her comments..

[niceguy123]

well I finally told this girl that I like her and her comments were...

"ok, right now i'm just enjoying have a summer with my friends since i dunno if we'll really have very many chances for us to all be together.... and i don't really think i should get into anything since i am going to college soon... maybe we should just keep it like a co-worker/friendly thing.... sorry "

so do consider that a blow off type of comment or if weren't for college I might have had a chance?

 

[Quick]

Definitely a blow off.

 

[syemour]

sorry bro, you had no chance. if she had a slight interest in you she would have given you a date at least.

 

[OddTech]

Originally posted by niceguy123
well I finally told this girl that I like her...

Why did you tell her your feelings? Have you two dated before? You don't need to reveal your feelings. Just ask the girl on a date. But this one is over. Save yourself the energy and move on.

 

[TesuqueRed]

LJBF!

Accept that fact first.

Right now you're focusing on what she said. Focus on the fact that you were LJBF'd. After that, you can work back and see that whatever she said---and she could've said anything---is all aimed at LJBFing you. It doesn't matter what it was she said, it's only purpose is to LJBF you.

Anyway--did you notice the tone of voice she used when saying this? Did you notice how her manner changed? Did you notice any number of things--what I call the "atmospheric thing" -- something that you know or are aware of on a deep level (like when you just said the wrong thing -- and no one reacts, right? -- but you know you said the wrong thing and can't explain why) -- this will tell you a good deal more than what she actually said. You'll recognize this and similar feelings the next time you get LJBF'd, too.

Good to know.

 

[SLIKKER_THAN_AVG]

And, IMO, that college thing is all bullsh*t..just an excuse.

 

[niceguy123]

first off TesuqueRed, not trying to sound stupid,but what does LJBF stand for anyway?

anyhow maybe that college excuse is BS,unless maybe she's the type that doesn't want to start something then leave in a month and have some long distance thing.who knows

 

[TesuqueRed]

LJBF: "Let's Just Be Friends", which is a kiss of death delivered by women to AFC (and that is "Average Frustrated Chump", a.k.a. "wuss" or "nice guy" (who no woman even wants to give a mercy fvck to..), or --- you get the idea.)

Men can do the same to women. Think of the 4.0 chick that wants you but you just can't see it--and if she made a move on you, how would you handle it? By using some variation of a LJBF technique. You would say any variation of the following:
"I'm not really over this really serious relationship that just ended...";
"I'm not ready for anything serious yet...";
"Um, I don't see you that way, we're like really good friends..."
"I don't want to risk our friendship, because you're really important to me like no one else like that..."
"You know, it's not you, it's me..."
"You're really nice, and I'm crazy to not jump at a great guy like you, but, I dunno, maybe I'm fvcked up, but..."

Crudely and effectively put: LJBF means you don't get her wet.

And some guys can use LJBFing a girl to get her interested. She thinks she has to LJBF you to keep you in line, but you do a pre-emptive strike and tell her that YOU see HER as JUST a friend--which hits at her self-image as being desired. "What?" she thinks, "I am not desired? He sees me as his SISTER? That means I am not sexy??? I cannot accept that! I will seduce him!!! I will not accept LJBF!!!"