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this is alittle embarrasing. I usually don't have any problems with girls at all. I have a beautiful girlfriend going on 9 months now which so far the relationship has been very succesful. She isn't the problem. Recently I was at my friends house and he invited some girls over. Kinda a small party. Anyway this really wonderful girl i've known for about a year, who is kinda friends with my girlfriend, was coming on to me like you wouldn't believe so naturally I go ahead and pursue. We go into my friends room and we make out and have alittle foreplay session generally havin some fun. I thought it seemed like she liked it and she was really into me alot.

The next morning I drive her home, she puts her number in my cell, giving good vibes and everythings cool.

Next day I run into her and I'm with my girlfriend. My girl and I are really close. We are generally all over eachother. The girl I cheated with says one or two words to us and takes off barely making eye contact.

Couple days pass I call her to see whats up and she says shes on the phone with a friend. Okay, I say cool, talk to you later and hang up. politely of course.

Next day I instant message her, she makes very light conversation like she doesn't give a f*ck. We talk I asked what she did the other day she said she was at, (we'll call him GuitarMan)'s house, another friend of mine. Apparently they kissed who knows what else. I don't really care, i'm a bigger mack than *guitarman* and I know her and *guitarman* aern't gonna be dating or anything. After a couple minutes of obvious failure online I quit talking to her.

Now every once in a while I see her. It's only been about a week now since I got with her but now she barely acknowleges me.

Now I assume these are some reasons why she won't treat me like she did that night anymore.
A. She doesn't want me to cheat on my girlfriend
B. She likes someone else
C. She lost intrest (how? besides the two listed above)

Really i'm clueless. To tell you the truth it also could be that she's a loser. I don't really know her too well but she seems pretty smart and cool. all help is appreciated, if you have any questions feel free to ask.
 
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Uh... so what's the problem? You need to decide what you want for yourself.
 

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sorry, i accidently send it somehow before i finnished
 

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Next day I instant message her, she makes very light conversation like she doesn't give a f*ck. We talk I asked what she did the other day she said she was at, (we'll call him GuitarMan)'s house, another friend of mine. Apparently they kissed who knows what else. I don't really care, i'm a bigger mack than *guitarman* and I know her and *guitarman* aern't gonna be dating or anything. After a couple minutes of obvious failure online I quit talking to her.
Doesn't matter if you think you're a bigger "mack" than guitardude, she just nexted you.

Really i'm clueless. To tell you the truth it also could be that she's a loser.
Look dude it doesn't matter why, you should know by now how flaky women can be. Occom's razor dictates she was into you that night and got carried away, then had second thoughts the next day when she saw you with your g/f. She doesn't want to be with a cheater and she doesn't want to hurt her friend. I'm surprised she hasn't told your g/f about it already if they are friends.
 

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so naturally I go ahead and pursue
So cheating on your girlfriend of 9months with her "friend" comes naturally and you wonder why this girl has gone cold on you?
 

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Tick-tock, tick-tock, tick-tock.....You are sitting on a time bomb! The chick you "made-out" with will eventually tell your Gf. Or, she'll tell a mutual friend to both of them and the third girl will tell her. But she's going to find out.

If you feel the need to cheat on your girl then at least don't be a stupid idiot and cheat with some one who knows her! If you want to persue other girls, why don't you just break up with your Gf?
 

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Tick-tock, tick-tock, tick-tock.....You are sitting on a time bomb! The chick you "made-out" with will eventually tell your Gf. Or, she'll tell a mutual friend to both of them and the third girl will tell her. But she's going to find out.
-BULLSEYE!
 

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Dont you have a girlfriend? So why the **** are you thinking about what BITX x thinks about you??
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Originally posted by Jimbo

Really i'm clueless. To tell you the truth it also could be that she's a loser. I don't really know her too well but she seems pretty smart and cool. all help is appreciated, if you have any questions feel free to ask.
Actually, you're the loser for cheating on your GF for her.
 

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Wow. I don't know about other people here, but I really don't feel like giving a sh!t's worth of help to someone who starts out by telling us how wonderful his girlfriend is, then immediately proceeds to tell us a story about how he needs help figuring out a girl he cheated with at some party.
 

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Yeah man, why'd you cheat on her, she sounds like a pretty decent girl. Please don't tell me you did it just for the sake of it, or because the opportunity presented itself.

You gotta be more careful, some people will do sh*t for one reason only - to f*ck your life up. It doesn't make sense, I know, but I've encountered too many people that will do things like this just to stir the pot or stir up the hornet's nest., especially women, who love their drama.
 
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