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Tidus_V

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My parents have met the girl I like and they don't like her. what do I do? her family likes me, but my family doesn't like her.
 

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Originally posted by Tidus_V
My parents have met the girl I like and they don't like her. what do I do? her family likes me, but my family doesn't like her.
They just met her; give it time. She will grow on them.
One day she will do something to earn respect in your parents' eyes. You're overreacting to quickly...

And you're only 16, parental consent with your girlfriend is not crucial. But, nonetheless, give it more time and things will work out.

Do not push it upon your parents. It WILL work out.
 

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It happens. My parents never really liked my ex. Parents have this instinct sometimes about girls. Trust it. Besides, you're only 16, you have many more girls ahead of you, one's bound to be one your parents will like. :)
 

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You know, I've noticed that all the girls I brought home that my parents' did NOT like turned out to be the girls I regret dating in the first place.

They were horrible people. My parents' detected it before I did; give your parents a bit more credit. They do love you, and they do have more experience in everything than you, or even me. So listen to them; but your action is your own decision. But, listen.
 

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You know, I've noticed that all the girls I brought home that my parents' did NOT like turned out to be the girls I regret dating in the first place.

They were horrible people. My parents' detected it before I did; give your parents a bit more credit. They do love you, and they do have more experience in everything than you, or even me. So listen to them; but your actions are your own decision. But, listen. They may have a valid point.
 

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okay. so just give it time? yea. I know I'm only 16 but still, I like her. I don't think I'm going to leave her just because my parents don't like her.
 

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Nothing you can really do. Like previous posters said, parents are usually right about these types of things. But that alone isnt a reason to next her.
 

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I'll go with the analogy of Red Flags. Everyone has a piece of personality that raises a Red Flag. I need not explain what a Red Flag is. When parents don't like her, it's either because:

1. There are multiple flaws within her
2. Your parents are on crack
3. You didn't see the obvisous
4. She did something.

Since it's rarely (if at all) #2, it's 1, 3 or 4. Usually, it'll be 1, followed by 3.

It's something to understand and remember. Definitely not a reason to next her, but you should understand how this works.
 

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Tell them straight up they better put up with her and be polite or life is gonna get a lot more difficult for them.
 

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Originally posted by splinterkb
Tell them straight up they better put up with her and be polite or life is gonna get a lot more difficult for them.
Uh, no...
 
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the girl is a total stranger that you've met for a few days

your parents are people who took care of 16 years, fed you, blah blah blah

think about it
 

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Reposted.

I'll go with the analogy of Red Flags. Everyone has a piece of personality that raises a Red Flag. I need not explain what a Red Flag is. When parents don't like her, it's either because:

1. There are multiple flaws within her
2. Your parents are on crack
3. You didn't see the obvisous
4. She did something.

Since it's rarely (if at all) #2, it's 1, 3 or 4. Usually, it'll be 1, followed by 3.

It's something to understand and remember. Definitely not a reason to next her, but you should understand how this works.

To add, this is a little list of red flags. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30558
 

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Originally posted by Docs
Reposted.

I'll go with the analogy of Red Flags. Everyone has a piece of personality that raises a Red Flag. I need not explain what a Red Flag is. When parents don't like her, it's either because:

1. There are multiple flaws within her
2. Your parents are on crack
3. You didn't see the obvisous
4. She did something.

Since it's rarely (if at all) #2, it's 1, 3 or 4. Usually, it'll be 1, followed by 3.

It's something to understand and remember. Definitely not a reason to next her, but you should understand how this works.

To add, this is a little list of red flags. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30558
Awesome list!
 
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