help with SUPER FAST ADVICE ? ? ??

[laskoe]

I Got invited out by this chick I know and recently we have been shaky ,
If i accept her offer it will make me look eager then she will make it as if i want her bad and she will turn the tables.

I havent called back and accepted yet, but What Should be said to her that will let her know that i will go but couldn't care any less, and that will let Her Know That She "INVITED ME " . . . . . .

Sounds very complex but it could be a great chance to use advanced DJ skills.


will post any results on advice that is usable, Thanx

 

[MDgood]

Go for it... you two can't be so "shaky" if she just invited you someplace. I say there's a strong chance she's probably looking to patch things up/move forward with you.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

yea. if she invited you, then you are in total control of the situation. You decide whether you wanna go. Just go out, have fun and try some newly accquired skills on her

 

[laskoe]

i want to have some good ammo. . when i get on the phone .

what i say to her when i accept is important , realy dont want to give her a plain yes, mabye throw in some C&F


any one have some idas for accepting her offer in a jerky way or CF way ? ? thanx

 

[Bungo Pony]

As I've said before, the phone is the worst place to use your DJ skills. All she hears is your voice, and that's about it. You can't be C&F by writing a script, you have to practice in real life, and it will come naturally to you. You have to learn how to incorporate it into your conversations rather than throw statements at her.

Just tell her that you're cool with going, and work on her when you see her in person. If you worry about impressing her over the phone, her IL is going to drop. It sounds like she already has a high IL in you. You've got nothing to worry about.

 

[laskoe]

Originally posted by Bungo Pony


Just tell her that you're cool with going, and work on her when you see her in person.

That is reasonable , thanx

 

[laskoe]

I ended up telling her that " i cant go im getting a suprize visit " she nearly begged me to go , she was like " are you sure you cant go " , and other things.

we are going to go out some time this week when ever i want, i just did what came naturaly. and it worked

 

[xblitz44x]

laskoe,

You are an ass. You overcomplicated things to the point where YOU fvcked up your own sarge. Congrats on cancelling a date. I hope you feel more powerful about that. You thought you were shakey before? Well NOW you've declined her offer because you were not confident enough in yourself to think she could want to go out with you and be with you - without you playing some stupid head game first. Good work.

-Blitz

 

[Oscar Wilde]

lol, nice one blitz, you took the words right outta my mouth.

 

[Quick]

Originally posted by xblitz44x
laskoe,

You are an ass. You overcomplicated things to the point where YOU fvcked up your own sarge. Congrats on cancelling a date. I hope you feel more powerful about that. You thought you were shakey before? Well NOW you've declined her offer because you were not confident enough in yourself to think she could want to go out with you and be with you - without you playing some stupid head game first. Good work.

-Blitz

I third this comment. It's what I was thinking, but i get tired of telling people they're idiots all day long. When a girl is asking you out, ACCEPT! That's the point in the first place, remember?

 

[Bungo Pony]

This is exactly what happens when you take the DJ stuff too far. You tried being too much of a challenge. I did this in my early days as well.

I think the best way for challenge to fit in is when you're using social proof. Challenge works best when you use it to initially attract women, not after you've attracted them.

As far as getting a date, it's best to secure a date ASAP. Your chances go WAY up if you don't fvck around with phone and date games.

 

[laskoe]

Im far From a begginer in his early days !

. . . as you can see i have a senior DJ title,

anyways i haven't posted here in such a long time , wanted to get some i deas going . . . .

i realy had a suprise visit , i got a phone call, right before i called her. i din't play a head game. but i showed her that i dint need her , i wasnt rude , and im confident in my natural dj skills .

you guys just havent completely shed your NICE/NEEDY SIDES !!
I am far from a jerk though , it was a time for her to miss me ,



i basicaly told her i will take her out and it will be great, Just not today" ( i GOT THE POWER ), i would have gone out with her but i do have other intrest in my life ,

. .also i call her a just " chick that i know " so you dont focus on her. . . but we are in a ltr and the affects of a mature realtion ship are setting in . . . .we have been out 50 thousand times and all of those great things that happen in a ltr. its not like she is a brand new girl i have been with this chick for nearly 3 yrs and saw a much more advanced strategy needed,

the main point is, this went very well, it will become a personal classic

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Wow, you just took the honours for most pointless post of the day! The others will be disappointed! Congratulations!

 

[laskoe]

oscar ,
for your own good man just listen . . . . . . .

1 ) you have way more total post than me !!

2) you have only been her like about a month ,( i think you just like guys)

3) What do u know about 9-10 chicks and ltrs !! U dont so
Shut**UP @#

4) jealousy can get you no where !! , my post are not any more pointless than you being DJ "
(you post with 99.9% of your free time you could use some AIR )

 

[xblitz44x]

". . . as you can see i have a senior DJ title"

Obviously, the title under your name doesn't mean a thing. Just out of curiousity, how old are you?

"and im confident in my natural dj skills"

That's the problem. You're confident in rules, and tricks. Not in yourself. That's going to fvck up your sarges, like in this case.

"you guys just haven completely shed your NICE/NEEDY SIDES !!

WE, need to shed our needy sides? Think about it. You went and declined a date with her...after SHE offered because you were so worried that she would be in control, and thus you'd not be attractive to her. You were so worried about what she thinks of you that you felt you had to cancel a date with her in order to gain control. YOU were needy. You needed her approval, and to be attractive to her, in order to feel powerful yourself.

Anyway, I'm glad it worked for you. What you're not seeing is, it would have worked for you anyway. And the next time you try this, and it blows up in your face you're going to think that it's because a chick didn't like you, when in reality its just that she saw right through you.

-Blitz

 

[laskoe]

Originally posted by xblitz44x


Anyway, I'm glad it worked for you. What you're not seeing is, it would have worked for you anyway. And the next time you try this, and it blows up in your face you're going to think that it's because a chick didn't like you, when in reality its just that she saw right through you.

-Blitz

I Realy Had a surpize visit , i would have gone out to see her, \
i realy took the whole situation natural . i can get girls all day long , not a problem ,thanks to nature and so suave. com" but keeping them some times require strategy and not getting all weak.

any way you are right , completely !!

Ltrs are complicated Though thats why i like them

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Nice try with the patronising there. For my own good I don't think I'll take any of your advice.

1) Yes, I have more posts than you, possibly because I like to contribute to the site.

2) Yes, I only registered recently, and obviously that means that I am gay - how right you are.

3) Wow, interesting leap of logic there maestro... keep on tokin'

4) Jealous? lol, thanks, that certainly was entertaining.

Sincere apologies, but the reply doesn't cut it: your original post still holds title of most pointless of the day.

Finally, it offends me, as a scholar of the written word, to see such mutilation of grammar. Any chance you could learn where the shift key is? Cheers.

Oscar.

 

[laskoe]

ok , ok , . . . . . so what !

I use the forum just like everyone else , to get some advice or get some ideas to think about.

So every post you dont specifically like, becomes pointless (in your own little mind/world) ?

 

[Dee-Zy]

I'd turn her down and THEN ask her out/invite whatever it is.

Just so she UNDERSTANDS who does the asking and WHO takes charge around here.

Plus I'm sure that would crack a smile on her face.