Help with rediscovering game.

Samception

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Just some background info; about a month ago I had a really, really, really nasty break-up with a girl (she was a BPD) and I came here to try "rediscover" my game and get my confidence back after a few AFC mistakes. Namely I came across too desperate with some girls that I have managed to get numbers off of, but didn't even know I was doing it until spending some hours on DJ. I messed up bad with a girl I met through work, text her too much after getting her number though FB and really turned her off me. Pretty sure I was boring as fk for her to talk too, wasted too much time on small talk even though she seemed really nice. I went NC and she didn't make any effort at all so the way i see it i was nexted.

However, a woman came into work last week who my family knows (is a family owned business) and set me up with her daughter. I gave the woman my number to pass on and she did and was totally surprised that that night her daughter texts me. We exchange small talk, I put to use some things I've learnt and manage to convince her to go out with me some time. Her replies start to get smaller so I stop txting, then she texts me late the next night saying her moms buggin her about when we're gonna go out so i set it up for sat night (which I know is not ideal according to some) and go to a movie (wanted too do something funner but just ended up that way). We got along well, plenty of kino at the movie and she was leaning on my shoulder and holding my hand by the end. We drive home, she grabs my hand in the car then I park at her house and offer to walk her in. She says no, all good, then we make out for 2hrs amidst some good conversation. She was getting real into it, invited me in subtly but because I had work in 5 hours, knew her mother (who was home), and was tired as fk from the night before (which I spent with a girl from high school) I just said I had to work and she could tell I was tired. I thought this would be good, make her want me more etc.

It didn't seem to bother her at all, we kept making out then eventually she says she'd better go so i can go to bed. It takes her forever to get out the car, she says she had a really nice time and i asked if she'd want too see me again and she said yeah. Then, imo I go totally AFC. I tell her to text me the next day, she says you can text me. I do that, early evening and she seemed fairly different like she wasn't as interested or something. I said thanks for a good night she says the same and I leave it at that. Two days on I haven't heard from her at all, and am starting to think if I fuxked it up, if she's waiting for me to ask her out again or if she's just playing games or whatever. Do I just text her and ask to set up another date, or wait for her to come to me or what?
 

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She definitely was DTF and she might think you don't know what your doing. Its blueballs to a girl if she throws you signs and you fail to escalate. That being said, call her to go out, do not text. be authoritative but flexible.
 

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Samception said:
Two days on I haven't heard from her at all, and am starting to think if I fuxked it up, if she's waiting for me to ask her out again or if she's just playing games or whatever. Do I just text her and ask to set up another date, or wait for her to come to me or what?
Well, one thing you gotta do is - get out of "girlfriend mode"

This is just some girl you went on a date with. Not a girlfriend. She doesn't need to be in contact with you every day. In fact, she shouldn't be. It would be boring if she were.

Call/text, set up another date, and see if she responds favorably. That's the only way of knowing.

And yeah, I'm not a big fan of turning down offers of sex from girls. I'm not saying you should be a slave to your d!ck or whatever, but I've had bad luck on the few times I rejected blatantly obvious offers of sex from women. Rarely ever works out well.
 

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Asked her if she had plans across the weekend, tried to keep it short etc and lead it into asking her out again and she said she had work all weekend and two other social events to attend too. Unless she comes back with an attempt to reschedule pretty content with nexting this girl.

The whole "girlfriend mode" thing is something I think I'm struggling getting out of. Thought the initial date went pretty well, but I don't know how to reconfigure myself for sex with people I don't know that well. Even though I've had sex since my ex, it's been pretty awkward at times and I know for a fact it's no where near my best effort. I think I worry too much about what they think etc which doesn't go well with my persona which I've been told by countless people radiates a lot of confidence.

I guess what I'm trying to say is how do I bring my social confidence into the bedroom?
 
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