Help with this situation...

[Hyper2010]

Okay, heres the situation...

Had a major bust-up argument with GF 10 days ago. Been ever so AFC since then, been calling, texting, round to her house 4 times and practically begged her to get back with me.

However, she is the type of girl who puts everything to the back of her mind and shuns her emotions. I think this, as she took 2 years to get over her old BF who is her only other serious BF ever. Since then she has been used, abused and tossed aside by guys from POF. Therefore I am positive the love/emotions she feels are still inside her. I know this for a fact.

The other night for example she admitted to missing me, 'but she was not going to change her mind' and as I was holding her/stroking her hair, she held my hand gentley for a few seconds then said 'no we cant'.

My question is, up to now she has been pulling away, I feel because I have been chasing her. What do you think are the chances of NC working are??

Bearing in mind she lives a literal 5 minutes from me, and has to pass my house to go to and from college she has a constant reminder of me. If I cut off all comms, would she suddenly miss me? Especially as she will sudenly realise how hard it is to be appreciated by other guys?

Phil

 

[balance33]

You are letting this girl play you. This is over. You likely will never get her back, but if you do, it will only be after a period of strict no contact. You have turned into a beta b!tch, stroking her hair and listening to her problems while she s'ex starves you. She gives what you think is an IOI by grabbing your hand and then saying "no, we can't," and that's enough to drive you crazy. Really she is just stringing you along and ego-masturb'ating while she is watching how pathetic she can make you.

Go NC. Months from now, you will be proud of this and it will increase your self respect. Or, keep breaking NC if you want to be this girl's whipped groveling gay friend.

 

[VladPatton]

Think about yourself as well. Why would you continue to chase someone who effectively doesn't want you anymore? You gotta flip the internal switch inside you that detaches you from her. There is no other way but to leave her be and cut all losses. I wouldn't even recommend rekindling the relationship because it gives her unbalanced power just because she took you back.

Time to move on. At all costs.

 

[Cremasta]

No! Just, no!

Guys go "no contact" for lots of reasons, but it is really just a trick for us to use until we get in the right mindset.
Unfortunately, you're looking to go NC because you hope it will get her to come back to you. It seems pretty clear that she is done with you and you have no hope.

Go NC by all means, but don't do it because you hope she'll start to miss you and come back. Do it because it will get her out of sight out of mind and you'll soon start to realise that you can do better.

Go out, get busy and do other things. In a few months time you'll realise that you don't miss her or need her anymore... trust me, in that moment you will feel awesome!

Good luck.