Her level of interest/first date

[star69]

Hey i met a girl on Thursday night.

Basically i've seen her quite a few times over the past year but never really done anything. She always seemed to give me good eye contact so i always was always interested to see if anything could happen.

Anyway on thursday night i entered the club and went to the bar where i noticed this girl (laura) was standing a few people along from me. I noticed that she kept turning looking in my direction and i managed to hold eye contact with her for a bit. The same thing happened later in the night but i was talking with one of my mates girlfriends, Laura just kept looking over in my direction.

I was gonna make a move but we went into the club pretty late. The lights went up so i just walked up to her and her mate and asked them what they had planned for Sunday night?

They both replied with "nothing why". So i told them that my band are playing on Sunday if they want to come.

they both agreed to come and asked why "did i ask them, is it because we r special"?

To which i replied "maybe".

I left it at that but about 5 mins later laura walked past me... So i asked for her number just to make sure that she remembers about Sunday night. She gave me her number no problem.

Sunday came and she was sitting with her mate at the opposite side of teh stage from me. Inbetween the bands i went over and spoke to her briefly which was cool.

She stayed for my band but we were last on so i had to pack gear. By the timei finished she was gone.

I txt her today and said thnx for coming last night. she sad she's gald she came. I replied with "i'm pretty busy with exams and gigs for the next week but after that do u wanna go for a drink one night?"

She said yeah................

All is cool.

How long should i leave it before i call her/ txt her again??? Where should i take her? Should i have the night palnned. I aint too sure about sex on the first date but how do i not do this without looking like a wuss?

 

[Escude]

if yer busy with exams you need to get that out of the way before you think about this girl.. that's this week right?

i'd also not call her on the weekend.. many people would agree with me on this, so Sunday sounds like a good day. Call and just say let's go for a drink <x> day, at <x> time OK?

Don't worry about sex on 1st date, it usually happens to supremely confident DJ's only that know how to press the right buttons or with chicks that are hypersexual.. focus on having a good time and getting her interested enough so you can get a second date.

You need to go through the DJ Bible, its all explained.

 

[star69]

Cheers man for the advice.

I'm currently slogging my way through the bible.

So u don't think that she's expecting sex on the first night?

If goes really well though how do i close the date? i know she'll nedd to go for a bus or a taxi? Should i even envite her up to mine or walk her to teh bus stop/ taxi rank - kiss her good bye and arrange another date???????????

 

[Escude]

hehe.. its those famous gray areas that can't really be answered in one specific post in the DJ Bible or any book.

No, you have to gauge her interest and how well the date goes. You know this girl better than me, no heck i don't know this girl at all, so i can't give you a feel for what she might act like.

First of all, sex on the first date... how many times has this happened to you? If its happened before then more power to you because its never happened to me before and therefore you have experience that I can't give you there. But what I can tell you is, if you think too much about that it *will* show in your demeanor and behavior.. for example you might come across as nervous, or trying to push things.

Don't mention future dates on the current date you're on. I did this all the time with a girl and it worked when her interest in me was like really high but it doesn't help you.

Maybe say... i had a good time, maybe we can do this again sometime.

good luck let us know what happens

 

[star69]

I unintentionally bumped into her twice today?

First i was going into the library and saw her talking with some mates so i smiled and said "hi". The response was good as she seemed quite surprised and turned smiled and said "hi" back to me. I just kept walking as i wasn't expecting to meet her and wasn't i n a focused state of mind to hold a conversation with her!

Anyway after kicking myself for not talking to her i got a second chance and saw her in town.

I saw her coming out of the mall and i headed towards her as she proceeded to walk towards me.

I said hi and apologised for not speeking earlier.

We spoke about exams, plans for summer and i brought up if she still wanted to go out for a drink.

She said yeah.

We worked out when we are both free - so all is looking good.

Only one question though - Should i call her next week to see how her exams are getting on? Or should i leave it until we set up a date......

I doun't want to leave calling her too long.

 

[Escude]

you did alright.. you didn't have to stop and talk with her and her mates. in fact i think that was a good move for a variety of reasons.

you also don't need to apologize for not speakign to her before. its not like you hurt her feelings or anything.

so you set a date for the drink right? get that date set first. try and set it up not too far in advance otherwise you run risks of her changing plans although i can tell you if her interset in you is high enough she will divert plans around a date with you.

good, now just go and meet her that day. don't call again. if she shows up and doesn't flake great, she has interest in you and doing stuff with you. if she doesn't show then maybe give her another chance but rest assured you won't have to dump endless amounts of time and $$ at her.

from what you are writing sounds like this girl has interst in you so you are 'golden' right now meaning you have to kind of screw things up to not get that 1st date. Granted, it is very possible to screw up but don't worry about it you're doing fine.

Read in the Bible a couple articles by Pook forget which one... he talks about guys in his office who chat with a woman every chance they get and how it doesn't get them anywhere necessarily.

Take care and keep us updated.

 

[star69]

Well we aint actually made a date yet to meet up.

We just discussed when our exams finished.

She finishes her exams on Friday the 23rd and said she might go home for a few days... But she'd still be up for goin out when i called her.


So when should i call her?????????????????????????

 

[star69]

Anybody???????

 

[Escude]

Monday?

You're making this too hard on yourself. My instinct is she will be receptive to your calling based on what you told me. You talking anymore about this with her without setting an actual date and she's going to start getting amused or worse turned off.

Sunday or Tuesday are possibilites as well. If you do Sunday I'd do it at night. Did she give a clue how many days she's going to be out?

 

[star69]

No she just said that she might be home for a while?


I reakon i'll just leave it until next weekend i.e. a week 2morro and then call her probably on Sunday 25th at night (yes i've been reading the bible) cause i'm well busy next week with exams and my band are gigging next thursday and Saturday.

Cheers for replying mate