woman, unless she is completely out of order. If you do want to convey this type of message dont say it so bluntly and aggressively.:cuss:

Next:

if she wants to cheat on me

NO NO NO :nono:

Welcome Mr Paranoia. Either youre seriously paranoid and need to relax or theres some missing information.
Sounds to me like she just wanted to see and support her friend as all friends do.
Also that she wanted to go somewhere and her mom wouldnt let her.
ALSO that you didnt want her to go. You have to be cool with things and chill out man. Sounds like shes being a bit suffocated here.
Her growing apart is probably your fault, youre letting the rope go slack by either becoming boring, predictable or too needy or the suffocating ****.

But thats not really the worst...
If...IF...SHE WANTS!!??? What the **** dude! IF SHE WANTS TO?. Jesus Christ thats giving her the right, right there to cheat on you, also showing massive insecurity.:nervous:

But not only that, you give her full permission and power to

dump you

Jesus christ, NO NO NO.
Now this would of been a good place to stop, sit in a corner and think of what youve done...but alas, more insecurity came as YOU GAVE her FULL PERMISSION and POWER to

see another guy

.
So you give her the power to cheat on you with someone who most likely doesnt exist.

And now alas, the bitter remorse and beautiful predictable human reaction to this situation:

help what do I do..I want her back

And after all this, you made a sin against the DJ BIBLE worthy to get yourself excommunicated, you:

called back at least a 100 times

Calling back once is bad enough but 100 times!!...AT LEAST 100 TIMES!!?:nono:

Then start leaving messages on her answer machine which probably confused and scared her, making you in her head some mad, paranoid freak.
Believe me Im speaking from experience her.

Alas, this girl has your balls locked safely away in a cave...never to be seen again.:nervous:

Dude Im going to agree with the other dudes in this one and just say...
Move On. I know its tough but its the best option.
Start over, learn from your mistakes and this experience will not be a failure.
Onwards and Upwards ok.

:rockon:

 

[gravstar]

I totally agree with this guy ^^^.
Your doing everything wrong mate. You presented signs of insecurity, desperation and giving her the power. I'd say its too late now, move on.

 

[abs0lute77]

well there was alot of missing info..but yeah i did **** up alot

guess what tho..she gave me a text message today tellin me "we're done..im sorry"...6 days before she told me she loved me...

i wasnt bein paranoid..i know when a girl is untruthful...she was seein sumone else

now..im ****ed up in the head..i cant get over this girl...help lol

 

[blinkwatt]

you should have just said "its over" so that way you could have the one-up on her by dumping her instead of vica versa.those college/high school relationships rarely work when someone leaves to somewhere not in driving distance.

 

[abs0lute77]

^ she is in drivin distance


yo like 90 percent of the girls i date..it turns out they're *****s...

so how can u dj's be so nice and **** to these girls..when theres a chance that they can screw u over?

i let my guard down witht is girl...took me a long time..i told her its gonna be hard to trust her..she said shes not like everyother girl and shes not gonna screw me over...well..she did...so who can i trust?

and also this breakup **** is hard...i never really got dumped by a girl..i usually was the one to do it..now i just cant stop myself from wantin her back..help me out

 

[abs0lute77]

i need help to think how u guys think durin a break up..please..any help would be greatly appreciated

 

[blinkwatt]

tell her you are not interested in a long distance relationship. if she is stone cold b**** she wont ask questions when you say "im breaking us up". if she doesnt just say you are not interested in a long distance one.

 

[NYC Dude]

The best advice for your current situation is to forget about it. She was a ***** and a slut, why do you feel bad about finally being rid of her? She was disloyal: never accept that in any woman. Your senior year is coming up, and you should be excited about all the possibilities that will await you then (I know I am, and I have a gf right now). Look at it this way: spend the summer doing whatever you have planned, vacation, work, whatever it is you'll be doing, and make your secondary summer goal to improve yourself. This has nothing to do with that ho that moved away to college, this is about you. Work out, read the articles on this forum, change yourself into something BETTER. Then, once your senior year starts, you'll spend it having a good time.

 

[UltimateScoundrel]

When you tell a girl that she can dump you, what are you saying about the way you feel about her?

Nothing good.

She probably thinks you want to break up.

 

[abs0lute77]

yeah well i'm pretty intelligent when findin out if a girl is playin me..and theres countless clues that are enough evidence to show that she is playin me with one of her exboyfriends that also she cheated on me once before with...

so wuteva...thanks for the replies..she is a *****..and i should forget bout it..and i will improve myself..thanks alot guys..special thanks to nycdude lol