Help with Sex Plate Gone Cold

[LMFAO]

Have a plate I had sex with a couple of weeks ago. We weren't able to meet this week as we were both busy. So I invited her out next week. I've been talking to her on the phone a couple of nights and she sounds quite hot for me but who knows.

Asked her when she's free in the next week. She said she's busy all nights but free on Saturday afternoon. I say OK cool let's do it then. Then she sent me messages asking what we're doing then. I told her ice cream and sex in that order jokingly. She asked if there's no cake with a wink. I told her I guess not lol. Then for whatever reason she turned serious and says she just wants to eat cake and maybe she should find someone else. I told her that she's perhaps confusing valentine's day with pancake day. She says "haha you could be right. In which case I should find someone else who wants the same thing as me. Plus I am a girl who gets attached... and doesn't that scare you sh*tless? lol".

How do I respond to this retard? Or should I just go cold.

 

[El Payaso]

You've asked her out so stop talking to her. The more you talk or text, the more likely you are to f*ck things up. Just leave it at her acceptance or rejection.

Stop making small talk. The less you talk, the better. Leave all the talking for when you guys are face to face or after you've finished pounding the sh!t out of her.

 

[Bingo-Player]

you usually come up with good one liners and witty material but i think you've taken it a bit too far here

Asked her when she's free in the next week. She said she's busy all nights but free on Saturday afternoon. I say OK cool let's do it then. Then she sent me messages asking what we're doing then. I told her ice cream and sex in that order jokingly. She asked if there's no cake with a wink. I told her I guess not lol. Then for whatever reason she turned serious and says she just wants to eat cake and maybe she should find someone else. I told her that she's perhaps confusing valentine's day with pancake day. She says "haha you could be right. In which case I should find someone else who wants the same thing as me. Plus I am a girl who gets attached... and doesn't that scare you sh*tless? lol".

that was way to direct for a chick that isn't your GF

it screams to women " I AM USING YOU FOR SEX"

and with valentines on the horizon all chicks have "users" on they're anti slvt radar

"she asked if theres cake"

these are standard tactics for chicks who want to know what your really after

you have literally played yourself right into her game

begin no contact immediately

il put 5 grand down she contacts you before saturday

 

[LMFAO]

Yes you are right I was a too forward in this instance. I'm not looking at her as a potential girlfriend and showed it a bit too much.

I came up with a response to claw it back.

"I'm a guy who gets attached.. hope you won't use me just for the sex and run away".

She replied "Haha good comeback. I'm totally too drunk for this conversation".

Will go NC and leave it with her. She'll no doubt start again tomorrow with more **** testing.

 

[Bingo-Player]

it was pretty good but I'm not sure how much it was needed

you gotta make sure you don't take the bait this week if you can resist contacting her or even getting drawn into conversations you should be set for some tail on the weekend

 

[LuckyStrike88]

I think she does actually like you but is just testing you. Just be cool and have fun with her and i think you got her in the bag, no need for NC. You got bold so you should have expected something back like this. Just gotta be able to stand behind what you say and trump her responses, looks like you are already doing that well enough though her tests made you question that a bit and that's what she was trying to do. If you base your actions like nc on her hard tests she will know that she got to you. Stay strong.

 

[LMFAO]

Well to update on this, yes she was clearly just testing me.

Took her out for lunch on Valentine's day. She said she was free for most of the day but I cut it short after two hours and told her I'm busy. Of course that did work out perfectly. I got a text message that night saying how her friends think I'm perfect for her "not that you'd care anyway".

Went out to dinner with her a 5 days later and then ended back at her place and banged her twice over the course of 4 hours, including anal which she seems to love.

I'm now bored of her and planning just to go ghost

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I've been talking to her on the phone a couple of nights

You know better than to do this, I know you do.

What you talking on the phone for? You know the rules about e-communication, especially with chicks you hardly know. Keep it minimal, and with view to making face-face arrangements. That is all.

Lastly, there are very few instances where a chick is too busy for a whole week to see you. She does sound interested, but it's too early to analyse her intentions. Enjoy the experience and keep spinning.

 

[Zarky]

She was testing your commitment. You knuckled under by taking her out and not pushing sex, which is a temporary "pass" but will lead to further commitment demands.

It's not a "sh*t test" per se. It's a commitment test. Sadly they're given when the girl isn't all that into you sexually. When girls are really into you, they don't give commitment tests because the fear of losing you outweighs the fear that you're only looking for sex.

Once they don't fear losing you as much as they fear further sexual investment in you (without your financial investment in return), they'll give you a commitment test (or a few).

If you "pass" by showing commitment, then congrats you're now a step closer to marriage.

If you "fail" by showing interest only in sex, then congrats because she either dumps you permanently or chickens out and returns to f*ck buddy status (for awhile).

Unfortunately, when a girl gives you a commitment test, it's basically a sign that the only way you'll keep her is to pay up, in time, money and effort. At that point you've already kind of lost the game.

 

[LMFAO]

I think you're right it was a commitment test of sorts. I think I still could have had sex with her that day. She said she still had 7 hours free after lunch. I had other plans for the evening and just told her I have other things to do and left. We did also split the lunch bill which was OK.

I get the feeling from her that she is into money. I'm an accountant and so is her brother. She asked me maybe half jokingly on a previous date if I'm happy to share my earnings unlike her brother. She said she's only starting out in her job but I must be earning a lot. I just put all that to the side and had sex with her that day but it certainly feels like she's trying to put me into the provider role and is using sex as the carrot, even though she seems to be really into it and gets very wet.

I've become bored of her now anyway so I'm not too bothered.

I've been having a hard time with money obsessed girls of late. Another sex plate (who lives in another part of Europe) asked me last week if I'll pay for her flights so she can visit me. I laughed at her but internally I was a bit shocked by her request. I'm not contacting her again.