Help...

[ricodragos]

Hi, im21y old, been with this girl 3years now. We had our ups and downs, we broke up and i did accepted her as roomate(stupid move? yea ok i know. bear with me) now living in the same house.
1 week fighting and ****, after that we f#ked and everything seemed ok ... we both agree not to be in a relationship...
In that time she wanted my attention, didn`t ask for it but now i know it, and i didnt gave her, treated her very bad.. as a **** buddy.... she was inviting me out, i refused, then the inevitble happen: she met a guy...
I confronted her about this but didnt get to much out of it .... Is this a cry for attention? is she recting like this becouse that guy is giving her attenion when im not? From what she told me that guy knows im her first and we are still living togheter ... and the chump still wants her(im guessing for sex or thats an AFC for sure)
I told her to leave, she said she would in half a month (her words: "i`ll pay another month and ill be gone at the half of it").The thing is i cant just kick her out ... i cant afford paying the full bills... and i kind of owe that to her mom....
I know she still loves me, cus the way she acts around me.... im not the jealous(only frustrated cus this dude acting all cool, like when i met her and f%king with her mind). I admit i treated her like crap... i just want another chance to prove to her that i can make her to want me again..

How should i act... helps?
Facts:
-i always been faithfull
-when we fight i didnt went to another girl
-she told me she is fine with me going to another... but is she?
-3 years relationship
-her first
-19y old,
-the chump is from her class...
-she agreed to stay with me after 15days of NC
-i slaped her .... she was crossing the line...

I know that i must act cool, and ok with it(even if im hurting inside) ... my question to you, donjuans, is how do i do this without reaveling it?
Going to *****s help? ... i cant date anyone just yet.. im not the kind to just go and talk with a girl...
Now she went out with him, i got frustrated and went berskerk and acting all hurted around the house, she saw me, i told her to just leave.. she did.
How can i turn this into my favor?
How can i mindf#ck her, making her regret her actions?

 

[Greasy Pig]

By improving yourself - physically, emotionally, financially - and picking up a hotter chick.

 

[ricodragos]

Yea, i know that much, how can i do that with her being next to me every night? sleeping with me in the same bed...
How u guys can ignore her phone conversation ... her laughter and her coming home late...
Im new to this town, dont have a lot of friends...
Btw ... im seeking private council, i dont wanna waste money on profesional counselor.

 

[marmel75]

Stop acting like you need her. Your a man, act like one.

 

[ricodragos]

Its fine if i let her know that i miss her?

 

[marmel75]

Its fine if i let her know that i miss her?

That is what women do bro. You are a man, the less you care, the better it is and the more likely this ends the way you want it. Act like you could care less.

 

[ricodragos]

She already saw me crying over her .. so to show her that i dont care is a lot harder now, isn`t it?

 

[Plutoman]

Gotta start somewhere. It's not going to help your situation any to start saying that stuff, no matter what your gut tells you. Don't reason through it based upon 'you already did this...'. That's just giving yourself an excuse. Man up about it, starting now.

 

[ricodragos]

Yea, great. I got one point straight, what about the other, can some1 explain to me wtf is going on with me,her,us? i usually know why people behave the way they are but im emotionaly involved in this and i cant figure it out by myself.
This is a great forum, with a lot of experienced guys ... so i ask someone to please spare some moments and enlighten me.

 

[VladPatton]

First and foremost, this relationship is toxic. There will be no rest for your mind until she is completely out of your life, that means not living the phuck together. Move back to your parents' house if you have to, kick her out and get another roommate until you save up money. Now's the time for radical change.

As for her, you need to abandon all hopes of ever getting back with her. The relationship failed previously and will fail in the future. Cut your losses, stop crying over whatever she does or tells you, and march on. You will read in many of these posts here: Indifference is your best friend.

This is for your protection. Stop caring. It's done. You gotta man up, bro, or this shyt will continue for years. Don't let her play with your head, it is NEVER worth it in the end.

Good luck.

 

[Kbomb]

She is no longer attracted to you. She feels nothing for you. This is the truth. You cannot, no matter what you do, get her back. You are young and it will be hard, but you will look back and understand.

You have to stop your childish ways. You are acting like a little boy who has lost his mother. You must begin to act like a man, who even alone knows his way in the world.

Suffer, and be in chaos. This is the first step on the journey to manhood.

 

[ricodragos]

Suffer, and be in chaos. This is the first step on the journey to manhood.

This sir, just made my day. Yes i am agree with what u and VladPatton are saying ... but im not looking for that atm, yes.. i will improve myself(financial first) so i can let her go ... but for the moment i just cant do that ...
My parent are dead, im living by myself from when i was 16.

Here`s the question in other words: How can i live with her for 1,5-2months without going nuts....
Is going to prostitutes helps?
Is asking random girls numbers and going on lousy dates helps?(i never done this, not a fan... but if more of you confirm that is a great way to not care about her i will do it).

 

[Kbomb]

This sir, just made my day. Yes i am agree with what u and VladPatton are saying ... but im not looking for that atm, yes.. i will improve myself(financial first) so i can let her go ... but for the moment i just cant do that ...
My parent are dead, im living by myself from when i was 16.

Here`s the question in other words: How can i live with her for 1,5-2months without going nuts....
Is going to prostitutes helps?
Is asking random girls numbers and going on lousy dates helps?(i never done this, not a fan... but if more of you confirm that is a great way to not care about her i will do it).

Prostitutes will not help. Going on lousy dates will not help.

Right now nothing will help. That is the point. You must go through it before the help will come.

I'm sorry about your parents and wish you good fortune.

 

[ricodragos]

Well so what are u saying, just let her do her thing, not asking for explanation, be myself around her and not give her reasons for fighting?

 

[yuppaz]

Your f*cked up. Your a kid so you get a little bit of a pass on that one. Just be a good person. You what..? wanted her to wait around and worship your c@ck but never give her a relationship while you look for other girls to make yourself feel mighty and in demand...f*ckin A kid. Let her move on, be a man about this. Let her sleep on the couch for the last little bit and act as if you were a mature person and start going on with your life. It didn't work out, that's ok! You will meet many other women in your life going forward, but if you don't cut that getting physically abusive with them I hope you don't. Start being a man today, right now instead of an egotistical little *****!

 

[ricodragos]

She wanted that ****, no emotion and **** ... she got emotional and got scared.
But u are right, i am the man, i shouldve think, not her.. Thank u hardass

 

[ricodragos]

Update:
She comes home late(went with that afc guy) asking me if i am okay, responded sure then went outside to buy one flower, gave it to her apologising for the way i treated her this couple of days, told her im okey with her decision and then i went with my rest of the day.
The wtfomglol part is that as i was prepearing my couch she told me i can come lie with her if i want to..... didnt ask any questions, all i wanted is a good night sleep after a stressful day... so i just went straight to sleep.
SO... wtf is this? After telling me that she wanted to move out regardless if i get kicked out of the apartment, telling me she really likes the dude, hated me for being a jerk to her.... She invites me next to her? Dafuq is this!?

 

[Purefilth]

its a woman - dont try to analyse or understand her words/actions - its too much effort. As a Man, you ACT and REACT. Leave the petty overanalysis of small actions and words to the women and AFC's of the world.

Have too much going on in your life to care.

 

[marmel75]

Update:
She comes home late(went with that afc guy) asking me if i am okay, responded sure then went outside to buy one flower, gave it to her apologising for the way i treated her this couple of days, told her im okey with her decision and then i went with my rest of the day.
The wtfomglol part is that as i was prepearing my couch she told me i can come lie with her if i want to..... didnt ask any questions, all i wanted is a good night sleep after a stressful day... so i just went straight to sleep.
SO... wtf is this? After telling me that she wanted to move out regardless if i get kicked out of the apartment, telling me she really likes the dude, hated me for being a jerk to her.... She invites me next to her? Dafuq is this!?

Her using you as her new play toy...Congrats. why the flower bro? You don't listen very well, do you?

 

[ricodragos]

Cus i was a **** and wanted to apologise.. Its a nice thing to do after u treat her like crap.
Im sorry for that, o showed her and now im in LC with her, curiosly though she declines going out with him tonight, dont care anyway, i found a new job, soon i will nicely kick her out.