help

[taporsnap17]

Im looking for some kinda advice/support.

Im your average high school kid who is a victim of circumstance. This is my senior year and due to some complications i was forced to move to a new school where I know nobody. For now i just walk around the halls by myself with no person I could really call friends, it seems when I try to start conversations with people they just shrug me off like im not even there. As for the girls, I feel like I can mack on them pretty well and have gotten a few numbers, but the fact that I have no friends really hurts my self confidence. I feel like if Im not cool enough to have friends then im not cool enough to have girls. I used to be a pretty laid back guy, but now I feel like I care about what everybody thinks about me at this new school. Anyone got any advice. It would be greatly appreciated.

 

[Slippery Sam]

i was in the same situation last year (im now a senior btw). unfortunately, most people in high school are the most narcissistic, selfish, people in the world. i'm sure there are exceptions but those people are losers anyway XD jk. some things that worked for me are body language. when people are 13-19 they are the most sensitive to other people, and this means they are the most picky. if you look creepy at all, nobody will like you, so try to have as good posture as you can. keep your chin up, and act like you are the center of your own world. the easiest way to meet people is probably in your classes. notice things that kids are wearing (like band t-shirts, or other **** that u can talk about) and just say, for example if its a band shirt, "nice shirt, have you ever seen them live?". also, keep your legs closed, people find it extremely creepy if someone they don't know is showin their junk to the rest of the world. i hope this helps i kno i ramble a lot and my grammar is ****, but hey, that's why im still in high school right?

 

[jeffthechef]

also, keep your legs closed, people find it extremely creepy if someone they don't know is showin their junk to the rest of the world.

???wtf

first, keeping your legs closed like a girl, if you're a guy, is rather feminine..
so at the very least keep them slightly opened, however much is comfortable

I'm rather tall...and my legs are long..so naturally mine are rather spread out..when i'm sitting for example...and i notice girls all the time looking at my legs...many of these girls, i didn't know at the time...and they would just stare..
might be the legs, or waht's inbetween

whatever the case, i really dont' understand this piece of advice...i never thought about it as showing my jukn to the world..and never knew anyone who thought of it this way..unless you're TRYING to draw attention to that area

can you explain a little more? thanks

and to the op, read the two posts in my signature..might help a little

 

[War Against Betaism]

I went through the same thing in my junior year, my high school life sucked; full of agony and anxiety begging for friends who would go up to me and care for a stranger that they know nothing about. Unless the stars are aligned for you, don't expect to become the top dog at the school any time soon. However, people when they're in high school don't realize it, but it's pretty easy to make friends. In fact it's really easy. There's just one big problem that all high school kids suffer...little conversation skills.

The most common problem people have in high school is that most of us grow up to be socially awkward and high school is our way to developing our social skills. More than body language, inner game, not being a wuss, manipulation and persuasion, the biggest trouble that high school kids have is creating a half decent conversation. This is something that is never or poorly covered in almost all seduction books and it is perhaps the most vital in high school life. Even though I'm a 3rd year college student I still hang out with high school kids but if there's one strikingly huge difference between high school kids and college kids, it is the massive and varying levels of social skills between the two groups.

All high school kids are quick to pour out their feelings to people they just met 2 or 3 days ago thinking that their cry of help is a way of getting close to someone. That's not having a conversation, that's being clingy to the first human being that you feel close with. There's a book that I always recommend to everyone and it's called "How To Make Great Conversation And Small Talk" by Sean McPheat. Most kids can only have a conversation with someone that shares similar interests, like two people talking about basketball, cars, the homework last night, etc. This book taught me how to have a conversation with ANYONE even if we have polar opposite interests. It is absolutely gold and it'll help you develop social skills of the leader of a college fraternity organization.

 

[Slippery Sam]

ok, i am by no means saying cross your legs or bring them together so that they are touching. you are right, that is feminine. i am saying that if your legs are spread eagle, also like a girl, and your feet are pointed out, that just looks creepy. i tend to keep my legs a little wider than shoulder length apart, with my feet pointed forward. this conveys that you are comfortable taking up space and are not desperate for attention.