Heres my situation at my work

[IamtheAlphamale]

Alright so theres this one girl who IS playing hard to get. I've asked her out tons of times but not for saterday night. Anyways This girl is mad quality and I would probably go out with her but her "Rules" **** is just too anoying. Lets call her girl #1

I am hooking up with another girl at my work and going for some drinks and play some pool tomorrow. This is girl number #2.

Girl #1 knows about girl #2 but nothing has actually happened yet. She got really jelious when girl #2 was bringing me plates of food and stuff to work.

Anyways I'm going to hook up with girl #2 for sexual type stuff but I think it is unlikely that I would accept her as a gf.

I told girl #1 that she is a distraction and not to talk to me anymore because I am focusing on her instead of what I should be doing. Basically getting oneitus b4 even going on a date with this girl and not actively trying to get ass because I was too confident that I would land girl#1. So she was slowing down my goals and I could not allow this to continue.

Anyways thats what I said to her last time I was at work. Now if I start banging girl #2, who I'm hoping gets fired and I think its pretty likely, I'm curious how likely is it that I could still get girl #1? I THINK what will happen if I hook up with girl #2 is that girl #1 will reduce how much she is using the "Rules" type of **** on me and hopefully start chasing me. I am trying to up the fear factor of losing me. This is not really a strategy it just happened like this. I believe strategy is a crutch so using it in the long run will weaken you.

I think me telling her not to talk to me anymore should show that I am seriously not wasting any more time on this chick. BTW I have been chasing girl #1 for a while.. like months and have probably in all asked her out about 15 times.

BTW I have my work on lockdown as the alpha male so my vibe is solid there. I am kind of a legend because I got caught ****ing this one chick in the parking lot about a year ago. I had been doing her like every break that whole summer. Girl #1 knows about that. Like that place is on SUPER lockdown. She is playing very hard to get because she is insecure about her ability to keep me. Girl #1 also would be the WORST poker player ever, her body language is SOO OBvious. Girl #2 is pretty cool but girl #1 is super cool, really the only thing wrong with her is that shes so into the chick strategy ****. Naturally SUPER faminine... like just rediculious. Strategy aside shes a quality chick and worth going for despite what some of you may say.

 

[bukowski_merit]

Stopping chasing girl #1; she's rejected you... she's rejected you 15 times! who cares how hot she is? that pvssy doesn't do anything more magical than the one girl #2 has.

yes yes we're talking girlfriends, and "super coolness" i know... ok...

i'm not telling you to give up on her... but please stop asking her out... she's in the habit of turning you down and still having you be cool with her - that's not a good habit for her to be in... if you get that date - that habit will carry over (believe me - if you got that date and got to take her out - she'd be the hardest lay of all time!)...

telling her you're not talking to her because she's wasting your time is not necessary. just pull back your attention and stop asking her out! you can't ignore her completely because you're in a work setting and that will be childish and AFCish. but she's rejected you 15 times! time to find out if those IOIs you're picking up mean anything (sometimes they lie)... by pulling back and not "chasing her" the real her should come out within a week (it would take longer if you didn't work together), within a week you should know where you stand with her.

getting caught banging a woman in a parking lot, isn't really great for building comfort with woman. it's very possible this woman thinks you're only trying to play her, and doesn't believe that you think she's so "super cool". you may have to game her different from the ones who like the "player" and "workplace pimp" persona... #1 probably has a guard up... if one of her rules is not dating guys from work - trust me - it means nothing!

for now - give your attention to the one who deserves it... #2... and see what happens with #1... if she shows signs of being annoyed with you pulling back attention - tease her about it; wait for her to hint to you that she's ready to be picked-up... if she doesn't - then she's really not that into you... and you can safely believe that... and you can then game her differently... (again if you didn't work together - i'd tell you to give up on her. but working with someone changes the # of chances you get. just for gods sake - stop asking her out and chasing her. pull it back. let her want.)

 

[tincanman99]

I think you should back off on #1. Be friendly but cool with her. And stop asking her out. Dont do it anymore. I would focus on #2 and just leave #1 to soak. Dont waste your time or energy on her no more.

And for pete's sake cut down on the sexual stuff at work. Dude, you realize in most companies its grounds for termination. Be careful. All you need is one of these women to say "sexual harassment" and you will be toast.

BTW, I cant see how getting caught banging some girl at the parking lot at work will promote you as a "stud" among the women. At best they will be thinking you are a total pig and are just after their as*. Thank of course they may like that.

Just be careful.

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

I actually have done stuff like that already. Generally if I stop talking to her for a few days she freaks out. She almost had a nervous breakdown like a week ago because of it. One time she yelled at me when I walked by "Why arn't you talking to me"

Like I said its been months. I haven't been doing anything AFC and girl #1 has super high IL. I always see her checking me out and stuff and when I catch her she always looks away.. one time she was right beside a wall and she turned her head and looked up the wall and I was like wow it could not be more obvious than that cause it looked retarded.

I've already done exactly what you said really. I don't even think that I did was AFC by telling her not to talk to me anymore.. in fact looking back at the way I did it should work well. She knows I'm hardcore about improving myself. She also knows it is not personal because thats how I am.

 

[bukowski_merit]

I actually have done stuff like that already. Generally if I stop talking to her for a few days she freaks out. She almost had a nervous breakdown like a week ago because of it. One time she yelled at me when I walked by "Why arn't you talking to me"

Like I said its been months. I haven't been doing anything AFC and girl #1 has super high IL. I always see her checking me out and stuff and when I catch her she always looks away.. one time she was right beside a wall and she turned her head and looked up the wall and I was like wow it could not be more obvious than that cause it looked retarded.

I've already done exactly what you said really. I don't even think that I did was AFC by telling her not to talk to me anymore.. in fact looking back at the way I did it should work well. She knows I'm hardcore about improving myself. She also knows it is not personal because thats how I am.

It's always a bad idea to tell a woman you're not talking to them because they're not giving you what you want (this shows them they're getting to you and you have a very high level of invested interest in them). It is AFCish; it comes off that way ("oh, this guy is letting me get to him and is losing his cool") you can come back and say "i don't lose my cool though", but that's irrelevant, we're talking about what "don't talk to me" is perceived as.

Under non-work settings - it's not a bad idea to ignore a woman (just don't tell her you're doing it). but under work settings - i'm telling you it comes off as childish. Instead just be real friendly with her, and drop the sexual nature as well as asking her to go on a date with you.

All her actions are saying is that she wants you attention back; they aren't saying she's madly falling for you. She's simply having fun with a guy at work. You need to build more comfort and convince her that you're not out for the sex. This isn't done with words; it's done by showing her you can keep cool and not supplicate.

if she had super high interest in you - she'd go on a date with you. i don't have to know her rules to know that... she may be attracted to you, but there's a barrier there... and that barrier is not going to come down unless you give her extreme levels of comfort and rapport...

the good news is that you can mess up plenty with someone you work with. and you probably also have a lot more time than a normal person.